Hey Ladies & Co, My fiancé’s mom absolutely hates me!!! How do I handle being with someone who’s mother hates me? Any advice? I don’t think I’ve done anything wrong, and with my fiance being a undercover momma’s boy – Their relationship is very strong, and I would never try and come between that however. I want to be accepted too. How can I try and improve the relationship with her? – Dying to be accepted.
Dear Dying To Be Accepted, First, congrats on your engagement!! Now on to the advice! It is important to remember that you are not marrying his momma, you are marrying that young man. Sometimes mothers don’t think anyone is good enough for their sons but as long as you know that you are making her son happy and treating him how he should be treated (and visa versa) – I wouldn’t worry about it too much. The best way to handle it in my opinion is to “kill her with kindness.” Even when she is being outright mean to you, ignore that behavior and be nice. It’ll probably annoy her at first, but then she should come around eventually. To improve the relationship, maybe invite her over for dinner and play cards, or go see a movie or even have a girls night just you and her! Just remember relationships are a two-way street, and you can’t force someone on the street if they aren’t trying to be on it. But like I said before, you are marrying that gentleman, not his mother. Continue to do you, and be happy. The rest will fall in place as it should.
Keep It Classy,