This month’s man crush is none other than Jabril!!! Just a little back story, Jabril is my Hampton U Big Bro and was VERY influential in me coming to Hampton. He convinced not only me that I needed to be at that great university, but also convinced my mother (who is not easily won over…). Jabril is a 26-year-old from Los Angeles, California, he’s single. He is a sociable, kind-hearted gentleman who loves sports, movies, reading, video games, and a big cup of Chick-fil-a lemonade. He is the son of two incredible parents who have molded him, transformed him, and given him the strength to endure the most impossible situations. He is also a friend, a mentor, a mentee, and a cultivator of great experiences. He currently works with an outpatient mental health agency as a Therapeutic Behavioral Services Coach. He works with young children in helping them develop tools to better increase the youth’s social and community competencies by building and/or reinforcing daily living skills that will assist the youth in living successfully at home and in the community. In addition to that, he is a full-time graduate student at The University of Southern California obtaining his Master’s Degree in Social Work. He believes that everyone deserves an experience that exceeds their expectation, he believes in going the extra mile, and he believes in fostering a team atmosphere.
How would you describe your personality in three words?
sociable, driven, caring
Which do you prefer to listen to your heart or your brain? Why?
I tend to listen to my heart. I trust my brain, but when I follow my gut instinct I typically end up making a choice that I am confident in.
Who is your celebrity crush?
Who do you think should make the first move males or females? Why?
Typically I do believe the man should be the one to take initiative and make the first move. But I also believe that there’s nothing wrong with a woman shooting her shot! The few times that I’ve had a woman approach me and make the first move, I found the confidence extremely attractive and it was a turn on.
What’s the longest relationship you’ve been in? What did you learn?
The longest relationship I have been in is 3 years. I learned that relationships are full of compromises and for a relationship to be successful neither side can be selfish or unwilling to change.
What motivational words would you tell someone on the come-up?
Never doubt yourself and keep striving for greatness. There are going to be really tough times that make you think you are failing, but making it through those times are what makes you stronger and make the rewards at the end that much greater.
What’s the most awkward date that you’ve ever been on?
I went on a date in high school and the girl offered to drive at the end of the date she ended up running a red light and getting into a car accident. She also did not have her license so she ended up being taken into police custody. I had to call my father to pick me up and bring me to my car.
Where do you see yourself in the next five years?
Working my long term career and beginning to settle down and start a family.
What do you usually do to let a girl know that you are interested in her?
The way I inform a woman that I am interested in her is by the way that I interact with her on the daily basis. I will say more cute things in conversation and make more attempts to hang out.
What is your favorite and least favorite thing about yourself?
My favorite thing about me is my ability to talk and hold a conversation with anyone. I have met a lot of cool and like minded people by just randomly sparking a conversation with a random person. My least favorite thing is that I am incredibly hard on myself and am critical of things that I do. Others may see something I do as great, but I will critique it and think of ways that I could have done it better.
Who has been the most influential person in your life?
The most influential person in my life is my older brother. He has been through so many different hard times and has always pushed through. I know I can talk to him about anything that I go through and he will give me advice. He has taught me to continue to strive for greatness no matter what adversities I may face.
What’s your personal theme song?
Soul Food – Logic
What are your lifetime ambitions?
When I am old and look back on my life, I want to be proud of the things I have done and not have any regrets.
What are your career goals?
I want to be an Elementary School Social Worker
How are you changing the world?
I am changing the world by working with at-risk youth and helping them to obtain greatness and see that they are important. Too many people in the world ignore the struggles that inner city youth face. This ignorance is what causes a lot of these children to go seek out approval from others, usually gangs. I want to be able to give back to the community that helped with my upbringing. I hope that one day I will be able to serve the underprivileged youth and explain the importance of believing in themselves and striving for greatness. I hope to share my story, heal the hurt, share the success of the well, and ignite the passion in the weak. I want to be able to give back to the community that helped with my upbringing.
What’s one thing you want the world to know about you and who you are?
I’m proud of where I come from. Many people see it as a negative being from the “ghetto,” but it made me who I am today. Living in the ghetto was indeed scary –but it also provided for me. It instilled values, thoughtfulness, and the willingness to succeed. It was in my neighborhood that I learned to value all aspects of myself, my past, my present, and my potential.
Why do men often overlook the average girl?
I don’t know what is considered an “average girl,” but what would make me over look a woman is if they are unsure of themselves. As bad as this may sound, I want to be completely honest. Even though I constantly compliment and praise any woman I am dating, it is a turn off for someone to have really low self-esteem.
Why do guys tend to hide your feelings and not fully express them?
Men, especially black men have always been raised to be “tough” and not show feelings. Oppression of feelings is a defense mechanism to not look weak and vulnerable.
What do guys do to make them feel better after a long day? What are your forms of self-care?
After a long day, I like to unwind by chilling and watching TV and having a cold brew. My forms of self-care are to go to the beach and just listen to the waves, or go and see a movie. Also as a people person, I like to be around people so depending on the type of day I had I sometimes will hit up a friend and hang out.
What are you most afraid of living in today’s society?
I am most afraid of becoming a hashtag. #BlackLivesMatter
How do you seize and take advantage of every single day?
Every day I go out and do my best. I don’t want to wake up one day and regret not living my life to the fullest.
What do you feel men aren’t recognized enough for?
I feel as though men are not recognized for the hard work they put into keeping a household running. Many times all you ever hear about is how a mother/wife does so much for a family (which is true), but in my experience, I have seen numerous good husbands/fathers that do not get any recognition for any of the work they put in.
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