A few times in everyone’s life a little “friend cleaning” needs to be done. A few weeks ago I was watching Joel Osteen and the message of the morning was entitled “Redeem the Time” and the scripture came from the book of Ephesians 5: 15-17. Of course like any God loving mother, my mom handed me a notebook and pen and told me to take notes. So here is what I collected from mister Osteen:
-Be an on purpose person – Be focused
-Every day ask yourself, “Did I live a well spent day? Or did I waste my time?”
-Disappointments are inevitable and misery is optional
-When you walk with wise men, you become wise.
-You can’t hang out with chickens and expect to soar like an eagle
-Reevaluate your friendships.
Now at a glance most of these notes do not look like they have anything to do directly with evaluating your friendships. But if you really think about it, it is all about being the best you that God wants you to be. Using your time wisely to reach the heights he planned for your life way before you were born. Sometime this means you have to sit down and look at the people in your life. As yourself, “What does this person contribute to my life? Do we have the same goals to the point that we push each other to be better? Am I growing from this relationship, or am I being hindered?” Once you answer these questions, you can decide if you still want that person to be in your life. Joel Osteen put it this way, “Some people are like scaffolding. They need to go away when the project is done. Its scriptural to show them the door!”
So every now and then, sit down and reevaluate the people in your life. Are they helping you get to your goal? Are you learning something from them? Do however keep in mind that God may want this person you want to leave stay in your life, because you haven’t learned everything you are supposed to from this relationship. Accept that fact and keep it moving, some people are like leeches and hold on, and some are like scabs that will eventually fall off. Just remember two things: You can’t hang with chickens and expect to soar like an eagle, and its scriptural to show people the door!
Peace, Love and Harmony,