Everything, Everything: Book Review With Spoilers

 

So, if you don’t know I am one of those crazy people who have to read a book first before going to see a movie. When I saw the commercial for this movie, I immediately wanted to see it ASAP. I was telling my parents that I have to see this movie. And then I found out it was a book first, I literally couldn’t contain my joy. I love books – more than I can explain. Reading has always been a huge part of my life growing up. It makes me sad that I can’t read as much as I used to in high school, but I am trying to get back into the flow of reading.  Anyways! To the book….

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I started this book around 7PM on Thursday night and finished it Friday morning at about 9AM. It is a quick little read – very easy to read and get wrapped up in. There’s pictures and drawings throughout the pages and the main character Madeline is so easy to love. She’s a sweet 17 year old who’s very very very very very sick. So sick, that she has to live in a bubble to protect herself from her triggers. She has been sick her entire life. She loves to read (a girl after my own heart) and loves architecture and all things learning. Her life is pretty “content,” and then Olly moves in next door.

Let me tell you, Maddy and Olly’s interactions will literally have you blushing and remembering how it felt to be that young and in love. The book is so well written that you literally feel the excitement and giddy-ness of meeting a boy. In Maddy’s case, this is her meeting a boy for the very first time. Do you remember when you first started noticing boys (or girls) in a romantic way? I think I remember, in third grade I was in love with this boy named Morgan. Anyways. So Olly basically challenges Maddy in ways unimaginable. He even unintentionally causes her to leave her house for the first time and every time thereafter together. Olly has a great impact on Maddy, in my opinion. This was a great little read for someone who is into Young Adult fiction books and wants to get started reading with a light hearted, coming of age romantic book.

Here come the spoilers part.

I believe that Maddy and Olly going to Hawaii was literally the best thing. Like Olly says (and Maddy reintegrates) that chaos theory says that one little thing changes the course of everything else in a person’s life. I’m glad they went, even though Maddy almost died – had they not run away Maddy probably would’ve never learned the truth: that she’s not sick at all. I believe that what Maddy’s mother did was horrible. Just horrible and selfish. In effort to protect herself from feeling the loss and hurt from losing her husband and son, she literally gave her child this “rare” disease. She literally displays classic symptoms of Muchasuen by Proxy Syndrome. This is a type of child abuse that involves the exaggeration or fabrication of illnesses or symptoms by a primary caretaker. This is a type of mental illness that requires treatment, which the mother towards the end of the books sought.

I somewhat understand why Maddy’s mother did what she did… She just lost two of the loves of her life and the third was gravely sick. I get it, she’s scared… BUT I don’t think it was right for her to contain her daughter in the way that she did. Grief and love for that matter can make a person do crazy things. I do think it was a waste of settlement money from the accident. All that containment equipment, air filters, glass, and decontamination things – waste of money.

Overall I would give this book like 4/5. It was a great, quick little read. However I do wish it went into more detail about the characters after this discovery and more of their lives.

If you’ve read the book (or seen the movie), share below in the comments about your thought?? And If you have any book suggestions – Share those too.

XOXO,

– Tanesha

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Man Crush of Month: Charles

This month’s man crush is Charles and it is also his birthday month – so Happy Birthday Charles!!! I met Charles about 3 years ago, during an internship at Stanford University. He’s is one of the sweetest and kind-hearted young man I know. He is a single, 23 years old, from Amelia, Virginia. He works for the Cumberland County School District as a substitute teacher for three different schools. It is there he enjoys outing a smile on the faces of the next generation of workers and scholars. He is also the head coach for both the Varsity Wrestling Team and Varsity Boys’ Soccer Team. However, this is not Charles’ end goal – he plans on becoming a high school guidance counselor at a rural community high school. During his free time, Charles likes to play video games to unwind and watch professional wrestling shows. He is about to begin a training program that might allow him to make it into the larger professional company of WWE. A fun fact about Charles is that in his younger days, he was called an Oreo until he began attending college and truly discovered the meaning of Black Culture.

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How would you describe your personality in three words?

I’m a Paradox

 

Which do you prefer to listen to your heart or your brain? Why?

My heart. I’m a hopeless romantic so sometimes, the heart knows best what the brain does not.

 

Who is your celebrity crush?

Candice Patton

 

Who do you think should make the first move males or females? Why?

I don’t feel like the first move should be classified under either sex. Sometimes a woman will see what a man cannot when they first see a man and it’s the same with men – sometimes we see something before a woman will. So really either sex can make the first move and it’s deemed alright.

 

What’s the longest relationship you’ve been in? What did you learn?

Three years. That people grow and sometimes that means they grow out of the person you fell in love with.

 

What motivational words would you tell someone on the come-up?

Always believe in yourself because when you start to make it, the people who pushed you will become the people that will try to pull you back down.

 

What’s the most awkward date that you’ve ever been on?

Haven’t been on a date so I don’t even know.

 

Where do you see yourself in the next five years?

In five years, I’m either wrestling professional or working in someone’s high school making a difference in a child’s life. Hopefully, I’m engaged or married and waiting for the right time to have our first child.

 

What do you usually do to let a girl know that you are interested in her?

I tell them, “Hey I am interested in you and I was wondering can we get to know each other better?”

 

What is your favorite and least favorite thing about yourself?

My favorite thing is my commitment to whatever goal I set before myself to get it done. My least favorite thing is my height, I just want two more inches so I can date and not have to worry about a young lady being taller than me in her heels.

 

Who has been the most influential person in your life?

My mother.

What’s your personal theme song?

Rose Golden by Kid Cudi feature Willow Smith

 

What are your lifetime ambitions?

To have a family and be one of the greatest fathers and husbands to ever be imagined.

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What are your career goals?

To be a high school guidance counselor in a rural high school

 

How are you changing the world?

By giving even the worst labeled students a chance at a better life and believing in them.

 

What’s one thing you want the world to know about you and who you are?

I’m just a blunt honest Black man, who is a hopeless romantic that just wants to love and cherish the people in my life.

 

Why do men often overlook the average girl?

Because men want more. A man will always want to find the best as a trophy to show everyone and say “hey this is mine – look but never touch it.”

 

What are you most afraid of living in today’s society?

Jesus coming back before I can start a family.

 

How do you seize and take advantage of every single day?

By waking up and just trying

 

What do you feel men aren’t recognized enough for?

For caring for someone openly.

 

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Want to connect with Charles – Here’s his social media:

To check out all of Charles’ pictures follow his instagram

Charles’ Adventures Via Snapchat and Via Twitter

Or Add him on Facebook – Charles Franklin Taylor Jr

Man Crush of the Month: Trajuan

Happy Labor Day And The First Monday of September 2017! Can you believe we’re about to enter the last quarter of the year (well in October)? This year has literally flown by! Anyways, it is my pleasure to introduce September’s Man Crush of the Month: Trajuan Briggs.  He is an educator on the football field and in life. He coaches football at the University of New Mexico and is also pursuing his Masters in Sports Administration. He loves to read books to grow mentally and spiritually as well as go out to bowl. The only thing he believes is unique about him, is his mother is Nikywa Prevost – he states, “No one else in life can say that.”

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How would you describe your personality in three words?

Bowl Of Gumbo.

Which do you prefer to listen to your heart or your brain? Why?

Heart: I personally feel the brain will tell you what you want to hear. Your heart gives you that punch in the Soul if you know you’re doing something wrong and cannot dodge it.

Who is your celebrity crush?

Amerie… Can y’all tweet her this? I feel like we can be great in life together

Who do you think should make the first move males or females? Why?

Both. If you find interest & want to know that person get off your high horse and get your boots muddy

What’s the longest relationship you’ve been in? What did you learn?

1 1/2 years. If she says no she don’t want anything to drink or eat…. Buy her something anyway.

What motivational words would you tell someone on the come-up?

Life is full of stepping stones. Don’t be content in the now when you know there’s more to come across in the future.

What’s the most awkward date that you’ve ever been on?

The one where my date’s mamma invited her date inside but mine left me hanging at the door. No more double dates.

Where do you see yourself in the next five years?

Coaching College football and helping guys realize you can be an All-American on the field and in the CLASSROOM

What do you usually do to let a girl know that you are interested in her?

Text her “Hey Big Head”

What is your favorite and least favorite thing about yourself?

Favorite: I never take life too seriously

Least favorite: I don’t take life seriously enough lol

Who has been the most influential person in your life?

My little sister. Has really turned my mental around about having kids, treating women, and reevaluating my purpose.

What are your lifetime ambitions?

Be the best son, father, and husband that’s ever walked this Earth.

Why do men often look over the average girl?

What’s an average girl? Every woman is special in her own way whether it’s negative or positive. Don’t put yourself on a scale.

Why do guys tend to hide your feelings and not fully express them?

I can only speak for myself. Men don’t like to seem weak or if they are needy for affection. Plus personally I get weird around emotions being thrown out there it’s just like “ok well what now?”

What do guys do to make them feel better after a long day? What are your forms of self-care?

Watch ESPN or read. I can’t speak for everyone.

What are you most afraid of living in today’s society?

Having to whoop some young kids ass for breaking my sister’s heart… Kids be cold against they elders these days

How do you seize and take advantage of every single day? 

Ask myself all the time “What is your WHY?” You keep that in mind the things you dread doing to make you better become worthwhile.

What do you feel men aren’t recognized enough for?

Actually TRYING.

What’s the most discouraging part about being a man? How do you deal with it?

Well for me I played college football, I’m a member of Omega Psi Phi fraternity, and I’m a black man with a beard. So from the jump, the identification of being heartless, a player, and someone not to be taken seriously is irritating as hell. I’m no angel nor the most innocent but I can’t stand judgment off the jump.

How are you changing the world?

Letting others know that they can make the change. Can’t do it by yourself so why not teach others in return?

What’s one thing you want the world to know about you and who you are?

I’m not Fijian lol. I’m a black man so stop asking what I’m mixed with.

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Want to connect with Trajuan – Here’s his social media:

To check out all of Trajuan’s Pictures follow his Instagram

And to check out his adventures – check out his twitter

Tanesha, What Happened??

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Okay y’all, so I know with the last life update I said I was going to do better with posting And then I barely did any better! I promise this time I am really going to get better with this! I have already started scheduling out posts! (If I don’t get better, send me an email and yell at me. Well don’t really yell because I’m sensitive).

I am so so sorry, but sometimes life happens! Good news is I got accepted into this wonderful, incredible, magnificent Post-Baccularaute/ Graduate School Fellowship! Basically I had a little less than a month to get everything ready and together for me to move to *drum roll* Pittsburgh! So basically I moved 7 hours away from my home and family to embark on this wonderful (yet scary) adventure.

If I were to tell you that I was not feeling any anxiety about this, I would be lying to you! Moving out has been more difficult than I gave it credit for. Not only is moving physically exhausting (like I never want to move again, ever!), but its also mentally exhausting for me. I wanted nothing more for over a year to be able to move out into my own apartment away from my parents. But, the reality of it is I am very lonely without them. I really thought I was ready, however, my emotions proved that was lie.

I am slowly getting adjusted to being on my own though, and it is proving to great. It takes time to get used to new things. But if I would’ve waited until I felt I was ready to do anything, I would still be standing on the side of the pool and never would have jumped in.

If you are waiting to do something, this is your sign to just do it! Apply for that job, reach out to that old friend, look into grad school programs that you consider to be out of your league, shot your shoot with someone you’re interested in! JUST DO IT. The results will astound you. You owe it yourself to at least try. I am rooting for you!

Talk to you soon.

XOXO,

– Tanesha Renae

Man Crush of the Month: Tra’von Armond

August is my favorite month of the year! The weather starts to break and it is not awfully hot anymore. It is also my pleasure and honor to introduce this month’s man crush Tra’Von Armond Williams or Tra’Von Armond formerly “Traykash.” I first met Tra’Von during Honors Visitation Weekend at Hampton University in 2011 and it has truly been an honor to watch him flourish. He was literally the Big Man on Campus that everyone wanted to either be like or get to know. He’s 22 years old from Columbia, South Carolina. He’s taken (sorry ladies)! Tra’Von Armond is an brand manager, and entertainment connoisseur who is passionate about elevating artistic talents into professional careers. He is involved in assisting talent with the necessary backing in order to propel their brands to higher levels. He has also worked with television and radio networks, and small businesses, which all provided the much needed experience that lead him to collaborate with several notable companies on an array of marketing campaigns to include Revolt TV, and Atlantic Records. With his charismatic personality, humble nature, and determined mentality he is sure to “shake the industry.”

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Now on the rest of the interview!

Do you have any interesting fun facts about yourself?

As a kid, I enjoyed watching shows like Dragon Ball Z, The Crocodile Hunter, 106 & Park.

How would you describe your personality in three words?

Personable, Understanding, Motivated

Which do you prefer to listen to your heart or your brain? Why?

I prefer to listen to my heart. I believe that God speaks to us through our hearts, and not our minds.

Who is your celebrity crush?

She was on one side of the screen and I was on the couch, and ever since we laid eyes while I watching ATL, Lauryn London has been my lady. Of course she doesn’t know this special moment, but I remember it just like yesterday !

Who do you think should make the first move males or females? Why?

I think men should make the first move. If a man and woman are both in the same room, and the man doesn’t make the first move, it simply means he isn’t as interested as he could be.

What’s the longest relationship you’ve been in? What did you learn?

The longest relationship I been in wasn’t consistent but it lasted off and on for over six years. Through my mistakes, I learned how to be a man and not a boy.

What motivational words would you tell someone on the come-up?

My favorite quote is, “Don’t complain about how much is on your plate, when your goal was to eat.” I use this because we oftentimes want to reach success, however we sometimes fail to realize with on our journey towards success the roads can become overwhelming.

What’s the most awkward date that you’ve ever been on?

Ha, I’m an awkward person, so a typical awkward date in my eyes was a very normal one.

Where do you see yourself in the next five years?

In the next five years I see myself finishing all of my professional schooling, and beginning to live out all of my dreams.

What do you usually do to let a girl know that you are interested in her?

Not to sound like a creep but I try to be in the same environment as her as much as possible without acknowledging her. I promise not a stalker lol, maybe this answer did not come out the way I intended it to !

What is your favorite and least favorite thing about yourself?

My favorite thing about myself is that how determined I am, and my least favorite is that I oftentimes care what people think of me.

Who has been the most influential person in your life?

Behind God and my mother of course, the most influential person in my life is Sean P.Diddy Combs. I admire his work ethic, his own determination and his success.

What’s your personal theme song?

My personal theme song is Hustler Musik – Lil Wayne

What are your lifetime ambitions?

One day I want to be able to impact the world on a global level. It would be amazing to win a Nobel Peace Prize.

What are your career goals?

Honestly, I want to either be a CEO of Universal Music Group or Viacom, and I wont stop until I make it.

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Why do guys tend to hide your feelings and not fully express them?

Guys are conditioned to not show feelings or show their emotions because society deems that as not being masculine enough.

What do guys do to make them feel better after a long day? What are your forms of self-care?

I can’t speak for every man but I know for me SLEEP is everything. I feel much better after a good nap.

What are you most afraid of living in today’s society?

A Trump society, literally !

How do you seize and take advantage of every single day?

I seize and take advantage of every single day through organization. Recently I purchased this black journal from Office Depot. This journal serves as an organizational tool providing a place to jot down my “to-do list”, notes, ideas, and biblical inspirational quotes.

What’s the most discouraging part about being a man? How do you deal with it?

The most discouraging part about being a man is the burden of trying to fulfill societal expectations of being a good man.

How are you changing the world?

I believe I am changing the world by giving young men a proper role model to admire and strive to be greater than.

What’s one thing you want the world to know about you and who you are?

I want the world to know, that if you get a chance to get to know me, I am not the person you may have heard about. Get to know me for me, and not for what you have heard. I promise you will not regret it !

Do you have a brand? Share what it’s purpose, mission and goals here –

Well you guys are the first to hear it but I am in the process of rebranding from “TrayKash” to Tra’VonArmond. Still stay #PluggedIn for what’s to come. I am still the same me, just the documentary from a different angle. Meanwhile you can follow me @Tra’VonArmond ( I think this article will release after the big switch)

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Want to connect with Tra’Von – Here’s his social media:

To check out all of Tra’Von’s Pictures follow his Instagram

Tra’von’s Adventures via Twitter or Snapchat

Check Him Out on Facebook

travonarmond.com COMING SOON

The Armond Foundation a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization COMING SOON

Man Crush of the Month: DJ Hammer

Summer, Summer, Summertime! **sings** Welcome to another exciting issue of Man Crush of the Month! This month’s crush is Chris Ham, also known as DJ Hammer. He’s a 24-year-old, single man from Richmond, Virginia. He graduated from Ferrum College with a Computer Information Systems Degree (Tech Support Emphasis) and a Business Minor. While attending Ferrum, Chris played football for four years. He currently works in Richmond, VA as a full time, Data Analyst. Outside of that, He has been a DJ for 7 years, Co-CEO of an independent record label (MADHouse Muzik) based in the Hampton Roads Area, as well as working on a handful of business projects that are currently expanding along the east coast. He has also dedicated his life towards striving for greatness, not only within himself but as well as within the hearts and minds of others.

“Everyone is capable of achieving whatever it is that you could ever want it just takes the right mindset and environment to do so”

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Now on the rest of the interview!

How would you describe your personality in three words?

Knowledgeable, Driven, SuperHero

What’s the longest relationship you’ve been in? What did you learn?

2 years. I won’t say that it made me give up on Love, but I will say it taught me to take a much more focused approach on loving myself first…the rest will happen eventually.

What motivational words would you tell someone on the come-up?

“You can’t lose if you never quit” – Hammer

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Where do you see yourself in the next five years?

Approaching retirement from Corporate America

Who has been the most influential person in your life?

God

What’s your personal theme song?

Redbone x Childish Gambino (Actually anything from the “Awaken, My Love!” album)

What are your lifetime ambitions?

Impact local, national and global change
What are your career goals?

My career goal is to achieve an amount of wealth that will allow myself to become financially free, which by default will put me in the position to effect real change in the world.

Why do guys tend to hide your feelings and not fully express them?

I believe guys hide their feelings due to past hurt which then turns into the “Fool me once” mentality.

What are you most afraid of living in today’s society?

I don’t believe I have been given a spirit of fear…with that being said the only person I fear in today’s society is myself.

How do you seize and take advantage of every single day?

Looking at each new day as another chance to compete in the game of Life!

What do you feel men aren’t recognized enough for?

Men will always feel like they aren’t recognized enough for the work that they do. Simply due to the fact that as a man you always want to compare yourself to someone else.

How are you changing the world?

I am changing the world by genuinely caring. By empowering, motivating and increasing people in societies mental, spiritual and financial well-being.

Do you have a brand? Share what it’s purpose, mission and goals here –

Yes, the brand originally being Team Hammer has as of the year 2017 been molded into what is now named Hammer Global. The purpose of Hammer Global is to always strive for more and to never be complacent with anything in life. It is much more than a DJ business and it is way more than just achieving wealth. Hammer Global is a lifestyle in which all are welcome to become apart of. With the end goal being to enrich lives, empower our youth of tomorrow and truly LIVE.

What’s one thing you want the world to know about you and who you are?

If I could narrow it down to a single thing that I would want the world to know about me and who I am is that I will never give up in people. As long as we believe in one another we can accomplish anything.

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Want to connect with DJ Hammer – Here’s his social media:

To check out all of DJ Hammer’s Pictures follow his Instagram

DJ Hammer’s Adventures Via Twitter or Snapchat

On Facebook – DJ Hammer

And His Personal Website – www.TheDJHammer.com

MadHouse Muzik’s Instagram  And Facebook

Man Crush of the Month: Quenton Jordan

Happy  June!!! I know you all have been waiting so patiently for this month’s man crush! This month’s crush is Quenton Jordan. He’s a major heartthrob from Chicago, IL – he’s 22 years old and single (!!!). We both attended Hampton University and he is a person I definitely look up to. He has this crazy work ethic and natural intelligence that I admire so much.  He embodies the “grind day is everyday” lifestyle. He is currently juggling two careers: one as a business and technology integration analyst at one of the world’s largest consulting firms (fancy lol) and the other as the Co-Founder of a non-profit organization geared towards revitalizing the concept of financial literacy and spreading it to underrepresented groups throughout the U.S. His main hobby is to give back to those who’ve paved the way for myself and others and to those less fortunate than myself. He also enjoys long walks on the beach, candlelight dinners, and other overly romantic activities (“ladies, peep the relationship status”). He truly enjoys trying new foods, watching movies, arguing about sports, and learning new things.

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What makes Quenton most unique is that he is extremely fun to be around and that’s not something everyone can honestly say. He came from a difficult background and now he’s making it to where he is today, puts him in a great position to where he is relatable to people from, almost, all walks of life. He tends to have a different perspective than most people on a number of topics, which makes conversations with him very informative and just great overall. Everyone walks away with some additional knowledge. That’s unique because most people can’t tell you the last thing they learned while in a random conversation.

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Do you have any interesting fun facts about yourself?

I’m the funniest person I’ve ever met.

How would you describe your personality in three words?

Dope Ass Individual

Which do you prefer to listen to your heart or your brain? Why?

Brain – I’m a logical person

Who is your celebrity crush?

Draya

Who do you think should make the first move males or females? Why?

Ladies first, as any true gentleman would say.

What’s the longest relationship you’ve been in? What did you learn?

3 years – Working relationships are all about sacrifice and timing.

What motivational words would you tell someone on the come-up?

If you don’t plan on giving 100% just stop while you’re ahead. Half-ass effort breeds half-ass results. You’ll be beaten by someone who’s fully committed every time.

What’s the most awkward date that you’ve ever been on?

I went out with a girl who was extremely attractive, based on appearance, but she couldn’t hold a convo about anything relevant. I hate wasting words about dumb stuff, so I cut the date short.

Where do you see yourself in the next five years?

In the next five years, I’ll either be in my final year of an MBA program (Harvard or NYU, fingers crossed) or I will have just obtained my MBA. My nonprofit will have tripled in size and quadrupled in impact. I’ll be working on becoming a life coach, and hopefully, my first child will be here making me the happiest man in the world.

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What do you usually do to let a girl know that you are interested in her?

Like pictures from months ago on IG.

What is your favorite and least favorite thing about yourself?

My favorite thing about myself is that I’m fully aware of my strengths and areas that could use improvement. My least favorite thing about myself is that I don’t take the time to really appreciate small things, achievements, etc. I’m always looking for what’s next as soon as I complete the last thing. I don’t celebrate myself enough.

Who has been the most influential person in your life?

My grandfather.

What’s your personal theme song?

Turn My Swag On – Soulja Boy aka Big Draco

How are you changing the world?

I’m directly and indirectly challenging every person I interact with to step their game up and become the best them they can be.

Why do men often look over the average girl?

Because if you’re ‘average’ then that means there are millions more like you, and I already know everything I need to know about you without you having to tell me. There needs to be something unique that attracts me to you over the tons of other ‘average’ people walking around. I don’t think anyone should refer to themselves as ‘average’ or ‘typical’ or anything of that sort. Makes you sound dull. If I ask you to tell me about yourself, you should be able to go on forever because you know yourself better than anyone else and should love talking about how great you are. I know I’m not average, so why would I settle for that?

Why do guys tend to hide your feelings and not fully express them?

This has traditionally been viewed as being feminine. Most men, including myself, still live with this mindset in certain situations.

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How do you seize and take advantage of every single day?

I set daily goals – what do I want to get accomplished today, what do I need to ensure that it happens. I set long term goals with incremental steps in between and work on achieving them daily. I ensure that I leave every day with a new piece of knowledge on at least one topic.

What do you feel men aren’t recognized enough for?

People, in general, aren’t recognized enough for their individual contributions to making the world a better place. I wouldn’t categorize it based on gender. I actually wouldn’t categorize it at all. I think this is better when looked at on an individual basis.

What’s one thing you want the world to know about you and who you are?

I don’t have any talents that others can’t acquire. I simply take advantage of every learning opportunity and train myself mentally to be able to tackle any obstacles in my way. If everyone did the same, the world would be a better place.

Do you have a brand? Share what it’s purpose, mission, and goals here –

RichBefore25 has been my personal brand for the last few years and has recently developed into a business concept, which is in the beginning phases of building its own brand. RichBefore25 is a nonprofit agency focused on spreading financial literacy to members of traditionally underrepresented groups throughout the United States, motivating individuals to pursue their passions, and providing mentorship to those in need. Acting as a connector, linking forward-thinking firms, organizations, and individuals to members of the target demographic, RichBefore25 seeks to leave a lasting impact on communities across the country.

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Want to connect with Quenton – Here are his social media:

To check out all of Quenton’s pictures follow his Instagram

Also, Check Out Rich Before 25’s Website

 

Let It Be Done In Love!

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“Live a life filled with love, following the example of Christ. He loved us and offered himself as a sacrifice for us, a pleasing aroma to God.” Ephesians 5:2 NLT

A few weeks ago on my YouTube channel, I talked about how to be a better person and one of the things I said to do is to do things with love. In the video, I didn’t go into a lot of practical ways to live in love so that’s what this blog post is about.

  1. Love yourself. This is first and foremost! I mean, honestly think about it – how can you live in love and let love follow freely from your heart if you don’t even love yourself first. Your heart should be filled to the brim with love and once you start to love yourself more it will overflow and pour out into everything you do and touch.
  2. Be Considerate. For me, this is done by considering other people’s feelings and what they might be going through in their lives. For example, if someone is being a poor friend to me, instead of lashing out, getting upset, or even cussing them out – I always first try to give the person the benefit of the doubt. Maybe my friend is under a lot of stress and pressure these days, or maybe this person doesn’t know they are being unkind.
  3. Perform Acts of Kindness. This one is pretty self-explanatory. You don’t have to go all out or even spend money (such as paying for the car behind you foods/Starbucks behind you). You could just hold the door for someone and say “I hope you have a blessed rest of your day,” or if you see someone frowning tell them hello! You never know what people are going through, and your smile or hello, or “have a great day,” might help them get through those tough situations in their life.
  4. Love encourages more love. The more you outwardly live your life with love, I firmly believe that the more love will return to your life. I honestly feel like the more I’ve been intentional about being kind and living in love – the happier I have been. I no longer allow people to upset me, and just love them in spite of themselves.

I hope this encourages you to live in love! What are some ways you will begin to live your life in love? Share below in the comments!

XOXO,

– Tanesha Renae

Man Crush of the Month: Christian

This month’s man crush is none other than Christian Faber-Kinney. He is a single, 23 years old from Williamsburg, VA. He is currently in his first year of graduate school at Hampton University in pursuit of a Master’s degree in Sports Administration. He also has a bachelor’s of science degree in Aviation Management. He choose Aviation as his major because he believed it would put him in a good position to make money. However, as Christian matured and got older, he realized it isn’t about the money. That’s why he changed his focus to Sports Administration. He wants to be able to coach the sports that he loves and help shape others. He states, “That is really what life is about.” Christian has been homeless since he was 19 years old and he realized that it is a cold world out there. He believes that people need to love and uplift one another more. What makes Christian unique is that he is super competitive. He wants to win at any and everything. He knows that if he wins in different facets of life, something is going to change his circumstances in his favor. He loves to listen to music, workout, play chess and hang out with his family and friends.

Now on to the interview portion!

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Do you have any interesting fun facts about yourself?

Honestly, I’m a simple guy. You get what you see. But one fact that most people don’t know about me is that I’m super goofy. I try to play it off, but I know I’m not the smoothest guy. I like to laugh at myself and with friends about the most random, simple things.

How would you describe your personality in three words?

Determined, Competitive, Empathetic

Which do you prefer to listen to your heart or your brain? Why?

My brain, definitely. Sometimes in life, decisions need to be made by putting emotions aside. Sometimes temporary feelings can lead you astray from the absolute goal.

Who is your celebrity crush?

Definitely. Taraji P. Henson. Black don’t crack, man.

Who do you think should make the first move males or females? Why?

Males, always. Men have had to follow a social norm where we are supposed to be courageous and confident. You should be able to approach a girl, first. Call me old fashioned, but I don’t question it.

What’s the longest relationship you’ve been in? What did you learn?

I was in a relationship for 1 and 1/2 years. I learned a lot about communication. As a generation, we aren’t very personable. Sometimes we fall back instead of being assertive and communicating problems or feelings with one another. It’s cliché but holds universal truth.

What motivational words would you tell someone on the come-up?

Keep the faith. God won’t put you through any situation that He knows you can’t handle. He has a plan for you.

What’s the most awkward date that you’ve ever been on?

I’ve never really been on an awkward date. I’m pretty good at making people comfortable with me and the moment. I’m not hard to warm up to and vice versa.

Where do you see yourself in the next five years?

To be honest, I’d love to be playing in the NFL and at the top of the punting statistics. But who really knows? So many opportunities, but God has my back. He’ll put me where he believes I need to be.

What do you usually do to let a girl know that you are interested in her?

I’ll be pretty upfront. I’ll just tell her. I’m 23, so I don’t like to beat around the bush. I expect the same in return.

What is your favorite and least favorite thing about yourself?

My least favorite thing about myself is that I’m flirtatious. I know that I’m a guy, but I feel like gotta be more reserved sometimes. My favorite thing about myself is my optimism. I always take the positives out of any situation. Life could be way worse.

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Who has been the most influential person in your life?

Hands down, my father. He’s shown me how to act, how not to act, and how to be a man. I’ve learned so much from him, sometimes without him even knowing.

What’s your personal theme song?

Definitely “Love Yourz” by J Cole. I remember sleeping in my truck overnight or in shelters and just trying to keep myself strong. “Love Yourz” just exemplified that I’m not alone and that I can get through anything life hits me with. “There’s beauty in the struggle”. I learned that first hand. Adversity built character and taught me to love my life and circumstances.

What are your lifetime ambitions?

I would love to make it to the NFL and start up or improve homeless shelters in my area. A lot of people don’t know but shelters aren’t provided in most areas, outside of the winter time. So many people go through hard nights without places to sleep or eat.

What are your career goals?

I want to be happy. It’s that simple. It’s not about the money. I’ve done without it. I just want to see people around me happy and I want to be right there with them.

How are you changing the world?

I participate in reading days at local schools and I also help coach youth football and track. The youth is really where the change starts. Those are the minds that will grow to change the world one day.

What’s one thing you want the world to know about you and who you are?

I just want the world to know that I’m just another kid starting from the bottom and building a dream. I want the world to know that; with God, faith, and hard work, anything is possible in this world.

Why do men often look over the average girl?

There’s no average person, much less an average girl. We’re all unique. I do believe that as men, we need to take our time and be more observant of character over looks, though. That may be part of the problem.

Why do guys tend to hide your feelings and not fully express them?

I know personally, it could do with relationships. I didn’t have a mother figure in my life. I was raised by my father. Didn’t really experience an emotional figure in my life. In turn, this made it difficult for me to express my feelings. I was very hardened. However, the older I get, I realize that emotions are necessary and need to be communicated so that relationships can work.

What do guys do to make them feel better after a long day? What are your forms of self-care?

Honestly, a haircut and shower. You look good, you feel good. Simple as that. My biggest form of self-care is my consumption of water. Water is the best thing for your skin, energy, etc.

What are you most afraid of living in today’s society?

I would say war. I don’t believe in confrontation and I hate to get involved with politics, but I feel like that’s where the US is heading. Especially with Trump as our leader.

How do you seize and take advantage of every single day?

I try to win in anything I do. It’s that simple.

What do you feel men aren’t recognized enough for?

I feel like we’re well recognized. I mean look at this interview. That’s a blessing in itself.

What’s the most discouraging part about being a man? How do you deal with it?

I think our dependability. Everyone depends on the man in the family or situation. I have to constantly keep everyone encouraged and motivated. Give them a secure feeling. This presents a challenge. Some live up to it, some don’t.

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3 Tips On Spring Cleaning Your Life!!

3 Tips On Spring Cleaning Your Life!!

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Spring time is a time to start new! Flowers are blooming, new little animals are being born, pollen is everywhere in the air and it just such a happy time. Many people (including my mother) love this time of year because it means spring cleaning. Spring cleaning is not just for the physical things but you can also use it as a time to clean up some of the non-physical things in your life. Here are three quick tips on spring cleaning your life!

#1 – Evaluate friendships. Now, this doesn’t mean get rid of every single person in your circle – but rather evaluate the people you’re calling friends. Consider the following questions: Does this person have my best interest at heart? Do I have their best interests at heart? Does this person tell me the truth or comfort me with lies? Do we encourage each other to do the right thing? Do I trust this person without hesitation?

#2 – Declutter your social media/spaces. I personally love to change my phone background as a way of “freshening” up my phone. Lately, I have been into bright and airy photos for my phone background. I also would suggest clearing out old apps that you no longer use, or just cleaning up how apps appear on your phone/iPad/whatever device you use. I would also suggest clearing out some of your old things on social media, such as that old photo album you created on Facebook when you were 16, old tweets about a fling, or even IG pictures that are more than three years old. Take time to also purge your Facebook friends list – I hardly ever do this, but this year I am really going to evaluate the people that are coming up on my timeline and decide if I really still want/need them around.

#3 – Physically clean up! For me, this not only means to clean up your surroundings such as getting rid of old clothes and junk but also for me to clean up my act. Maybe you’re perfect, but I know that I am not and there are areas of my life that I want to clean up. Such as I want to stop allowing so many things to trigger my emotions as well as I want to love people the way that God loves me. So in order to do that I have to intentionally focus and work on changing these aspects of my life.

What are some ways you are going to spring clean your life this year? Share below in the comments because I would love to hear other ideas!

Love always, XO

–  Tanesha