My Favorite Beauty Products – Part 2 Lipsticks and Lip Care!!

Welcome welcome welcome to my favorite beauty products part 2 (check out part 1 here) !! This post will be all about my favorite lipstick/lip care items! Like I said previously I am by no means a fashion or beauty blogger (although sometimes I wish I was!). I just thought the holiday season is coming up, and who doesn’t love beauty products?! These aren’t in any order. (Helpful hint – there are links to all the products when you click on their names.)

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The Lip Bar‘s Liquid Matte (specifically Bawse lady). I was first introduced to this brand at Hampton University where the creator Melissa Butler (an HBCU Grad) hosted a seminar about beauty. It was super inspiring and honestly changed a bit of how I look at myself and made me much more conscious of how I talk to and about myself. She encouraged us to speak lovingly about ourselves. Moving on, I cannot stress enough how much I love this lip color. I only really wear matte lip colors (just a personal preference). My favorite thing about this matte lip color is I never feel like my lips are dry, and they never look crusty. Part of the problem with matte lip color is it tends to dry your lips out, and just look gross after a while. But ABSOLUTELY NOT with this liquid matte lipstick. My mom is even hooked on this one. Honestly, all of her lip line is amazing – go buy her products now!

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My next favorite is SmashBox’s Always On Matte Liquid Lipstick. This might sound strange but I really love the smell of this liquid lipstick. It’s not too harsh – it’s what a lipstick should smell like. Another great thing about this liquid lipstick is the applicator. It’s sort of different from regular liquid lipstick applicators – it’s much bigger. It does seem a little daunting at first but I’ve grown to love it immensely because I feel like I can outline my lips much better and more precisely. I also love how rich the color is and how long it lasts. For example, I wore the Bawse shade for homecoming, and it lasted all day – I was out from about 11:30am ’til about 12AM that night and it still looked amazing when I got home. I didn’t even want to take it off!

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Next, we have the bath and body work’s Ultra Mentha. This item is more of a lip care product in my opinion. I only use it after I’ve used one of my more drying lip colors and my lips are looking dry. Sometimes I even wear it to bed, if I know I have an early morning and I still want to look fresh and put together. More recently I’ve been using it as a pre-treatment before I put on my make-up. Just to make sure my lips are as supple and perfect as possible before putting on another lip color. It has menthol in it so it gives you this tingly/cooling sensation on your lips when you wear it. On their website, they said it could also help with bad breath! Bonus tip – it tastes amazing so even if you eat a little you’ll probably be happy about it!

Disclaimer: I was not compensated in any way to review or talk about these products (it would be nice but no). I just love them so much and I thought that you all might love them too!

What are some of your favorite beauty products for your lips? Share below in the comments!

XOXO,

– Tanesha

Monday Thoughts: Face Your Fears

Happy Monday Everyone! My internship wanted us to have some “lasting memories” and team building activities before the program ends. So they paid for us to go to this Adventure Park in Virginia Beach. So basically, it’s like a ropes obstacle course up in the trees. So I have a slight extreme fear of heights. I had already decided earlier in the week that I was not going to get up in the trees – they can’t make me do anything, right?

So fast forward to getting there, I spent 30 minutes debating if I was actually going to go up in the course. Mind you, this is probably the safest way to go climbing they have steel ropes that can hold up to 500 pounds. I finally go out there on the ropes and I felt so connected with God. Possibly because I was scared out of my mind, but I feel like my faith increased by like 50 million. It was just me and God, and my friend in front of me screaming for me to “keep going.” Afterwards, I felt so good. I accomplished something on my bucket list, as well as faced my fear. I feel like I can do anything I set my mind to with a little prayer and faith.


I encourage all of you to do something that scares you. I believe that doing something that scares you, builds your confidence up. Even if it is something slight like making a phone call, doing mental math, public speaking, or even talking to your crush.

Go Forth and conquer your fears, as well as build your confidence.

Love Always,

– Tanesha.

Gratitude Challenge: Week 5

“Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things. ” – Robert Brault

First of all congratulations on almost completing this month’s challenge! This is the last week so to end the month, spend time reflecting on the spirit of gratitude. Even if you only were grateful for the little things. Think about the things in your gratitude journal that you were consistently thankful for. Also, try to continue this challenges once the month is over. A little gratitude goes a long way.

What are you thankful for?

– Ladies & Co. 

Gratitude Challenge: Week 2

“Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it. ” – William Arthur Ward

Happy week 2! This week’s challenge is to go out of your way to express your gratitude to people. If a young man holds the door for you, try saying “thank you so much for taking the time to the door for me!” Not only will it make the person feel good, it will also make you feel good for doing a kind gesture. You never know how much your gratefulness will impact that person. Try to express your gratitude to at least 3 people per day!

What are you thankful for?

Ladies & Company

Gratitude Challenge: Week 1

“Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn’t learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn’t learn a little, at least we didn’t get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn’t die; so, let us all be thankful.” -Buddha

To begin our month of November Challenge of Gratitude, we shared a quote from Buddha. This week we challenge you to be more grateful in your heart and if you want to take it a step further, start a gratitude journal. Every day, write down at least one thing that you are grateful for – starting today, November 1!

3 Steps to Building Confidence

Do you feel like you are confident? When asked this question most people either say a solid “yes” or “I’m not really sure”. When reflecting on my freshmen year at Hampton University I thought about what really helped me to succeed and thrive while I was there. What helped me the most at Hampton was being “confident in my abilities and myself”. Confidence is knowing who you are on the inside and not being afraid to express and share your talents and ambitions with others. To me, confidence does not mean simply “popping out” every Friday at 12-2, even though those days are fun too. I compiled a list of things you have to truly understand to feel and be more confident.

  1. Your Mindset

Your mindset has to be aligned with the goals you wish to achieve. Having a positive mindset is key to building confidence. Speaking what you want to accomplish into existence pushes you to your goals. The law of attraction is real. If you put positive energy into anything you’re doing, a positive outcome is bound to happen. It does not always happen as quickly as you want it but having faith brings you a step closer to reaching your goals. Lastly, it is best you put your faith in something. If you believe in God trust in Him and His specific path for you. If you believe in the universe believe that it will give you what you dream and think the most about.

  1. Stepping out your “Comfort zone”

Stepping out your comfort zone has to be the hardest step, for most people. Why? Because most people don’t want to be embarrassed, isolated, or talked about negatively. Think, about it this way everyone has to start somewhere. President William R. Harvey did not just wake up and become Hampton University’s president for 37 years. He had to work hard, grind and have obstacles along the way. To get to the places that you want to go, you have to put yourself out there. Talk to people on campus you have been watching. Make them your mentor, especially if they are doing what you see yourself wanting to do in the future. Join clubs that will help you grow and challenge you. Taking yourself out of your comfort zone is never supposed to be a bad experience. It enlightens you and you learn from every situation. For example, annually Hampton University’s freshmen class runs an event called Battle of the States aka BOTS, a showcase of talent from each region. I cannot sing, I am neither a trained dancer nor a professional model. However, I knew 1. I could walk in heels which was half the battle and 2. That I wanted this to be a part of my college experience. From BOTS, I gained the ability to have a stage presence and be confident while in it.

  1. Stay in your “own” lane

Building confidence in yourself is your journey to make and no one else’s. You have to be willing to condition yourself and trying to become a better you every day. “What is meant for you will be for you”. Telling yourself this every day is essential. If you are in a competitive major such as journalism or business administration. You often here “everyone in here is your competition” and “you have to be better than the next man.” Instead of taking this to heart, use it as a catalyst to push you. But, to motivate you be glad in the fact that nobody can do things like you. Knowing that you are equipped and bring a different skill set and background, will build your confidence. Being unique is an advantage because we all have our individual paths to take.

Building confidence is not always easy, but it can be made easier by following these steps. In the end, being let down or disappointment can bruise your ego. It is going to happen because it happens to everyone. But don’t let it take away your confidence.

With Love,

-Mion E.

“I am a woman who appreciates a man who…”

So last week, I posted “I am a man who appreciates a woman who…” and I thought, maybe the guys need some love too. So I decided I would do a sort of “rebuttal,” from the the ladies to show that men are also appreciated. So I asked some of my girl friends to complete the sentence, “I am a woman who appreciates a man who….”

  • “I am a woman who appreciates a man who has ambition and goes after what he wants. ” – Starr
  • “I am a woman who appreciates a man who knows exactly what to do before I have to ask/say it and Prays, loves hard, does the little things. ” – Leah
  • “I am a woman who appreciates a man who loves me the same way I love him, appreciates me and prays for and with me. ” – JaKeya
  • “I am a woman who appreciates a man who puts God first, Can support me in all endeavors and loves me for me. ” – Jasmin
  • “I am a woman who appreciates a man who i can pray with. ” – Mykea
  • “I am a woman who appreciates a man who has a continual relationship with God and knows Jesus Christ is his Lord and Savior and Who is ambitious, supporting of my goals, caring, respectful, family oriented and plans to build a family together. ” – Keirsten
  • “I am a woman who appreciates a man who submits to God. ” – Maya
  •  “I’m a woman who appreciates a man who admires me for my intelligence & personality rather than my looks.” – Morgan
  • “I am a woman who appreciates a man who appreciates the value of a good woman, who loves and respects his mother, who is led by God and follows God because if he doesn’t follow God how could I follow him, and who pushes me to higher heights as I help him through his journey. ” – Arielle
  • “I am a woman who appreciates a man who knows himself through his relationship with God, who respects me and loves me the same if not more than  I love him and who will pray and lead our household with me beside him. ” – Averi
  • “I am a woman who appreciates a man who follows God’s lead in treating me like the queen I am and who is obedient to the call God has placed over his life and respects the call that God has placed over my life.” -Heather
  • “I am a woman who appreciates a man who still believes in Chivalry, is a God fearing man, grow and learn with, and who will stick with me through the tough times as well as the amazing times and a man who knows the true meaning of love. ” – Dominique
  • “I am a woman who appreciates a man who caters to my needs. ” – My mother.
  • “I’m a woman who appreciates a man who humbles himself before God. ” – Cutina
  • “I’m a woman who appreciates a man who is just as ambitious as I am.” – Tay-Lor

Keep It Classy,

-T. Renae

Dear Someone’s Everything,

Hi Ladies and Company, I just wanted to know ya’ll opinion. Is the saying “there’s someone for everyone,” really true? Is it really a perfect relationship partner out there in the world for everyone? Or is that just something ya’ll have forced yourself to believe? – Someone’s Everything

Dear Someone’s Everything,

As a Christian, I was raised to believe that God has a divine plan for everyone. For some, God may have a perfect partner and for others He might have some other plan outlined for you. Whether you are a Believer or not, I have found it to be true that you shouldn’t force life to do what you want it to do, whether that means with your relationship, friends, work or anything at all. We often have this tendency as women to fantasize and romanticize our futures, which is fine until we limit ourselves to our dream plans. Looking for the “perfect partner” will lead you to disappointment because trust me, no one is perfect. Is there someone for everyone? Maybe, but take my advice: focus on yourself first. Live life and enjoy every second of it without worrying about adding another person into your mix. One of my favorite quotes is “what is for you, will not pass you.” So do not be distracted by what you think is passing you or what you think you might be missing out on. Enjoy where you are and who you are with because each moment is a precious gift that shouldn’t be taken for granted.

Nothing But Love,

– Aliah

Dear Best friends or more,

So hi Ladies and Company, I just graduated [from high school]. And there’s this guy and he has been my boy best friend the whole way through my senior year of high school. He was talking to my friend and having sex with her. But he didn’t want a relationship with her. She thought that she could keep him that way, you know with sex. And me and him being “best friends,” we workout together, go bike riding together, talk on the phone for hours and are always there for each other. I like him a lot but considering the fact that he was kinda with my friend, i dont know. My feelings don’t have an on and off switch. Am I wrong for wanting to be with him, since I’m pretty sure he likes me back but he’s been with my friend? – Best friends or more.

Hi sweetie,

I don’t think that your feelings are wrong, but I would not act on these feelings, for numerous reasons. The first reason is because this is your friend, your boy best friend. You don’t want to jeopardize/ruin your friendship over these feelings, that may or may not be reciprocated. The second reason is because even though they (your boy best friend and your friend) aren’t in a committed relationship, they are still engaging “activities,” which could potentially grow into a relationship (It also could not – we never know with these things). Even though he says doesn’t want to have a relationship with the friend, he’s already smashing. As a woman, and young lady you really only have two options: (1) approach your friend and tell her how you feel and ask her to back off, or (2) tell her how you feel about the best friend and tell her you want her to be happy so you are backing off.

If it was me, honestly I would pull a Frozen and just let it go. You just graduated high school, and there will be plenty more (better) fish in the sea for you!

Keep It Classy, 

T.Renae

The Big Chop Summer: Tips to Handle Your New Natural

Summer is popular for many, many reasons but in the Natural Hair World summer is the time for Big Chops! Who knows why exactly this is the best time to put the scissors to those relaxed ends, but I found it was easiest for me to big chop in the summer because the weather was better and I had more free time to learn just what-the-heck to do with my new natural curls. For whatever reason YOU may big chop in the summer, there will be a lot of surprises in store and new things to embrace about being natural. Here are five easy tips and tricks if you’ve already big chopped and find yourself facing serious #naturalgirlproblems or if you are considering “big chopping” but don’t know what to expect.

  1. Don’t Compare Your Fro

Before I big chopped I was constantly on Youtube and Instagram looking through pictures of other girl’s big chop results or TWA’s (teeny weeny afro). I was so excited, thinking that I would get these cute little ringlets of curls similar to the many pictures I was seeing. After cutting my hair, however, I simply didn’t look like those other girls because…well because obviously I wasn’t them! When you first big chop, don’t compare your hair to someone else’s. Natural hair comes in a million different curl patterns, and colors and grows in different shapes or to different lengths and so on and so forth. Enjoy your own fro, learn how to love it and embrace it for what it is from day one.

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  1. Nourish Your Fro

When you first chop and are left with little to no hair, it is easy to think that you won’t have to do anything to it for days on end. This is not true. Imagine your hair is a flower in need of being watered and nourished daily in order to help it to flourish. By “watering” I don’t mean shampooing daily (see tip 3), just spritzing it with a water and oil or water and conditioner mix in the morning should be enough. Also, remember that beautiful hair comes from the inside out so nourish your body by eating right and drinking PLENTY of water. Your hair will thank you for it.

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  1. Leave Your Fro Alone

A new fro is normally as tempting to play with as a brand new toy but trust me when I say: leave, it, alone! By this I mean that you should try to resist the temptation to shampoo, re-twist, re-bantu knot or re-braid your hair daily. Find a style that will last you at least 3-5 days, which will help you avoid stressing and breaking your new coils. Also, if your goal is to achieve long (or big) natural hair, then avoid drastic experimentations. If you can, try to stay away from dabbling in keratin treatments, hair dye or texturizers. You’ll end up having to big chop again to get rid of damaged hair or you’ll set yourself further back in the journey then where you started. (Disclaimer: of course you can do WHATEVER you want with your hair and hair will always grow back. So if you’re not worried about anything then by all means do what you want.)

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  1. Budget for Your Fro

The natural hair journey is NOT cheap! Ethnic hair care products are crazy expensive and as a new naturalista it’s almost certain that you will be tempted to buy everything on the shelves that the online hair care forums promise will bring you cute curls to your TWA. The trial and error stage with products will go so much more smoothly and you will feel better about going natural if you are realistic with how much money you are going to spend. So set aside a hefty budget (maybe of about $100-$300) as your natural hair fund to spend on products in your first year. This money can cover products such as co-wash, shampoo, conditioner, hair masks and oils (that you will probably end up never using more than once), new brushes, combs, rollers, dryers and diffusers. The budget will also help you fund protective styles (such as weaves, braids or twists) that can be cute, fun and will give your hair a break. Your hair and wallet will definitely thank you.

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  1. Fall in Love with Your Fro

Warning: big chopping your hair is going to change the way you look. You now no longer have hair in your face distracting from your features, and your style may even change now that you can pull off eccentric pieces you never thought you could have before. It may disorient you to see how different you look, but I promise, from the bottom of my heart, that you look beautiful. If you love your fro, I can promise that it will love you back and reward you by flourishing. Tell your fro how pretty it looks today. Take the time to appreciate how unique your hair is and how mature and sexy you look with such a daring haircut. Don’t be discouraged, don’t let comments get to you and don’t stop falling in love with your fro.
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And with that good luck on your natural hair journey! By the way, I would LOVE to see pictures of new TWA’s and if you would like, share your Big Chop story with us.

Love, Aliah W.