Man Crush of the Month: Chris

Chris Nazien is a 22-year-old from Hampton, Virginia. He’s currently single and studying marketing at Virginia Commonwealth University. He will graduate this May! He wants to pursue a career in business. His passions are music, fashion, and sports! A fun fact about Chris is that he’s been to 25 of the 50. Chris was my very first friend at Church once I moved to Virginia and is so kind-hearted and sweet.

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How would you describe your personality in three words?

Cool, Calm and Collected.

Which do you prefer to listen to your heart or your brain? Why?

I prefer to listen to my brain because you shouldn’t make decisions based on emotions.

Who is your celebrity crush?

Chantel Jefferies

Who do you think should make the first move males or females? Why?

Males, no particular reason.

How do you get a girl to know that you’re interested in her?

It depends on her personality. Either being assertive or gradually showing interest.

What’s the longest relationship you’ve been in? What did you learn?

9 months; I learned that successful relationships require a lot of communication

What motivational words would you tell someone on the come-up?

Work while they sleep, Learn while they party, Save while they spend, Live like they dream.

Where do you see yourself in the next five years?

Excelling in my career field and building an empire.

What do you usually do to let a girl know that you are interested in her?

I would just get her contact information and set up a date to get to know each other. 

What is your favorite and least favorite thing about yourself?

My favorite thing would be my sense of humor and my least favorite thing would be my tendency to over think.

Who has been the most influential person in your life?

My mother (she’s pretty amazing).

What’s your personal theme song?

Dom Kennedy – When I Come Around

What are your lifetime ambitions? 

Start a family, travel the world, become financially independent

What are your career goals?

Work for a company that allows me to travel, grow and perfect myself as a person.

How are you changing the world?

By mentoring the youth, telling them the mistakes I’ve made and showing them that they can succeed in life.

What’s one thing you want the world to know about you and who you are?

My name is Chris Nazien and I love food! (All kinds)

Do you have a brand?

I would consider myself a brand. My purpose is to make my community better. Also, to excel in and outside of my career and become a successful man. 

Why do guys tend to hide your feelings and not fully express them?

I would say that most men hide their feelings because it is a so-called sign of weakness.  

what do guys do to make them feel better after a long day? What are your forms of self-care?

Personally, I listen to music or go out this a group of friends.

What are you most afraid of living in today’s society?

I’m not afraid of much mainly because I know that God is on my side. 

How do you seize and take advantage of every single day?

I seize every day by at least taking one step forward. It depends on what I have listed on my “to-do-list”. 

What do you feel men aren’t recognized enough for?

I feel that the “right” black men specifically aren’t recognized enough. There are black men that are in the spotlight but they do not offer much or just living recklessly. 

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Want to connect with Chris – Here’s his social media:

To check out all of Chris’ Pictures follow him on Instagram

Or Find Him on Facebook – Chris Nazien

 

 

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Valentine’s Day Impromptu Date Ideas

Happy Valentine’s Day

Some folks go out with their girls to dinner and movie (like a date with their girls), while others sit in the house and sulk. Honestly, my friends all live in different states and sitting in the house and sulking doesn’t sound appealing either. So what am I to do? I decided to come up with some impromptu “date ideas”! These are great ideas for you go out with your significant other, your girls, or even go out solo!

  1. Have an intense workout session.
  2. Go to a museum or an art gallery
  3. Buy Yourself some flowers or pick some!
  4. Get up early, make breakfast, and enjoy the quiet morning.
  5. Write yourself a love letter
  6. Send your girls a heartfelt text message (or call) about how much you love them.
  7. Go out to dinner (I love good food!!)
  8. Take a long walk in your favorite park
  9. Go to the library or Barnes & nobles to read for a while (I guarantee it won’t be crowded!)
  10. Get a mani/pedi – or even give yourself one at home!
  11. Go see that movie you’ve been waiting to see!
  12. Have a “Night In” – eat junk food and watch a movie marathon!

Don’t be forced to stay home on this day full of love – Enjoy the love you have received over the years and give some love away (maybe a random act of kindness?)

XOXO,

– Tanesha

 

Man Crush of the Month: Greg

Gregory Budd, also known as Greg is a 22-year-old, Hampton University Alumni from Woodbridge, Virginia. He’s currently taken (sorry ladies, I know he’s adorable!) and he has a BOMB job at the International Spy Museum. He has a deep love for history and wants to eventually pursue a job working for the Smithsonian Institution as an archivist. He also loves to and has a great talent for dance. He wants to in the future be able to teach and create a creative lane (or program) for his God-given gifts. Something unique about Greg is that when he was 10-years-old, he performed for Jay-Z in an NBA store!

fullsizerender-3How would you describe your personality in three words?

Dedicated, Funny, and Humble

Which do you prefer to listen to your heart or your brain? Why?

Heart because I feel like me heart sees the real in a situation while my brain sees the logical option.

Who is your celebrity crush?

SZA 

Who do you think should make the first move males or females? Why?

Males because it is all in taking the initiative. If you know you have the confidence to start the conversation why not not make the first move? 

How do you get a girl to know that you’re interested in her?

Be myself and make her laugh. 

What’s the longest relationship you’ve been in? What did you learn?

3 years currently the relationship I am in now. I have learned to quit the selfish attitude and work together and treat your queen like a queen 

What motivational words would you tell someone on the come-up?

Always work and have the ambition to put in that work. Like the Bible says Faith without works is dead. 

What’s the most awkward date that you’ve ever been on?

Back in high school, I met a girl on Facebook who just so happened to go a rival high school in my city. We met each other at a track meet I was running at and as soon as she opened her mouth and her voice came out I was instantly ready to go. The whole track meet I kept trying to avoid her.

Where do you see yourself in the next five years?

Working in the National Park Service or the Smithsonian Museum as an archivist. 

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What is your favorite and least favorite thing about yourself?

My least favorite thing would be my skin, I got diagnosed with skin lupus during my sophomore year. And it creates small blotches on my skin that are very noticeable and becomes a pain at times. Especially when people ask and I have to explain it over and over. And my favorite thing about me is my smile. Like J Cole said we ain’t picture perfect but we worth the picture still.

Who has been the most influential person in your life?

My father because he is my greatest motivator and wise mind when I need help. He always seems to know how I’m feeling when I don’t. He is my best friend even thought I am his son you wouldn’t tell the difference 

What’s your personal theme song?

Immortal- Kid Cudi 

What are your lifetime ambitions? 

Be married and have my dream job which would to be an archivist 

What are your career goals?

Become an archivist for the Smithsonian Institution 

How are you changing the world?

Teaching others in any way possible through dance, history, or life lessons. 

What’s one thing you want the world to know about you and who you are?

I am an aspiring mind that just wants a chance to show how great I can be. 

Why do guys tend to hide your feelings and not fully express them?

It has always been the status quo for a guy to be strong and fearless of what life throws at them. Personally, my dad is a solid rock if he did show any emotions he would show it in private. You could never know what he was thinking.

What do guys do to make them feel better after a long day? What are your forms of self-care?

Relax change from my work clothes, watch Netflix and just relax 

What are you most afraid of living in today’s society?

Paying off my student loans 

How do you seize and take advantage of every single day?

Wake up and smile. Once I smile it makes my day better and keeps me from letting anything negative mess it up I know I god has given me the opportunity to start a new day and make the most of it 

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Want to connect with Greg – Here’s his social media:

To check out all of Greg’ sPictures follow him on Instagram

Or Find Him on Facebook – Gregory Budd

Man Crush of the Month: AP

Aaron Peters, also known as AP, is a 22-year-old graduate student at Hampton University pursuing a Masters of Business Administration. He is from New Jersey, a brother of Omega Psi Phi Fraternity Incorporated and is currently single. He’s the owner of the amazing clothing line of Another Perspective, which he plans on continuing for the rest of his life. However, AP will also be working with Deloitte Consulting once he graduates in May 2017. He loves to play basketball with his “bros,” taking pictures, editing videos, enjoys a good party and to have fun! He stated, “I would lie and act like I have some cool hobbies that you guys wouldn’t expect of me but that’s wack.” What’s unique about AP is that he is always trying to go out of his way to help others. If he knows your goals or ambitions, he will try to connect you with people in that field. AP said that he thinks that’s unique because “nowadays people just want to get put on and forget about everyone else. I like to always lift as I climb [the ladder of success] because people will forget what you said, forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them felt and people get a good feeling when you help them out.” On top of all that, he is certainly handsome!

Now on to the interview portion!

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How would you describe your personality in three words?

Funny, Relatable, Motivational.

Who do you think should make the first move males or females? Why?

Males should make the first move because ladies like to know that they are interested in by someone. They usually know in their head if they like your or could see themselves with you but you won’t know most of the time unless you approach them. So be a man and go up and take that initial step.

What motivational words would you tell someone on the come-up?

Keep grinding even when no one notices you, even when you think it’s not working keep grinding it will pay off. Whatever energy and time you put into the universe it will repay you. Watch the movie “The Secret” you’ll see what I’m talking about.

Where do you see yourself in the next five years?

Let’s see – 27? Sheesh I know I’ll have a stable relationship with my future wife and will be preparing to take that step to marriage and all of that and I feel like I will be financially stable at that point.

What is your favorite and least favorite thing about yourself?

My favorite thing about myself is my grind I could lay out a list of things I’ll get done and get it done that’s like the best feeling. Least favorite thing would have to be the fact that I’m cool with so many people that I don’t always know how to tell someone no when they ask something of me.

Who has been the most influential person in your life?

Mom Dukes and my Pops – they asked a lot of me growing up and I feel like that helped me in the long run.

What’s your personal theme song?

Currently, Dab of Ranch song that Quavo made up in like 30 seconds and that new Kodak song is pretty much going to be my theme song when it drops when he do the new kodak dance to.

What are your lifetime ambitions?

I would like to start a family one day but I would have a successful clothing line that provides enough money for me that I don’t need to work for someone else on some 9 to 5 type of stuff.

What are your career goals?

My main career goal is to open up a warehouse for my clothing line to be able to make all my clothing and to make other people’s clothes.

How are you changing the world?

Motivating those that are younger than me to do what they want, follow their dreams and that anything is possible like literally anything they want to do they can do just got to put the work in.

What are you most afraid of living in today’s society?

In today’s society, they hate to see a young black man doing well and when they do see it – they try to kill us. I’m not afraid but afraid of how impactful that could be to my family if I get gunned down by one of these policemen out here.

What do guys do to make them feel better after a long day? What are your forms of self-care?

Man listen, a fresh cut will put you right where you need to be I promise you. Everyone starts saying hi to you, people smiling at you, it’s like you just won the lottery when you get that perfect fresh cut. 

Why do men often overlook the average girl?

I’m not going to be cliche and say because they are looking for something different but if you are the “average” girl.  It’s easy to look over that “average” girl because you’re just blending in. How you going to get noticed if you’re just blending in feel me?

Why do guys tend to hide your feelings and not fully express them?

I don’t do that. I don’t think at least but I think because they think other GUYS will judge them. Like a girl likes that I believe (guys being expressive of their feelings) but I think that a guy feels the need to act or be tough at all times when in reality, it’s not that deep.

How do you seize and take advantage of every single day?

Make a list and get everything done, and get up early that helps too.

What’s the most discouraging part about being a man? How do you deal with it?

I will say the most discouraging part for me is how people will support everything else with these people that they don’t know but when it’s a black business around they got to ask for a discount or they say they rock with the movement but still don’t support. I deal with it by just keep doing what I’m doing I know my bros will always support each other and that’s all I need sometimes when it’s hard out here.

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Share information about your brand. 

Another Perspective is the brand and the mission of my brand is to make people think from their perspective. All of my designs have a gas mask on and it’s not to just look cool but it has a bigger meaning. The gas mask is to block out the world’s gas and thoughts and how the world wants you to think it’s blocking all of that out and making you think in a Another Perspective. AP is my nickname so I got to make sure I’m always promoting myself in a positive way. New clothes on the way for the new year, check out anotherclothingline.com!

Want to connect with AP – Here’s his social media:
To check out all of AP’s AMAZING Pictures follow him on Instagram
AP’s Adventures Via Snapchat and Via Twitter
Another Perspective Clothing Line on Instagram
Another Perspective Clothing Line’s Website is here

Man Crush of the Month Series

Hey, Ladies! Ladies & Company blog is becoming a place to encourage women (and men) to like be their best self, whatever that means to them.

I wanted to start this segment, Man Crush of the Month, as a way to deal with a lot of the negativity surround men today. I feel like every day on social media, there is someone out there bashing men. For me, it causes a lot of confusion because I see so many young men out there doing their thing. As a way to combat this, I wanted to showcase all the great things the men in my life are doing.

The guys I am featuring are all the cream of the crop – doing great things in life, for their community, furthering their education, educating others, and just doing such great things. I can’t even begin to tell them all how proud I am of all of the things they are accomplishing!With that being said, I want to showcase them and all of their greatness on my blog and with all of my beautiful readers

With that being said, I want to showcase them and all of their greatness on my blog and with all of my beautiful readers – So on the first Monday, of every month there will be a young man featured and you (the reader) will be able to read and get to know them a little bit!

The first month’s issue will be next Monday – be sure to check back on there!

Perfect Post-Break Up Playlist

Are you going through a tough break up and need a mini pick me up? I know for me, listening to certain “empowering” songs helps get me through the tough time of a break-up. Honestly, any kind of good music helps – AS LONG AS IT’S NOT SAD because we don’t have time for any more tears! Here are some of my favorite Post-Break Up Songs with their music videos AND my favorite lyric! (Please note: These are not in any particular order!)

  1. Shout Out to My Ex by Little Mix 
    My Favorite Lyric: “Even though you broke my heart in two, baby/ But I snapped right back, I’m so brand new, baby/ Boy, read my lips, I’m over you,”
  2. Send My Love (To Your New Lover) by Adele 
    My Favorite Lyric: “I’m giving you up/  I’ve forgiven it all/ You set me free, oh/ Send my love to your new lover/ Treat her better/ We’ve gotta let go of all of our ghosts/ We both know we ain’t kids no more,”
  3. Needed Me by Rihanna 
    Favorite Lyric: “Tryna fix your inner issues with a bad b*tch/ Didn’t they tell you that I was a savage?/ F*ck your white horse and a carriage,”
  4. Sorry by Beyoncé 
    Favorite Lyric: “I had enough/ I ain’t thinking ’bout you/ I ain’t thinking ’bout/ Middle fingers up/ Put them hands high/ Wave it in his face/ Tell ’em boy bye”
  5. Up Out My Face by Mariah Carey featuring Nicki Minaj
    Favorite Lyric: “If you see me walking by you/ Boy don’t you even speak/ Pretend you on the sofa/ And I’m on the TV”
  6. We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together by Taylor Swift 
    Favorite Lyric: “Uggg… so he calls me up and he’s like, “I still love you,”/ And I’m like… “I just… I mean this is exhausting, you know, like/ We are never getting back together. Like, ever””
  7. So What by P!NK 
    Favorite Lyric: “I guess I just lost my husband/ I don’t know where he went/ So I’m gonna drink my money/ I’m not gonna pay his rent (nope)/ I got a brand new attitude/ And I’m gonna wear it tonight”
  8. Stitches by Shawn Mendes 
    Favorite Lyric: “Got a feeling that I’m going under/ But I know that I’ll make it out alive/ If I quit calling you my lover/ (and) Move on/”
  9. Forever Don’t Last by Jazmine Sullivan
    Favorite Lyric: “Still think about the good times we had/ And how you used to make me laugh/ But, baby, I know most times we were miserable/ So every time I wanna call, baby, what always helps/ Is when I think of the pain, and I realize/ I’m better off by myself”
  10. Gives You Hell by The All-American Rejects
    Favorite Lyric: “When you see my face, hope it gives you hell, hope it gives you hell”

What are some of your favorite “Break Up” Songs? Share Below in the comments and we can have a huge playlist going!

XOXO,

– Tanesha

Newly Single? I got you. 

So like you, at the beginning of the year I became single. After being in a very serious relationship for about two or so years, I felt like I had lost a huge chuck of who I was. Not because I was any less of a person without the relationship, but because I had become used to having him around and a big part of my life. But now that it’s been a few months, I’ve got a few tips that can help you through this period.

  • I needed time to grieve, and you probably do too. As a person, who loves hard, it takes a bit of time to get over someone, especially someone you cared deeply about. As Part of my grieving, I wanted to be left completely alone – I cut off communication with my ex-boyfriend. I gave myself a week to be mopey and sad, (and honestly it was probably too much time). But I was able to release all the sadness and hurt I was feeling by way of tears, eating junk food, sleeping and being lazy.
  • Change, change, change. I literally changed everything around me. I got rid of most things that reminded me of my ex-boyfriend (and by get rid of I mean I put it all in a box, I kept some stuff out tho). I rearranged my furniture, changed my hair, changed how I dressed and how I do my make up. After changing everything, I felt so refreshed and brand new.
  • Get busy. Grind time doesn’t stop. You are too amazing to stop being great. Do you have a secret hobby you wanted to get into? Now you have the extra Time to devote to that. You have the opportunity to be even more amazing than you were before! You can also fill that time with the great company of your friends and family. They are always going to be there for you and support you, and I’m sure they would not be opposed to spending some extra time with you!
  • Go out on dates, but DO NOT REBOUND. I know this sound contradictory but I think that it’s okay to go out with other people, but only when you’re ready and in a healthy way. Just don’t be on the rebound. What I mean is don’t go out immediately looking for a replacement significant other. I know you’re lonely and in your feelings, but no. Rebounding literally makes you feel worse than when you started. But if there are young men interested in you, give them a chance.

 

Those are the main things I would suggest, but most of all – give yourself time. Time heals all wounds.

 
What are some tips do you have for the newly single? Or if you are newly single, how are you coping?

 
XOXO
– Tanesha.

Happy Anniversary Mom & Dad!

Today is my parent’s 25th anniversary of marriage!

My parents are like real life relationship goals for me. They’re married, have kids, have great careers and traveling the world – what more can you ask for !? Growing up in this house full of love, I’ve learned a few things about life, love, and marriage. I’ve decided to share the top 3 love lessons (that I have learned) with you all.

  1. Love is a decision. After the feeling is long and gone, and you have to DECIDE to love one another. It’s not always pretty and cute and fun, sometimes it is hard and rough-looking. Every day for the rest of your life you have to decide to love your significant other, choose who you will love wisely.
  2. Love (and marriage) is friendship amplified.You have to be friends. When my parents first met, they didn’t like each other (you have to get them to tell you the story), but now they are the best of friends. Friends fuss and fight, but at the end of the day, they are still there for each other when they are going through hard times. Also with true friendships (and marriage) you can depend on one another.
  3.  Love is patient. Your spouse or significant other is not going to be perfect (and neither are you for that matter). People make mistakes and unintentionally hurt each other, You have to be patient enough to realize “hey, my significant other is still growing up and maturing, so mistakes and unintentional hurts may happen.” I see so many folks out here that want a spouse that’s already established making 100K a year, flying them out to XYZ, etc.  But those same people aren’t willing to build with a person, so that they can get those things together.

Here’s a cute video tribute of my parents. 🙂 They’re super adorable!

I hope one day to have as happy of a marriage as they have.

Peace and Blessings to them.

– Tanesha

From The Mouths of Men: How to be Approached.

I finally came up with another “From The Mouth of Men” question, partially because I was genuinely curious as to what these young men would say, but also because some of my close friends complain about NEVER being approached when they’re out and about. So I asked some of my closest guy friends: “What tips would you give a young lady that wants to be approached in the club, or in the mall, etc.?”

“Like for real as a woman, it’s hard because you rely on men to come up to you rather then you coming up to them. And some of your woman counter parts with the bad attitudes have all but ruined some men’s confidence so they rarely approach women . But I would say in the mall, there’s nothing you can do except make eye contact and smile. At the club, just be responsive – if you see someone you’re interested in and if they’re not coming up. You should go up to them and to try to make genuine conversation. Literally about anything, they’ll take as a sign your interested.  When you talk to them, make eye contact and laugh at every joke – even if it isn’t funny and make physical contact such as an arm touch rub and be funny. If you have a conversation with someone and he doesn’t ask for you number be cute and cleverly like say “Aren’t you forgetting something? ” and if replies what, say “my number ” you’ll both laugh and he’ll definitely ask for it.” -Ronnie.
“If you want to be approached, be approachable! Women who come off as “hard to get” just based on the attitude and vibe they give off will normally deter the types of guys they would want approaching them. Don’t be full of yourself. Not every guy who starts a conversation with you is attracted to you. Be open to conversation. Don’t be dull and standoffish. Learn to let guys you’re uninterested in down easy. If guys see another guy get dubbed, they’re less likely to approach that same girl. And always remember, there’s nothing wrong with being the approach-er. ” -Quenton.
“Tips I would give a young lady trying to be approached would be ironically make yourself approachable do not come off as mean or stuck up. Be yourself and know your worth. Stand your ground and speak your mind. Smiling is always the best policy.” -Greg
“For a girl that wants to be approached in different settings, smiling and being a little outgoing via initiating interactions would make it more likely for guys to approach” -David
“Dress for success. ” Ras
“She don’t want to be stank, so don’t be in the middle twerking. Don’t be going. Look like you want to be there, you don’t want to be the mean girl in the club. Look approachable. Starts at home, make sure you look good, before you leave the house.” – Sharod.
“Why not do the approaching yourself? And If you’re too shy to do the approaching yourself, smile. ESPECIALLY if you have RBF (resting bitch face)” -Devin
“The girl should look friendly, don’t play hard to get, read the dude, but don’t judge right off that back because all dudes aren’t dogs. Oh, and please look presentable lol” -Zack
“Honestly I don’t know.. Just something creative or to catch my attention.. The choice of words varies from situation to situation and based on each person’s personality ” -Derron
“To grow up and talk to the guy first because 90% of the time, “the good guy” ain’t gonna talk to you first. The “ain’t shit guy” will. We go to the mall to do the same thing as y’all except the “ain’t shit guy” will be going with his people to pick up some easy sex. Just talk to who you like, your adults, ain’t nobody gonna care or label you, if they do than “Fuck em!” (*Bernie Mac Voice*). Life’s too short to going around thinking too much about that and regretting not talking to that person. That’s all I gotta say……….From a brother who gets no love to those lonely sisters” – Wilfred
“That guys are going to approach you if she wants them to or not but in my opinion occasional glances but make sure he’s looking obviously, inviting body language, smile helps for some. But overall a guy will make a move anyway.” -Andrew
“The one tip I’d give is don’t act like you’re too good to be talked to. ” – Kalen
“I’d have to agree with Kalen, you must look approachable. If a guy advances towards you don’t make that “What does this n**** want?” face. Don’t be too reserved either basically engage with at least one person so it doesn’t look like nobody can talk to you.” – DeVante

The Price of Being Independent

This generation of women holds strong to their independents. It’s an amazing feeling to be a strong, independent women. We have our own which is a beautiful thing. We are lawyers, doctors, politicians and possible presidents of the United States of America. We are reaching higher heights than ever before but this sometimes can come at a price. There is always something that suffers, and most times it is our relationships! Sometimes that power or independence creates tension in relationships. Women we forget we have to let the man,  be the man.

When women are breadwinners that can sometimes create barriers in the relationship. As strong women, we have to still show that we are dependent on our men. I know for some that will be a hard pill to swallow but we have to make our men feel needed. Especially if that’s the man we want to build a future with. We confuse caring for our men or showing that we can submit to our men as weakness, but that’s not necessarily true. If the man you’re with has your best interest at heart, loves God and you, it’s okay to show him your softer side.Women are not supposed to run the show, the man is the head. Let’s say it together – WE HAVE TO FOLLOW OUR MEN! Ok, now take a deep breath. It’s okay, I promise you because it’s going to pay off!

Let’s recap! Allow the man to be the man! Allow your man to take the lead! It’s okay to submit to your man when he has a relationship with God, loves you and has your best interest at heart.

Share below about what you think about letting the man be the man!

Love Always,

– A. Rochell