Tuesday Morning Thoughts: The Glo’ Up

Let me tell you what is the hardest thing in the entire world – growing up. Not just physically, but mentally as well. I don’t know why it is so hard, possibly because we get so comfortable with the way we are, that once we try to change it up our minds and bodies are like WOAH THERE, GIRLFRIEND.

The older I get I realize that the maturation/growing up/the glo’ up process is hard. It is uncomfortable and sometimes even painful. Think about a caterpillar. At first, the little bug is just living his life then suddenly, his world is turned upside down. It has to suddenly wrap itself up in a small cocoon, which I imagine is very uncomfortable. So he is in this cramped space and then is growing – his body doing things it’s never done before, etc. He’s stuck and cramped and spending a lot of time thinking about what is happening and self-reflecting. And all he can do is literally go through that process. But the end result is a BEAUTIFUL butterfly.

You have to go thru some things first. But the end result is always so incredibly worth it. I know I’m maturing every day and I’m proud of myself. And you should be too if you are in this period of growth.

Keep Growing and Stay Blessed.

– Tanesha.

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Happy Anniversary Mom & Dad!

Today is my parent’s 25th anniversary of marriage!

My parents are like real life relationship goals for me. They’re married, have kids, have great careers and traveling the world – what more can you ask for !? Growing up in this house full of love, I’ve learned a few things about life, love, and marriage. I’ve decided to share the top 3 love lessons (that I have learned) with you all.

  1. Love is a decision. After the feeling is long and gone, and you have to DECIDE to love one another. It’s not always pretty and cute and fun, sometimes it is hard and rough-looking. Every day for the rest of your life you have to decide to love your significant other, choose who you will love wisely.
  2. Love (and marriage) is friendship amplified.You have to be friends. When my parents first met, they didn’t like each other (you have to get them to tell you the story), but now they are the best of friends. Friends fuss and fight, but at the end of the day, they are still there for each other when they are going through hard times. Also with true friendships (and marriage) you can depend on one another.
  3.  Love is patient. Your spouse or significant other is not going to be perfect (and neither are you for that matter). People make mistakes and unintentionally hurt each other, You have to be patient enough to realize “hey, my significant other is still growing up and maturing, so mistakes and unintentional hurts may happen.” I see so many folks out here that want a spouse that’s already established making 100K a year, flying them out to XYZ, etc.  But those same people aren’t willing to build with a person, so that they can get those things together.

Here’s a cute video tribute of my parents. 🙂 They’re super adorable!

I hope one day to have as happy of a marriage as they have.

Peace and Blessings to them.

– Tanesha

Monday Thoughts: Face Your Fears

Happy Monday Everyone! My internship wanted us to have some “lasting memories” and team building activities before the program ends. So they paid for us to go to this Adventure Park in Virginia Beach. So basically, it’s like a ropes obstacle course up in the trees. So I have a slight extreme fear of heights. I had already decided earlier in the week that I was not going to get up in the trees – they can’t make me do anything, right?

So fast forward to getting there, I spent 30 minutes debating if I was actually going to go up in the course. Mind you, this is probably the safest way to go climbing they have steel ropes that can hold up to 500 pounds. I finally go out there on the ropes and I felt so connected with God. Possibly because I was scared out of my mind, but I feel like my faith increased by like 50 million. It was just me and God, and my friend in front of me screaming for me to “keep going.” Afterwards, I felt so good. I accomplished something on my bucket list, as well as faced my fear. I feel like I can do anything I set my mind to with a little prayer and faith.


I encourage all of you to do something that scares you. I believe that doing something that scares you, builds your confidence up. Even if it is something slight like making a phone call, doing mental math, public speaking, or even talking to your crush.

Go Forth and conquer your fears, as well as build your confidence.

Love Always,

– Tanesha.

Monday Morning Thoughts: You Deserve A Break, too.

I am a firm believe that our minds and bodies will tell you everything you need to know about yourself. Whenever I am getting extremely stressed out, nothing makes sense. I struggle to do even the simplest of tasks. I even start to panic about things that are not that serious. Normally, these are the signs for me that I need to take a break from everything and recollect myself. There are signs that your body gives you too – maybe reacting to things negatively, becoming pessimistic, or even becoming sickly.

You are so strong, but you deserve (and need) a break sometimes. Take time this week to unplug yourself from the world. Focus on clearing your mind and taking a break. Go to a coffee shop and read your favorite book for a few hours with your phone off. Go to the beach and listen to the water. Spend your entire day in bed if you want to. But take that break, you deserve it.

Stay Encouraged,

-Tanesha

Monday Morning Thoughts: Unlearn The Bad Stuff.

Unlearn the feeling that you have to always be in competition with whoever/whatever to feel validated or worthy. You are more than capable of everything that you want to do. You don’t have to be in competition to be worthy. You have to stop focusing on this imaginary competition, or else you will drive yourself crazy. You can’t focus on what someone else is doing, and still, be great at what you are doing. You also should unlearn the thought that someone’s poor capability to love you is in no way a reflection of yourself. You are a beautiful person and deserving of the love that you so freely give away. First, give some love to yourself, and then wait for someone who knows how to love you properly.

Stay Encouraged.

– T.Renae

Monday Mindset For Love: Week 2

Welcome to Week 2 everyone in the month of love! We are so excited that you continuing this journey to love with us.

Matters of the heart must always be taken seriously, and you must be realistic with yourself. Last week, we spent time considering what we bring to the table. A friend of mine once said that you can’t go after what you want, unless you know what you want. This week’s challenge is to make your check list.

“Assignment” – I would fold up a sheet of paper into thirds, and label each section with Wants, Needs, and Deal Breakers, respectively. Really think about things you want, need, and won’t settle for. Wants are typically physical things, such as dark hair, 6’7’’ height, or anything like that. Needs are typically personality characters, such as honesty, trustworthiness, etc. Now, Deal Breakers are things you will not settle for. Like if you meet a guy with this trait, or characteristic – you won’t even consider this guy for dating.

I’m going to use myself as an example – I want a guy who’s tall, but I need him to be affectionate, and I won’t settle for him not being a Christian.

What are some of your wants and needs? Share below in our comments!

Keep It Classy,

– T. Renae.

Monday Mindset For Love: Week 1

Welcome to the month of loveeeeeeeee! This month I decided I wanted to do a series that runs every Monday in February called Mindset For Love. So I will be giving “assignments” out every Monday for you to work on your love life.

Someone once told me you have to be ready for love to come into your life because love is serious and affects not only yourself but other people too. In my opinion, you shouldn’t just date to date, you should, at least, see yourself somewhat with them long term. So with that being said, one of the first steps in preparing yourself for love is to consider what you bring to the table. What attributes will you bring to the table?

 
“Assignment” – Consider and write out everything positive you will be bringing to the table to your relationship. Also, write down on a separate sheet of paper all of the baggage, and negative feelings you are still holding on to such as self-hatred, past relationships, etc. Take the things you bring to the table and post it on your mirror. And take the sheet of paper with your baggage on it. Take a day to really think about these things and the reasons you’re still holding on to them. Then pray about it and let them go.

 

(I am particularly fond of ripping it up, and flushing it – but whatever you decide. )
Comment below what things you bring to the table!
Keep It Classy,
– T.Renae.

Dear Ready for Love?

Dear ladies and company, so I am in my senior year of my senior year of college and I have never been on a date. I really want to you know start mingling with men in my age group or even a little older because I think I am ready for a relationship. I’m not exactly sure where to begin with the dating game. I want to be wowed and treated like a queen, however, what I’m seeing now in the dating game is like boys running games on girls running games on guys it is just not OK! So, how do I start dating without compromising my standards? – Ready for Love?

Dear Ready For Love,

First, it is really good that you have realized that you’re at the point of being ready to date. So many young ladies these days are just jumping into the dating world without being ready. First I would set your boundaries out. What are you willing, and unwilling to accept while dating? Maybe you want him to pay for the first date, but are willing to compromise and go dutch on dates 2-3. Also, I would figure out what you really need, what you would like, and what you can compromise on and what you won’t. I think through this process, you will be able to be a little bit more open with guys. As well as you will be able to stand firm in what you want and what you deserve. Then you can start going on dates – maybe some online dating sites such as POF, or Tinder, or the Bae App, or have your friends set up you up with some of their friends (at least you know the guys will be decent humans, unless you have shitty friends). And then, just let whatever happens, happen.

Keep It Classy,

– T. Renae

 

Gratitude Challenge: Week 5

“Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things. ” – Robert Brault

First of all congratulations on almost completing this month’s challenge! This is the last week so to end the month, spend time reflecting on the spirit of gratitude. Even if you only were grateful for the little things. Think about the things in your gratitude journal that you were consistently thankful for. Also, try to continue this challenges once the month is over. A little gratitude goes a long way.

What are you thankful for?

– Ladies & Co. 

Gratitude Challenge: Week 3

“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never ever have enough.” – Oprah Winfrey

Happy week 3! This week’s challenge is to pay it forward to someone you don’t know. It could be something as simple as giving someone ten dollars that is homeless so they can get their next meal or as much as purchasing groceries for a mother with a child while in the store. Whatever you do pay it forward, and just ask them to pay it forward as well and then we will have a domino effect of acts of kindness spreading around your area.

Keep it Classy,

Ladies and Company