How I Am Going to Organize Myself For Grad School

How I Am Going To.jpgHello Beauties! Today I am going to be writing about how I am planning on staying organized for my new graduate school program! This is just a potential plan, however, during my post-bacc program, I learned some of the things I was doing to stay organized weren’t working or I want to change to make better in the future. So here we go 🙂

  1. A digital journal/planner! I swear by a good planner! I attribute a HUGE part of my success in school to Planners. Planners allow me to keep everything in one place and stay organized. I rarely forget things because it’s in my planner and it takes the hard part of trying to remember everything out of it for me. I also feel like taking time to write in my planner is a form of mindfulness – I can’t multitask and plan correctly. It allows me to focus on that moment of planning. I recently converted to digital planning using Microsoft One and I am freaking in love. Planners help me see the big picture of everything I need to do. Here is a video showing you how I created it – watch here.
  2. Assignment sheets/checklist – I started creating these my junior year of college. Using all my syllabi I basically I make a chart/list of every assignment due for that semester. I normally have assignment name, class name, due date, and points as headers. For some reason, this really helps me towards the end of the semester when things are getting hectic. I try to work ahead as much as possible and the assignment sheet keeps me on track so I never miss an assignment.

  3. Apple/Google Calendars for iOS. I am obsessed with my apple/google calendars. I literally input everything on them. For me, I like to be able to physically see my calendar/schedule on my phone. It’s convenient for me because I ALWAYS have my phone. I have a calendar for almost every aspect of my life. I am going to be using the following color system.
    • School/Study/Work on Assignments – Pink-ish Red.
    • Blog/Youtube things – Purple
    • Exercise/Walk Nehemiah – Orange
    • Home/Parent/Family things – Blue
    • Birthdays – Red
    • Social/Church/Lunch/Brunch/Hang Outs – Green
  4. An Organized School Bag. I alternate between using an actual backpack and a tote bag (depending on how I am dressed typically). This year, I am really going to focus on carrying less “just in case” things. Since I am planning on taking my notes digitally – will try to only carry my iPad and books.
  5. As I just mentioned above I will be writing all of my notes digitally using my Apple iPad Pro. Depending on how the class is set up I will most likely handwrite my notes and then go back and transcribe them as a study method. However, for some classes I know that will not be feasible and I will have to type my notes using my Bluetooth keyboard. The main reason I want to go digital is that I want to carry around less junk and streamline every part of this grad school process.

I hope this helps you get organized for school! What are some of the methods you are planning to use to stay organized in the fall? Share below in the comments!

XOXO, Tanesha Renae

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Application Season Tips & Tricks

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As many of you all know, I recently got accepted into the graduate program of my freaking dreams – a Clinical Psychology M.S. to Ph.D. program. I applied to 12 programs (not all clinical) and will say I had a pretty successful season in my opinion. I will be sharing a more in-depth look at my graduate school application organizational system over on my youtube channel (click here to watch now). I think one of the main things that kept me sane in this process was (1.) I had a lot of help BUT (2.) I had a good system in place of how to go through this process. Hopefully, it is not geared too much towards psych programs and can help people across all disciplines!

  • The first tip is to narrow down the schools you want to apply to in the summer. I won’t say I followed this tip exactly, but going into the fall semester I had a rough idea of which schools I wanted to apply for. However, I did spend about two additional weeks going through the schools with my advisors, re-evaluating my list, adding and dropping certain schools – which is okay! I think by the first or second week of September, you should have a definitive list.
  • Create a chart/spreadsheet/word document of information. This sort of goes along with the first tip. You should do this as you are narrowing down your list of schools. I will go into more detail about this in that youtube video (click here to view the video). Things you could include in your spreadsheet include:
    1. Potential advisor(s)/Main research interest
    2. Type of Program/Specialization
    3. Program website
    4. Costs
    5. Location
    6. The acceptance rate of applicants
    7. Average GRE scores
    8. Average GPA
    9. The name Professor you want to work with
    10. # of students funded
    11. #of years it takes to graduate on average
    12. The due date for application
    13. GRE test(s) required
    14. GRE code (for sending scores)
    15. Number of recommendation letters required
    16. Number of transcripts required
    17. Address to send hard copy materials
    18. Application fee
  • The next tip I have for you is to create yourself a timeline. Now depending on how your current life situation is looking (like if you have a job or in school still), your timeline will look different. The timeline is not going to HARD deadlines, but for me, the deadline kept me on track with what I needed to do and by when. My main goal was to finish all of my applications before Thanksgiving. I also adjusted for things that could go wrong for example, I allocated extra time for my GRE scores and transcripts to arrive. Below is a screenshot of my “timeline.” – Did I meet all of these deadlines – absolutely not, but it helped keep me on track.

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  • This is something I wish I spent more time on, but you should absolutely budget funds/estimate how much application season is going to cost you as soon as possible. I am not sure if anyone told you but applying to graduate school is SUPER expensive and there are not a lot of scholarships out there to help you apply (however, I have heard if you ask for a fee waiver you are more likely to get one – I’m not sure how true this is but that what I heard through the grapevine). After finding the schools I wanted to apply for, I made an estimation of costs excel sheet. This included application fees, transcript fees, GRE test, and sending the GRE scores. This estimation helped me budget my stipend appropriately in the fall to make sure I had enough money to pay for everything.
  • My next tip is for you to start applying as soon as possible. I believe this is the tip that saved me the most time on the tail end. As soon as the applications opened in the fall, I made accounts and filled in as much information as possible, such as name, race, and all other easy parts of the applications. Once this was done, the only parts of the applications I still had to complete was uploading my personal statements/statements of purpose, uploading my CV, sending GRE scores and transcripts and paying for the application. This made the process much more streamlined.
  • Decide on an organizational system! So the biggest part of applying (outside of actually applying) is staying organized so that you don’t drive yourself crazy. Some people I know kept everything in a folder on their computer, or used multiple sheets within an excel document, while others put everything in the cloud. I personally used Microsoft One Note to create a “notebook” to keep all my checklists, to-do lists, drafts of statements/emails/etc and everything else regarding applications all in one place. This worked out the best for me. Whatever works best for you – is the method you should use!

I hope this helps you get started on this exciting process! And if you need more help or advice – don’t hesitate to reach out to me! I don’t bite 🙂

XOXO, Tanesha

Things I Learned In My Post-Bacc Experience

101.jpgHello Wonderful People! Happy Wednesday! By the time this blog post goes up, my post-bacc experience will be completely over. The actual program ended in April, but I have been working part-time as a research assistant with my advisor – so it doesn’t really feel like it’s ended! Let me start this blog post by stating that the Hot Metal Bridge Program at the University of Pittsburgh is AMAZING. I can personally speak for the psychology section of the program and this program has really been life changing. It allowed me to get a “taste” to be immersed into a graduate school program – I was considered a first year graduate student.  This program taught me alot about psychology and graduate school, but most importantly this program taught me alot about myself. I will forever be grateful.

  1. The first thing I learned was the importance of time management.  Within a graduate school program, at least for psychology, the amount of time that is structured is very slim outside of your classes. You have to decide when and how you will do your research, assistantship obligations, etc. For me, this was a hard adjustment at first. I have always been a scheduler/calendar person – but it took me until the second or third week to fully understand that I basically am going to have to make my own schedule. Once I got into a system with doing that, it was much easier. But I had to get used to no one breathing down my neck  not having to check in with my advisor every second of the day or having someone telling me what I need to be doing or where I need to be.
  2. I also learned that I need a social circle/community (not saying that my social circle was bad at Pitt). As I am about to transition into a clinical psychology Ph.D. program, I recognized that I am going to have to be more intentional about building my friend group and community once I move to STL. There are times in Pittsburgh, where I felt very isolated and alone (not the fault of my cohort). It’s something about being the only Black girl in the entire 1st-year cohort that really messed with my head, so I am going to have to be more intentional about creating these spaces for myself. This way I don’t have to call/facetime my parents 50 times a day when I need to vent.
  3. Additionally, I learned that graduate school is going to be tough. Applying to graduate school was super rough, but my being persistent and steadfast is what really carried me through. This is a journey or a marathon BUT not a sprint. I am going to have to remind myself to pace myself. I won’t be able to get to the finish line without taking proper care of myself in all ways. During this first year, I am going to try to schedule in self-care more, so even when things are getting hectic I will be able to handle it.
  4. It is okay to outgrow and grow into people and places. Moving 7 hours from home and my social support system has really taught me that some of the people I considered close where only close because we lived near each other. And while it hurts, sometimes i just think that we outgrow people and places. Instead of framing it as a loss, I am trying to frame it as there are spaces opening up in my life for new, exciting people and places.
  5. I’ve learned really what it means when people say, “its okay not to be okay.” I really don’t have to have it all together all the time. Even though I really want to have it all together. I don’t want to come off as I am living this perfect life – because I am not. There have been tough times and I have spent months not being okay – but also not feeling up to admitting to people mentoring me that I wasn’t okay. Thus making me suffer in silence. I am trying to be as transparent as possible with my social media, but it still feels like a highlight reel. I am working on it though and allowing people to be there for me.

Have you learned anything about yourself in the last six months?? Share below!

XOXO, Tanesha

Happy Half Birthday to Me: Fun Facts, Confessions and Lessons

Happy Half Birthday to ME!!!!!

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Half inspired, half challenged by Courtney Saunders of Passionate Woman Blog‘s Post about being 25 and Winging It. This post will include fun facts, confessions, and lessons thus far.

Fun Facts

  1. I am a HUGE ANIME FAN. I feel like anime is becoming trendy, but I have been watching since I was in middle school (2006 to be exact). I started with the basics Naruto and DBZ, and I just fell in love. I don’t know what it is about anime – maybe it’s the reading of subtitles, the animation, the stories, or something. But I will always be a huge fan.
  2. Black is my FAVORITE color. I don’t know why I’ve just always loved it, black is just pure to me. It is also the color I wear the most of.
  3. I am a huge animal lover! I wanted to be a vet when I was younger (pre-my lawyer phase). My dad kinda ruined that dream by telling me I had to stick my hand up a cow’s butt when I went to Vet School.
  4. I am OBSESSED with my dog, Nehemiah. He has made the transition to living alone sooo much easier because without him I would never leave my apartment.
  5. I loveeeee flowers. Especially lilies. I believe it is because my dad always buys them for me, so I associate them with love.
  6. I love to watch weddings shows, wedding videos, engagement videos – honestly anything where people are in love. It brings such joy to my heart. It’s funny because I currently don’t want a huge wedding ceremony, just a reception with my closest friends.
  7. I cry at everything! Happy, Sad – it doesn’t matter. I am such a crier. Which is super ironic because if you ask my parents as a baby – I NEVER CRIED. I guess I am making up for lost time?
  8. I love the beach/lakes/ocean. The ocean/the beach makes me so happy and calm. Whenever I felt anxious or overwhelmed in college, I would go to the beach. Maybe because I was born on an island (Guam).
  9. I love to read, but not really non-fiction/self-help. I think it’s because I use books as a way to escape/live a different reality. I do think there is a great value to self-help and non-fiction books, just for some reason I am not into them. (If you are on good reads/interested in what I am reading – follow me here)
  10. I loveeee playing games on my phone – however, if a kid asks me I will always say no. Idk why but currently I have 19 game apps on my phone. A gamer at heart?
  11. My brother is probably my favorite person in the entire world, probably more than my parents. He can never do any wrong to me. We even got matching tattoos!
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Ancient Greek: φιλία, often translated as “brotherly/sisterly love.” | matching tattoos with my brother, cause no matter what we got each other.

Confessions

  1. #MeToo. If I say no, that doesn’t mean convince/coerce me. Listen the first time.
  2. I battle with imposter syndrome and severe anxiety DAILY. I am working on it. I am working on it by putting myself into more uncomfortable And working on my confidence especially when it comes to school. I know that my research and my academic perspective is necessary.
  3. I honestly feel every emotion super deeply. I’m not sure why but I do. And I also take on other people’s experiences and emotions and experience them myself. It’s hard but a gift.
  4. I am generally the person that everyone goes to with their problems, however, I have a hard time trusting people with my problems.
  5. I worry A LOT about being a Black woman whose professional life is BOMB but whose personal life is lacking. I feel like most people want me to focus solely on my professional life and graduate school, but my personal life is equally (if not more) important to me. I struggle with trying to balance both of these circles.
  6. I love blogging and vlogging – but sometimes I worry that my content isn’t that exciting or engaging enough to keep folks interested in what I have to say or produce (on YouTube).

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Lessons

  1. It is okay not to be okay. I have learned this really within the past year or so. With the passing of my dearest friend last year, losing my uncle a few days ago, dealing with a lot of rejections for graduate school, insecurities – I have been dealing with a lot lately. And honestly, I have been trying to hold it all together, but I can’t. It’s unhealthy for me to try to hold everything in. BUT I have found solace in confiding in the very few people I trust.
  2. Experiencing multiple emotions at one time is absolutely normal and you are not going crazy.
  3. Closure, for me, is such a blessing and a curse. A blessing when it closes a chapter nicely, however more often than not has been a curse and made me feel worse than not knowing.
  4. As much as I believe that I need to be superwoman, I cannot save everyone or do everything at once. It is okay if the only person I save is myself.
  5. I am learning that my worth is not dependent on ANYBODY’s ability or disability to see or acknowledge it.
  6. Change is inevitable, and the quicker you can learn to adapt or roll with the changes the better it will be.
  7. Sometimes you just have to go with the flow. If you know me, you know I am such a planner and type A – but I am learning to just let go of my strict plans and remain strict about my goals.
  8. (BONUS) I am learning how to say no (and you should too!). For years I thought that saying no implied that I didn’t like someone or was trying to be confrontational. However sometimes, saying no is the kindest thing you can do for yourself or someone else.

Challenge: Do you have any Fun Facts, Confession, Lesson you’d like to share? JOIN THE CHALLENGE – OR share below 🙂

I challenge Samantha of Melanin Project Blog and Khari of Twelve-Eight. 

Best,

-Tanesha Renae

A Love Letter to Rejection

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To My Not-So-Dearest Friend, Rejection,

I am so sorry you get such a bad rep – I would say that you deserve better, but I am not sure that is the most fitting for you. You at least deserve for people to respect you.

You taught me what it means to be persistent.

You are so necessary in the world. And you have taught me so much about myself and about how I function than I can ever thank you for.

You taught me that every “no,” is an opportunity to learn something, gain more experiences, to enjoy the journey more and keep trying.

You taught me that you will not kill me. I spent years avoiding you, honestly, like the plague. I feared you. I thought that meeting you meant that I had failed in some way or form. But we both know that isn’t true.

You have changed me in many ways – you have allowed me to see my potential and the areas where I need to improve.

The more you come around, the easier it is to experience you. I am glad that I am learning to accept you more and more in my life.

You’ve pushed me out into the open waters of uncertainity and forced me to learn to float. To learn how to be in the “uncomfort zone” – where all my best work, my potential and my fears lie.

I won’t say that I love you, but I definitely need you in my life.

Best,

– Tanesha Renae

My Grad School Story – The Truth.

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In an effort to be transparent and truthful about my journey to graduate school. I felt a blog post was in order, I tried twice to condense everything into an Instagram caption, but there was too much left out. I know, popular culture right now says to “move in private, live in private,” but that’s not me. I wanted to share my story in efforts to help someone else who is going through or about to go through the same process.

So, this story actually started in May 2017. I shared this tweet. I wanted to start speaking into existence this goal that had been on my heart for years now. Peep the date (and follow me on twitter!).

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Shortly thereafter, like 2 months later I was accepted into my Post-Baccalaureate program in Pittsburgh. Which has literally been the greatest opportunity ever. I have learned so much and gained so much knowledge about graduate school that I would’ve never gotten otherwise. One of the main purposes of this program is to “bridge” students into a graduate school program preferably a Ph.D. program.

I applied to 12 Schools, 10 of which were Ph.D. Programs. I was feeling pretty good about every application. I recognized that my new application was MUCHHHH stronger than the one I submitted during my senior year at Hampton. Next, I had to play the waiting game, waiting for interviews. For most clinical psychology Ph.D. programs, you have to interview to even be considered for one of their spots. In this field, there is a very limited number of spots available each year. No interview = no admission chances. The waiting game here was pretty alright. I figured I would at least get one interview invitation. The interview invitations started rolling in. 1 here, 1 there… then by the end, I had 8 offers to interview. 1 for a master’s program and 7 for Ph.D. programs. I was feeling pretty good at this point, I had definitely exceeded my expectations.

After all the interviews began the REAL waiting game and this is the part I felt like no one really prepared me for. Everyone was telling me and encouraging me that I would hear back in about a week or so after the interview. But I wasn’t, it was just silence – on all fronts. So naturally, I started getting stressed out about it, because I should at least get one offer, right? Wrong. I start getting rejected instead. Being rejected from schools really hit my self-esteem as a person and as a researcher. I also was being waitlisted and for several schools, I was 1st alternate. I was basically everyone’s second choice and it made me feel really really crappy. I was borderline depressed, to be honest.

The month of March was so hard because nothing was coming through for me Ph.D. wise. It was a very very very sad time for me (ask my parents). It was like I was grieving the loss of potentially going into these Ph.D. programs. I cried a lot, almost every day. It felt like a crushing blow, like being hit in the face with a brick. I pushed people way fearing that they would not understand, and even when I did open up to them – they didn’t understand. “Oh Tanesha, just do the master’s program. That’s okay too.” I felt like everyone was pitying me. I was overcome with shame like I had let everyone down who was rooting for me – my mentors, advisors, parents, friends, everyone.  Which wasn’t true, I am sure that they would’ve been supportive of whatever I chose to do. But it hurt. It hurt like hell. I felt like a disappointment, to be honest, I didn’t have the problem of having all these offers like I believed, and my peers believed I would have.

After the 5th rejection, I figured the Ph.D. life was not going to be for me. There was no way, I had just been rejected basically everywhere and was still waitlisted at two programs. I decided to throw in the towel. I had 3 master’s program admissions in my back pocket that I was holding. I started making arrangements to go into a social work and public health joint program. Let me note here, that even though social work was my back up plan – but that doesn’t mean that I don’t think that social work is super amazing because I do. I kick it into high gear with trying to get everything together to learn as much as I can about social work and public health. Essentially, going into both programs blindly because my focus has always been on psychology programs. I just wanna add here, shout out to all the Hamptonians that I reached out to about MSW programs and that helped me decide that this was going to be my next move. Also shout out to Dr. Duncan, who helped calm me down on several occasions.

By this time is the first week of April, I was fortunate enough to meet a woman who put me in contact with all these public health professions and set up meetings with them. And I was able to finally really see myself in these programs. I had a game plan, it might not be the straight shot for my goals that I thought it was going to be; however, it was nonetheless a round-about way to getting to do everything that I wanted to do. I was ready to transition my goals to this new journey!

I was ready, I was preparing to submit my deposit for the MSW program and submit my application for the public health program. For some reason, I got distracted and had to take care of something that was away from the data lab. I was gone for like ten minutes before I realized that I left my phone.  So, I run back to my office to grab my phone and there was an email from one of the advisors at the two schools I was still waitlisted at. I just figured it’s just another rejection email, so I decided to wait to open it.  Rejection hurts, and I wasn’t about to cry in the data lab. So, finally, I decided to go ahead and open it. And Y’all guess what –

I WAS OFFERED ADMISSION INTO A CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGY Ph.D. PROGRAM!

Have you ever seen the Pursuit of Happyness? I literally felt like this scene below. I sat at my desk and cried with such happiness and joy. I finally felt like someone was taking a chance on me and my academic abilities. There are no words to describe that feeling. Just an overwhelming amount of happiness and relief. I literally just cried, I couldn’t do anything else for a few minutes just sit there in awe.

 

After basically a month of crying, and rejection a program that I was waitlisted at offered me a spot of admission. I wrote all this out to say, if you are on this journey to graduate school – it is not going to be easy, but don’t give up! It’s super messy, emotional, expensive and it will challenge you in many, many different ways. This was my second cycle applying and honestly, I would not have done anything differently, as a matter of fact; I was considering applying again after I finished those masters programs. I posted this quote on Instagram, but I think it applies here as well: “If the plan doesn’t work, change the plan but NEVER the goal.” I think that even if you have to take a roundabout way to accomplish your goals – you should still do it. You deserve to still do it. You are smart enough to still do it. Be persistent. You (and your goals) are worth it.

Blessings & XOXO

-Tanesha Renae

12 Affirmations For the New Year

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Hello Beauties!!

Welcome to 2018! I hope that 2017 brought you lots of love, joy and life lessons. I found out recently that the number 7 is the number of completion, of wholeness, while the number 8 is the number of new beginnings and new season! I hope that 2018 is going to be a TRUE year of new beginnings for you!

This year, instead of reflecting on the last year, I wanted to do something different. Going along with the new beginnings, I wanted to go into the year with each month with a sentence/phrase of affirmation.

  • January – “I am enough.”
  • February -“I love myself. I am lovable and deserve to be loved.”
  • March – “Focus on your responsibilities and make those great.”
  • April – “I am committed to my goals and my success is assured.”
  • May – “Today, I’m moving in the direction that is best for me.”
  • June – “I am the creator of my reality, whatever I focus on I can create.”
  • July – “People only do what you allow them to do, whatever you allow them to do, they will do it. “
  • August – “I am perfect, whole and complete, exactly as I am. I am great because I am ME.”
  • September – “I acknowledge my own self worth; my confidence is soaring.”
  • October – “They say “time changes everything,” But YOU have to change things yourself!”
  • November – “I am grateful for the good things that happened in the past year, and for the lessons from the bad things!”
  • December – “I am worthy of being happy most of the time.”

 

Take each month’s affirmation – and meditate on it for the entire month. I meditate on it by saying it multiple times a day, you can meditate on it by placing it on a sticky note on mirror or whatever works best for you. I wish you all the best 2018 and the 2018 that you all need for your future. You deserve it. I love you all a bunch.

– Tanesha Renae

Man Crush of The Month: Marshal

HAPPY LAST MONTH OF THE YEAR!!!! December is probably my second favorite month, but December has my favorite man crush thus far! This month’s man crush is none other than Marshal! I actually met Marshal through Hampton University’s Student Recruitment Team in 2013. He’s literally one of the most chill and cool. Like he’s the epitome of a cool guy. Marshal is a single, 24 years old, from Chino, California! He is the co-founder of a start-up, The Greenrose Agency. The Greenrose Agency is a digital marketing products sand services retailer and their agents offer specialized consultation and support around their product catalog. He is also an aspiring polymath – He loves to create and produce creative content of all kinds. He’s an obsessive sports fan and fantasy sports player and he has a passion for the history of African American music. Now on to the questions!

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How would you describe your personality in three words?

Passionate. Driven. Balanced. 

Which do you prefer to listen to your heart or your brain? Why?

I honestly believe you should try a little of both. I’m as much an artist as a scientist. 

Who is your celebrity crush?

Always and forever Lauren London. 

Who do you think should make the first move males or females? Why?

I think if that person motivates you to make a move, male or female, you should listen that voice in your head saying, “shoot your shot”

What’s the longest relationship you’ve been in? What did you learn?

The longest relationship I was in lasted for about 4 1/2 years. And the biggest thing that I learned is that loving someone isn’t about finding someone perfect, but about finding someone your willing to accept is imperfect and also acknowledges that you are. If you know of that person, let them know.

What motivational words would you tell someone on the come-up?

The best piece of advice I’ve ever personally heard and have applied is “turn fear into a tailwind” sometimes I easily get caught up in anxieties around my personal progress. I’ve learned to use that fear and anxiety to propel rather than paralyze me.

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What’s the most awkward date that you’ve ever been on?

I don’t think I’ve been on an “awkward” date per se, but I did go on a date once to an art gallery with someone it felt like I couldn’t communicate with for more than 30 seconds.

Where do you see yourself in the next five years?

In the next five years, I see myself beginning my second and third planned ventures and planning the IPO of the Greenrose Agency.

What do you usually do to let a girl know that you are interested in her?

I usually try to be straightforward about it, I have to feel comfortable being myself with her to even begin generating an interest.

What is your favorite and least favorite thing about yourself?

My favorite thing about myself is my confidence and optimism, my least favorite thing about myself is that confidence sometimes cause me to procrastinate. I play “hero ball” and place unnecessary pressure on myself (sometimes I think it’s because I like the pressure lol)

Who has been the most influential person in your life?

The most influential person in my life easily is my mother. She often says that we “grew up together” and to an extent it’s true. My mom gave birth to me when she was 20 years old, and raised me as a single parent for the first 10 years of my life. She’s my best friend as well as my mom.

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What’s your personal theme song?

“In My Lifetime (Remix)” – Jay-Z

What are your lifetime ambitions?

My lifetime ambitions are to achieve personal peace and become the best version of myself. If fortune or even fame fall somewhere in there, even better.

What are your career goals?

My career goals are to be a serial entrepreneur and investor.

How are you changing the world?

Today, we have made it so that businesses and enterprises are the catalysts and drivers of our society. I honestly believe that it is the responsibility of those who recognize that this is true, to build and design businesses and enterprises that are responsible and do their best to empower the people the they directly effect. I feel that the co-founding the Greenrose Agency to help small business owners is just the start of me doing so.

What’s one thing you want the world to know about you and who you are?

I feel like this is the part where I assert “I’m taking over the world”, but I’m definitely much more of a “show and prove” kind of person.

Why do men often look over the average girl?

I don’t believe they “look over” them, I just believe men fail to mature fast enough to realize things they need instead of things they want early in our lives. It’s unfortunate, but I think it’s true.

Why do guys tend to hide their feelings and not fully express them?

I’ve recently tried to do better at expressing my feelings. I’m a believer that being emotional and masculine are not mutually exclusive. Many men may tell you different, but there are a lot of hurt women who can definitely tell you otherwise.

What do guys do to make them feel better after a long day? What are your forms of self-care?

I actually practice meditation, taking sometime to tend to your mind and your thoughts is really important. We can find ourselves carrying around a lot of baggage.

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What are you most afraid of living in today’s society?

I’m most afraid of the lack of empathy I see from people everyday. I believe that too few people are trying to widen their perspectives and actually understand other people.

How do you seize and take advantage of every single day?

I do my best to be present, my lifestyle requires me to think a lot about the future and what will happen tomorrow so a lot of times I try to remember to be in the moment to really take in and process what’s going on at that moment.

What do you feel men aren’t recognized enough for?

I actually think that in general, men are recognized a bit too much. We hear about the accomplishments of men all throughout history. I actually believe that it should be men’s responsibility to acknowledge the accomplishments of women. Who else will?

 

What’s the most discouraging part about being a man? How do you deal with it?

I’ll specify a bit more to being a black man…However, the most discouraging part of being a black man is the fact that we are conditioned to live fearful lives and to make fearful choices. Black masculinity is predicated in fear and insecurity. We are told that we shouldn’t let someone disrespect us, so we fear the result of allowing it to pass without displays of greater masculinity or violence. We are told that we shouldn’t show emotion, as a result we fear the doing and fight it adamantly. Our nature is not predicated in facing our problems, but instead fearing the appropriate courses of action and waving them off as “soft”. Once you’ve realized that mindset does not stand to benefit you in any way, as a black man you feel cheated of a truly free life…

Do you have a brand? Share what it’s purpose, mission and goals here –

As I explained before, I’m the co-founder of The Greenrose Agency. Our goal is to empower small business owners and individuals through digital marketing products and services to grow their businesses and brands in a cost effective way. We are striving to create an unparalleled consumer experience within the digital marketing industry, a brand and retailer people can trust to help them navigate a murky and intimidating landscape.

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Happy Birthday to Me!

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Happy Birthday to Me!

It’s my 24th birthday – and I gotta admit I’m feeling a little weird. This will be my first birthday without doing something to celebrate with my parents, and honestly it is kinda bumming me out. But I refuse to be sad on my birthday (plus ain’t nobody got time for that, I have a whole final due on Monday). This year, instead of reflecting on what I’ve already learned – I want to focus on changing for the better. The past year has been very revealing to me about the type of person that I want to be. Not because I am unhappy with who I am, because let’s face it – I’m pretty lit. But rather because next year, at 25, I want to be happier and just overall better as a person. God has put it in my heart to start laying the ground work in my 24th year, so that the next quarter of my life will be the best.

My Goals are as followed:

Stop Allowing Folks to Treat You Like You’re Regular. I have this really bad habit of allowing people to just treat me any type of way. It is because growing up and even into my undergrad days, I used to be really afraid of being alone and not having any friends. But now, after moving to Pittsburgh alone, I’ve realized that – I don’t need them. I pride myself in being a good friend to people and if they don’t want to act right – that’s on them. Friends are great and as much as I want to have that “group of girlfriends” – I can’t keep trying and trying and trying.  Especially when I’m not reaping any of the benefits. If you’re my friend cool, but if I feel like I’m putting in more than I am going to Imma fall back and stop expecting that reciprocation. I’m still gunna be there for you if you need to be as a listening ear. I just have to stop expecting them to do the same.

Live More In Love and Be Positive. Most people who know me know that I am a pretty optimistic person. But sometimes my positive energy gets hit with other people’s negativity and I absorb it. Not on purpose, but it happens. I want to be able to keep my positivity and energy clear of other people’s baggage. Which is sometimes really hard for me because I take on other people’s stress often. Also, I want to live in love more. I wrote a blog post about how to put love in your daily lives. But I want to be a more loving and kind person. When people are around me, I want them to instantly feel loved and cared for. There was a girl once at Hampton, while I didn’t know her personally, I could see and feel the energy she radiated. I want that.

More Jesus. For a few months now, I have been feeling like something is missing from my life. I felt like all this good was happening around me, but still something was missing. And honestly, it was yesterday that it hit me. I wasn’t spending as much time with God as I should be. So this next year, I want to take my relationship with God to the next level. I feel like I haven’t been taking my relationship with Him as seriously as I should be. But starting today, I am recommitting myself to God, His word, My Prayers, and His people. I will be studying His word and doing daily prayers – every day. No excuses. God has done so much for me, the VERY LEAST I could do is spend time with Him.

There are probably more things, but these are going to be my main focus right now. I am so excited about my next year of growth and wisdom. 23 was a year of getting comfortable with being uncomfortable, growth and new opportunities. I cannot wait to see what 24 brings.

Love yall bunches.

– Tanesha

Thankful Tuesday,

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November has been deemed the “thankful and grateful” month, rightfully so with Thanksgiving and the beginning of the MOST WONDERFUL TIME OF YEAR! On Facebook, you see most people doing the 31 days of thankfulness and the world just seems a bit nicer. I really love it and this time of year. I try to practice being thankful regularly because it is so easy to forget how blessed and lucky we all are (even with our problems). At least once a week, I try to reflect on the blessing in my life and look at all the things God has done for me (even when I haven’t deserved them).

With Thanksgiving approaching quickly (like in two days!), I encourage you to do the same! Carry this into your next month and next year – Germany Kent once said, “Gratitude is one of the most powerful human emotions. Once expressed, it changes attitude, brightens outlook, and broadens our perspective.”

I really believe that. I really believe that being grateful for each moment is the key to living a fulfilled life. After my reflections, I always feel full and happy. Like wow, God has really blessed me.

Take time out today (and at least weekly) to really reflect and be grateful for the people, things and opportunities we have – and equally as thankful for the things to come and the things, people and opportunities that God protected us from.

I am especially thankful to all of you reading this! I really love and appreciate each and every person who reads anything on my blog. You all are what keeps me going. Share in the comments one thing (I know, its going to be hard to just pick one thing) that you are especially thankful for today!

XOXO,

Tanesha