Tuesday Morning Thoughts: The Glo’ Up

Let me tell you what is the hardest thing in the entire world – growing up. Not just physically, but mentally as well. I don’t know why it is so hard, possibly because we get so comfortable with the way we are, that once we try to change it up our minds and bodies are like WOAH THERE, GIRLFRIEND.

The older I get I realize that the maturation/growing up/the glo’ up process is hard. It is uncomfortable and sometimes even painful. Think about a caterpillar. At first, the little bug is just living his life then suddenly, his world is turned upside down. It has to suddenly wrap itself up in a small cocoon, which I imagine is very uncomfortable. So he is in this cramped space and then is growing – his body doing things it’s never done before, etc. He’s stuck and cramped and spending a lot of time thinking about what is happening and self-reflecting. And all he can do is literally go through that process. But the end result is a BEAUTIFUL butterfly.

You have to go thru some things first. But the end result is always so incredibly worth it. I know I’m maturing every day and I’m proud of myself. And you should be too if you are in this period of growth.

Keep Growing and Stay Blessed.

– Tanesha.

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Monday Thoughts: Expect Greater

 

“She quietly expected great things to happen to her, and no doubt that’s one of the reasons why they did.” – Zelda Fitzgerald.
Expectations can sometimes cause disappointments, however, if you always are thinking something bad or unfavorable will happen to you – that is exactly what will happen. I’m a huge believer in mind over matter. Your mind is the most powerful weapon you have. Be sure to use it for your benefit. Every day this week – Expect Greater. Greater success in your career, or greater understanding in a complicated situation. 🙂
Stay Encouraged,
– T.Renae

Monday Thoughts: Run Yours

Stay in your lane and focus only on the race you are running! Once you start dipping into others’ lanes and trying to run their races, you’ll miss the blessings that are ONLY in your lane. There’s always seems to be this little nagging voice in our minds that make us want to compare our races and lanes to another person. Truthfully, what they are doing in their lane is none of your business. Everyone’s race is not even the same, nor can we see their entire lane. You might be running cross country race and your friend might be a sprinter. But if you would try to jump over there – not only would you not know what you’re doing – but you’re also paying attention to the wrong goal. Focus on & Run yours.

Be Blessed,

– T. Renae

Sorry, I’ve Missed You!

Welcome Back. Welcome Back. Welcome Back.

Hello, Ladies & Co. I’ve missed you! I know what you’re thinking, where have y’all been since February/March!? But I needed to take a step back from blogging to pull my life together. A lot of stuff hit me at once, and I couldn’t continue to blog and keep up with my life.

However, in the words of Bryson Tiller, “I’m back & I’m better.”

Be on the lookout, a lot of new content, rebranding, information and other things coming soon.

Love you long time,

– T.Renae

Guest Post: Glamorous Girls who LOVE God

So when the founder of this wonderful, and awesome movement called God, Glitter and Glad Ministries– I felt really like unqualified to do it. I thought about calling LP, and asking her to reconsider me writing it, and being featured, but the day before I was going to call her I had this crazy dream. I don’t exactly remember what happened in the dream (sorry to disappoint!), but I remember waking up feeling like God was calling me out to do it. Thus, here we are.

Being a Glamorous Girl, who loves God, probably means a bunch of things to different people, but for me, it means the following things.

  • First and foremost, it means to be a girl after God’s heart. My number one desire in life is to please God. I love God so much, that I don’t want to disappoint him. I go out of my way to make sure I am praying every day, staying in my word, and loving every person I come in contact with.
  • It means, being uncomfortable. At times, I don’t understand where God places me, but I know in the end it always works out for the greater good (“And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.” Romans 8:28). So even when I am uncomfortable or feel awkward – I know that the result is pleasing God, which is good for me.
  • Being set apart in the best, most inclusive club there is – the Club of Jesus Christ. You will gain some of the most amazing Christian brothers and sisters that are doing great things, but also will hold you accountable to your walk and journey with God. You will also be set apart in more positive ways than negative. Opportunities and blessing will come your way, and you won’t be able to do anything but thank God for the great works He is doing through you.
  • Some of the old folks in my church used to say “People should be able to see Christ in you, and that maybe the only image of Him they’ll ever see.” To me, being a Glam Girl for God, means that you are going to be held to a higher standard than other people, which isn’t always a bad thing. (“And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what [is] that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.” – Romans 12:2)

Being a Glamorous Girl who loves God isn’t about being Glamorous, but more so about having God within you, and making sure others receive God in them as well. Be a blessing to others, and you will surely be blessed.

Love and Blessings Always,
Tanesha Renae

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Monday Mindset For Love: Week 2

Welcome to Week 2 everyone in the month of love! We are so excited that you continuing this journey to love with us.

Matters of the heart must always be taken seriously, and you must be realistic with yourself. Last week, we spent time considering what we bring to the table. A friend of mine once said that you can’t go after what you want, unless you know what you want. This week’s challenge is to make your check list.

“Assignment” – I would fold up a sheet of paper into thirds, and label each section with Wants, Needs, and Deal Breakers, respectively. Really think about things you want, need, and won’t settle for. Wants are typically physical things, such as dark hair, 6’7’’ height, or anything like that. Needs are typically personality characters, such as honesty, trustworthiness, etc. Now, Deal Breakers are things you will not settle for. Like if you meet a guy with this trait, or characteristic – you won’t even consider this guy for dating.

I’m going to use myself as an example – I want a guy who’s tall, but I need him to be affectionate, and I won’t settle for him not being a Christian.

What are some of your wants and needs? Share below in our comments!

Keep It Classy,

– T. Renae.

Dear Ready for Love?

Dear ladies and company, so I am in my senior year of my senior year of college and I have never been on a date. I really want to you know start mingling with men in my age group or even a little older because I think I am ready for a relationship. I’m not exactly sure where to begin with the dating game. I want to be wowed and treated like a queen, however, what I’m seeing now in the dating game is like boys running games on girls running games on guys it is just not OK! So, how do I start dating without compromising my standards? – Ready for Love?

Dear Ready For Love,

First, it is really good that you have realized that you’re at the point of being ready to date. So many young ladies these days are just jumping into the dating world without being ready. First I would set your boundaries out. What are you willing, and unwilling to accept while dating? Maybe you want him to pay for the first date, but are willing to compromise and go dutch on dates 2-3. Also, I would figure out what you really need, what you would like, and what you can compromise on and what you won’t. I think through this process, you will be able to be a little bit more open with guys. As well as you will be able to stand firm in what you want and what you deserve. Then you can start going on dates – maybe some online dating sites such as POF, or Tinder, or the Bae App, or have your friends set up you up with some of their friends (at least you know the guys will be decent humans, unless you have shitty friends). And then, just let whatever happens, happen.

Keep It Classy,

– T. Renae

 

2015 Reflections

As 2016 has just started, I’ve given myself a few days to really reflect on the past year and figure out what I’ve learned, what I’ll do differently and what must change for this new year. I’ve learned so much and I just want to share my reflection as a means to inspire you to reflect over your past year as well.

I deserve better. I’ve put up with a lot of things that I shouldn’t have in 2015 with my friends. For me, it’s especially hard for me to voice my opinions or feelings because of fear of hurting someone else’s feelings. There’s no reason why I put up with as much as I did, and this year I am looking forward to standing up more for myself and not allowing myself to be treated any kind of way.

Along with this, I’ve found that you are your biggest support has to come from within. No one is going to support you, like you. Even if you support everyone and their momma’s businesses, startups, and ideas – it won’t be reciprocated. I don’t know why I expect the support and love I pour out into people to be returned but quite frankly it probably won’t ever be. And that’s okay.

I need to take more time to work on myself, pamper myself and love myself unapologetically. Sometimes I give too much to other people, and not enough to myself. In 2016, I plan on giving the same amount to myself, as I give others. Also, just work on loving myself flaws and all – no one is perfect and I shouldn’t expect to be either. Sometimes I feel like I hold myself to this unobtainable standard of living and how I live. I have to learn that the standard in my head isn’t the end all to myself. It’s okay to mess up sometimes.

With that being said, I’ve also learned how strong I am as a person – not physically, but emotionally and mentally. I can handle almost anything anyone throws at me. This year has been the year of challenges. With the pursuit of graduate school, and applying for everything humanly possible (scholarships, trips, diversity weekends, etc). I can do pretty much anything I put my mind to and I need to walk in that truth.

I think those are the main takeaways from 2015 for me. What were you major lessons in 2015 – Share them below in the comments!

Keep It Classy,

– T. Renae

21 things I’ve learned since turning 21.

Happy June 2ND, also known as MY HALF BIRTHDAY!! It is official – today at 1:50ish am, I have been 21 years old for entire 6 months! Crazy right? Normally I don’t celebrate this day, however I thought with June being “Love Yourself” Month here at the site, I would talk about some of the things I’ve learned in the last six months as a form of self-reflection.

  1. Not everyone has the same moral code and values as you were raised with.
  2. Do not expect anything from anyone, so you’re not disappointed.
  3. It’s OK to do things alone.
  4. Breaking out of your comfort zone, is addictive.
  5. “And if not, God is still good.”
  6. You won’t get every opportunity; give others a chance to be great.
  7. I am not ready for children yet: babysitting is enough. And that is okay.
  8. It’s okay to be an introvert and extrovert!
  9. I will not and cannot make everyone happy, while maintaining my own happiness.
  10. Life is hard, but I am BARELY more than equipped to handle it.
  11. I deserve more than I give myself credit for.
  12. I am not ready for a real adult 9-5-work life. I have to work my own hours, or at least not work until after 10 AM.
  13. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and I am the beholder.
  14. People are always going to have something to say about your goals and life plans – remember they are your plans not anyone else.
  15. Just because everyone is doing “more real life” things such as having kids, getting engaged, and married, and having jobs, does not mean that you are not where you are supposed to be in life.
  16. Don’t be discouraged by critics of your goals – there are so many critics without credentials.
  17. Continue to be great, and let your light shine on the world.
  18. WORK HARD – at every single thing you do. Give no less than 100% to everything you do.
  19. Always behave kinder than you feel, you never know what someone else is going through.
  20. Love fearlessly.
  21. God loves you, no matter how short you fall, or how badly you mess up. He still loves and cares about you.

Keep It Classy, 

-T.Renae