Over the last week, I stood up for myself – for the first time in a very long time – against somebody I considered a good friend. I’ve grown so accustomed to just letting people walk all over me and continually being the bigger person. But as much as I think that kindness will take you far, there are some people who will abuse your kindness. I don’t say that to be discouraging or negative, but rather just so you can be aware of it. I’m by no means saying that you should stop being the kind, big-hearted person that you are, but I am saying that you should consider yourself first. Is this person causing more harm than good in my life? If not, cut them off. Am I happy most of the time around this person? If not, dissolve the friendship. Especially if they don’t even care to see why you’ve stopped communicating. You deserve to surround yourself with people who are going to fill you up emotionally with encouragement and happiness, not people who constantly bring you down.
Despite all of the heartbreak I’ve experienced (romantic and otherwise), my feelings being trampled, people who I like or love treating me worse than a stranger, I’m still going to be kind, still going to love people hard, still going to treat everyone in the best possible manner, BUT there’s going to be a hard limit (So that I am not continually getting my feelings hurt). I shouldn’t continue to put up with unkind people. So I won’t. And neither should you, especially if you know you are being the kindest person ever to them. Standing up for myself was the hardest thing, yet the most liberating thing I’ve ever done. (Even after seeking reassurance from my mom that I wasn’t just overreacting about the situation.) the more I stand up for myself and my feelings, the stronger I will become.
What are some ways that you stand up for yourself? Share below in the comments!