Man Crush of The Month: Marshal

HAPPY LAST MONTH OF THE YEAR!!!! December is probably my second favorite month, but December has my favorite man crush thus far! This month’s man crush is none other than Marshal! I actually met Marshal through Hampton University’s Student Recruitment Team in 2013. He’s literally one of the most chill and cool. Like he’s the epitome of a cool guy. Marshal is a single, 24 years old, from Chino, California! He is the co-founder of a start-up, The Greenrose Agency. The Greenrose Agency is a digital marketing products sand services retailer and their agents offer specialized consultation and support around their product catalog. He is also an aspiring polymath – He loves to create and produce creative content of all kinds. He’s an obsessive sports fan and fantasy sports player and he has a passion for the history of African American music. Now on to the questions!

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How would you describe your personality in three words?

Passionate. Driven. Balanced. 

Which do you prefer to listen to your heart or your brain? Why?

I honestly believe you should try a little of both. I’m as much an artist as a scientist. 

Who is your celebrity crush?

Always and forever Lauren London. 

Who do you think should make the first move males or females? Why?

I think if that person motivates you to make a move, male or female, you should listen that voice in your head saying, “shoot your shot”

What’s the longest relationship you’ve been in? What did you learn?

The longest relationship I was in lasted for about 4 1/2 years. And the biggest thing that I learned is that loving someone isn’t about finding someone perfect, but about finding someone your willing to accept is imperfect and also acknowledges that you are. If you know of that person, let them know.

What motivational words would you tell someone on the come-up?

The best piece of advice I’ve ever personally heard and have applied is “turn fear into a tailwind” sometimes I easily get caught up in anxieties around my personal progress. I’ve learned to use that fear and anxiety to propel rather than paralyze me.

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What’s the most awkward date that you’ve ever been on?

I don’t think I’ve been on an “awkward” date per se, but I did go on a date once to an art gallery with someone it felt like I couldn’t communicate with for more than 30 seconds.

Where do you see yourself in the next five years?

In the next five years, I see myself beginning my second and third planned ventures and planning the IPO of the Greenrose Agency.

What do you usually do to let a girl know that you are interested in her?

I usually try to be straightforward about it, I have to feel comfortable being myself with her to even begin generating an interest.

What is your favorite and least favorite thing about yourself?

My favorite thing about myself is my confidence and optimism, my least favorite thing about myself is that confidence sometimes cause me to procrastinate. I play “hero ball” and place unnecessary pressure on myself (sometimes I think it’s because I like the pressure lol)

Who has been the most influential person in your life?

The most influential person in my life easily is my mother. She often says that we “grew up together” and to an extent it’s true. My mom gave birth to me when she was 20 years old, and raised me as a single parent for the first 10 years of my life. She’s my best friend as well as my mom.

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What’s your personal theme song?

“In My Lifetime (Remix)” – Jay-Z

What are your lifetime ambitions?

My lifetime ambitions are to achieve personal peace and become the best version of myself. If fortune or even fame fall somewhere in there, even better.

What are your career goals?

My career goals are to be a serial entrepreneur and investor.

How are you changing the world?

Today, we have made it so that businesses and enterprises are the catalysts and drivers of our society. I honestly believe that it is the responsibility of those who recognize that this is true, to build and design businesses and enterprises that are responsible and do their best to empower the people the they directly effect. I feel that the co-founding the Greenrose Agency to help small business owners is just the start of me doing so.

What’s one thing you want the world to know about you and who you are?

I feel like this is the part where I assert “I’m taking over the world”, but I’m definitely much more of a “show and prove” kind of person.

Why do men often look over the average girl?

I don’t believe they “look over” them, I just believe men fail to mature fast enough to realize things they need instead of things they want early in our lives. It’s unfortunate, but I think it’s true.

Why do guys tend to hide their feelings and not fully express them?

I’ve recently tried to do better at expressing my feelings. I’m a believer that being emotional and masculine are not mutually exclusive. Many men may tell you different, but there are a lot of hurt women who can definitely tell you otherwise.

What do guys do to make them feel better after a long day? What are your forms of self-care?

I actually practice meditation, taking sometime to tend to your mind and your thoughts is really important. We can find ourselves carrying around a lot of baggage.

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What are you most afraid of living in today’s society?

I’m most afraid of the lack of empathy I see from people everyday. I believe that too few people are trying to widen their perspectives and actually understand other people.

How do you seize and take advantage of every single day?

I do my best to be present, my lifestyle requires me to think a lot about the future and what will happen tomorrow so a lot of times I try to remember to be in the moment to really take in and process what’s going on at that moment.

What do you feel men aren’t recognized enough for?

I actually think that in general, men are recognized a bit too much. We hear about the accomplishments of men all throughout history. I actually believe that it should be men’s responsibility to acknowledge the accomplishments of women. Who else will?

 

What’s the most discouraging part about being a man? How do you deal with it?

I’ll specify a bit more to being a black man…However, the most discouraging part of being a black man is the fact that we are conditioned to live fearful lives and to make fearful choices. Black masculinity is predicated in fear and insecurity. We are told that we shouldn’t let someone disrespect us, so we fear the result of allowing it to pass without displays of greater masculinity or violence. We are told that we shouldn’t show emotion, as a result we fear the doing and fight it adamantly. Our nature is not predicated in facing our problems, but instead fearing the appropriate courses of action and waving them off as “soft”. Once you’ve realized that mindset does not stand to benefit you in any way, as a black man you feel cheated of a truly free life…

Do you have a brand? Share what it’s purpose, mission and goals here –

As I explained before, I’m the co-founder of The Greenrose Agency. Our goal is to empower small business owners and individuals through digital marketing products and services to grow their businesses and brands in a cost effective way. We are striving to create an unparalleled consumer experience within the digital marketing industry, a brand and retailer people can trust to help them navigate a murky and intimidating landscape.

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Want to connect with Marshal – Here’s His Social Media:

To check out his photos, follow him on Instagram.

To follow all of his adventures – check out his Snapchat or Twitter

Also check out The Greenrose Agency’s Instagram here.

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The Hate U Give Book Review

Image result for the hate u give bookThe Hate U Give Book Review:

The Hate U Give was published earlier this year (February 2017) by Angie Thomas. It is a fiction book about a teenage, African American girl (Starr) who is somewhat forced into becoming an activist after witnessing her friend get killed by a White police officer after leaving a party. The story follows Starr’s reactions and experiences after her friend’s death – but Starr didn’t want her friend to just become a hashtag, she wanted and eventually made her friend’s life matter.

This book also tackles something that some Black Americans do every single day – code-switching. For those of you don’t know what it is, code-switching is defined as the practice of alternating between two or more languages or varieties of language in conversation. But in the Black community, I believe it’s a lot deeper than language, it includes mannerisms, tone, behaviors and more. (See this very interesting Ted Talk about The Costs of Code Switching – here. )  So with that being said, this was the first book I’ve ever read that accurately portrays this “code-switching” as a Black teenager. Starr has to balance how she behaves (and ultimately how she wants to be perceived) at her predominately White prep school with her “poor, Black”  neighborhood and upbringing. In the book, she struggles with keeping her two worlds separate. I remember literally living in this world (and still living in it if I’m being honest) so it was super relate-able for me.

This book is labeled as a Young Adult book, but really you should ignore that label – this is literally a book for ALL ages (well, maybe not too young because the book conquers some heavy themes that an 8 year old might not be able to handle). I believe that this book was very well written with a lot of character development. I really enjoy the style the book was written, entirely first person and revealing Starr’s inner thoughts. I also really enjoyed how the author moved time in the story – often times, I find with young adult books that the entire story took place in basically a few days which to me is too short of time to cram everything in. One of the main things that really gripped me about this book was its literally about what’s going on in America today, not a few days or years ago, literally today, right now. This book echos the messages of the Black Lives Matter movement and honestly gives a voice to so many people that experience the effects of police brutality in a way that was utterly unforgettable.

This book hit me in ways that I was not expecting. It made me confront my own feelings about my dear friend’s death (If you really wanna know about that – click this link here.). Many times Starr is riddled with the guilt of not being able to save her friend, I literally felt it. I don’t know if I was really feeling these things because the author did amazing job writing it or because I still have some unresolved hurt and issues surrounding my friend’s death.  Either way, this is a book you are going to feel deep in your heart. I would honestly just grab some popcorn, warm blankets, tissues (just in case) and maybe some wine if you’re of age and spend a day reading this book. It changed me… and hopefully it will change you too. I recommend this book to literally everyone! and I give it a 5/5 Stars! 🙂

What books are you currently reading – share below in the comments (I’m always looking for new books to read!!)

XOXO,

– Tanesha Renae

Man Crush of the Month: Tavon

Happy November!!! This is one of my favorite months – not just because of Thanksgiving but because Tavon is our Man Crush of the Month! He is such a sweet guy, I really adore him so much. He is a single, 23-year-old from Warner Robins, Georgia. He absolutely loves being a dad! He also loves to cook and do spoken word. He also is a huge sneaker head and is addicted to shoe-shopping. Something that is interesting about Tavon is that he is a Chef, owns multiple businesses and is a movie junkie!

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How would you describe your personality in three words?

Giving, Goofy, Spontaneous

Which do you prefer to listen to your heart or your brain? Why?

My heart. Your brain doesn’t have that “instinct” to judge personal situations.

Who is your celebrity crush?

Fantasia – Country, Thick and Chocolate.

Who do you think should make the first move – males or females? Why?

I’m from the Deep South – where chivalry is extremely serious at least to me. So, males should make the first move in my opinion.

What’s the longest relationship you’ve been in? What did you learn?

6 years, sometimes it’s just best to walk away and not force things. Forcing something leads to resentment.

What motivational words would you tell someone on the come-up?

It’s not gonna be easy, but keep God first and push through.

What’s the most awkward date that you’ve been on?

I didn’t know she had a boyfriend, but we ran into him on our date. And she didn’t know her boyfriend had a boyfriend who happened to also be on a date. It was weird.

Where do you se yourself in the next five years?

Married and opening up my 3rd or 4th restaurant and opening up my 2nd or 3rd detailing garage.

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What do you usually do to let a girl know that you are interested in her?

I speak directly to her, Steph Curry at all times.

What is your favorite and least favorite things about yourself?

I love how outgoing I am and I hate how naiver I am (I think everyone is my friend).

Who has been the most influential person in your life?

My dad, he taught me how to be a man before he was killed. Then my son, he made me a better man.

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What’s your personal theme song?

Don’t laugh, but it’s Rich Gang – Lifestyle.

What are you lifetime ambitions?

Just to be successful and be the best father I can be.

What are your career goals?

Build something that my family can keep running when I’m gone.

Why do men often overlook the average girl?

The generation we live in glorifies the wrong girl. We don’t know what a real woman is because we overlook them.

Why do guys tend to hide your feelings and not fully express them?

Pride. Simply put, it’ll make you lose out on a lot.

What are your forms of self-care?

I personally lift weights and play with my son.

What are you most afraid of living in today’s society?

Falling by the way-side. Not living up to my expectations or potential.

How do you seize and take advantage of every single day?

Take it one minute at a time. Schedules help you out a lot too.

What do you feel men aren’t recognized enough for?

Being fathers, fathers are automatically looked at as a “no-no.”

What is the most discouraging part about being a man? How do you deal with it?

We’re looked at as something we’re not a times. It’s okay for a guy to feel hurt at times.

What’s one thing you want the world to know about you and who you are?

I’m an educated black man and a full time father. I’ve made mistakes but I am not a bad person.

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Want to connect with Tavon – Here’s his social media:

To check out all of Tavon’s pictures follow his instagram

Tavon’s Adventures Via Snapchat and Via Twitter

Or Add him on Facebook – Tavon James

Man Crush of the Month: Jabril

This month’s man crush is none other than Jabril!!! Just a little back story, Jabril is my Hampton U Big Bro and was VERY influential in me coming to Hampton. He convinced not only me that I needed to be at that great university, but also convinced my mother (who is not easily won over…). Jabril is a 26-year-old from Los Angeles, California, he’s single. He is a sociable, kind-hearted gentleman who loves sports, movies, reading, video games, and a big cup of Chick-fil-a lemonade.  He is the son of two incredible parents who have molded him, transformed him, and given him the strength to endure the most impossible situations. He is also a friend, a mentor, a mentee, and a cultivator of great experiences. He currently works with an outpatient mental health agency as a Therapeutic Behavioral Services Coach. He works with young children in helping them develop tools to better increase the youth’s social and community competencies by building and/or reinforcing daily living skills that will assist the youth in living successfully at home and in the community. In addition to that, he is a full-time graduate student at The University of Southern California obtaining his Master’s Degree in Social Work. He believes that everyone deserves an experience that exceeds their expectation, he believes in going the extra mile, and he believes in fostering a team atmosphere.

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How would you describe your personality in three words?

sociable, driven, caring

Which do you prefer to listen to your heart or your brain? Why?

I tend to listen to my heart. I trust my brain, but when I follow my gut instinct I typically end up making a choice that I am confident in. 

Who is your celebrity crush?

Jhene Aiko

Who do you think should make the first move males or females? Why?

Typically I do believe the man should be the one to take initiative and make the first move. But I also believe that there’s nothing wrong with a woman shooting her shot! The few times that I’ve had a woman approach me and make the first move, I found the confidence extremely attractive and it was a turn on. 
What’s the longest relationship you’ve been in? What did you learn?

The longest relationship I have been in is 3 years. I learned that relationships are full of compromises and for a relationship to be successful neither side can be selfish or unwilling to change.

What motivational words would you tell someone on the come-up?

Never doubt yourself and keep striving for greatness. There are going to be really tough times that make you think you are failing, but making it through those times are what makes you stronger and make the rewards at the end that much greater. 

What’s the most awkward date that you’ve ever been on?

I went on a date in high school and the girl offered to drive at the end of the date she ended up running a red light and getting into a car accident. She also did not have her license so she ended up being taken into police custody. I had to call my father to pick me up and bring me to my car. 

Where do you see yourself in the next five years?

Working my long term career and beginning to settle down and start a family. 

What do you usually do to let a girl know that you are interested in her?

The way I inform a woman that I am interested in her is by the way that I interact with her on the daily basis. I will say more cute things in conversation and make more attempts to hang out.

What is your favorite and least favorite thing about yourself?

My favorite thing about me is my ability to talk and hold a conversation with anyone. I have met a lot of cool and like minded people by just randomly sparking a conversation with a random person. My least favorite thing is that I am incredibly hard on myself and am critical of things that I do. Others may see something I do as great, but I will critique it and think of ways that I could have done it better. 

Who has been the most influential person in your life?

The most influential person in my life is my older brother. He has been through so many different hard times and has always pushed through. I know I can talk to him about anything that I go through and he will give me advice. He has taught me to continue to strive for greatness no matter what adversities I may face. 

What’s your personal theme song?

Soul Food – Logic

What are your lifetime ambitions? 

When I am old and look back on my life, I want to be proud of the things I have done and not have any regrets. 

What are your career goals?

I want to be an Elementary School Social Worker

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How are you changing the world?

I am changing the world by working with at-risk youth and helping them to obtain greatness and see that they are important. Too many people in the world ignore the struggles that inner city youth face. This ignorance is what causes a lot of these children to go seek out approval from others, usually gangs. I want to be able to give back to the community that helped with my upbringing. I hope that one day I will be able to serve the underprivileged youth and explain the importance of believing in themselves and striving for greatness. I hope to share my story, heal the hurt, share the success of the well, and ignite the passion in the weak. I want to be able to give back to the community that helped with my upbringing. 

What’s one thing you want the world to know about you and who you are?

I’m proud of where I come from. Many people see it as a negative being from the “ghetto,” but it made me who I am today. Living in the ghetto was indeed scary –but it also provided for me. It instilled values, thoughtfulness, and the willingness to succeed. It was in my neighborhood that I learned to value all aspects of myself, my past, my present, and my potential.

Why do men often overlook the average girl?

I don’t know what is considered an “average girl,” but what would make me over look a woman is if they are unsure of themselves. As bad as this may sound, I want to be completely honest. Even though I constantly compliment and praise any woman I am dating, it is a turn off for someone to have really low self-esteem.

Why do guys tend to hide your feelings and not fully express them?

Men, especially black men have always been raised to be “tough” and not show feelings. Oppression of feelings is a defense mechanism to not look weak and vulnerable. 

What do guys do to make them feel better after a long day? What are your forms of self-care?

After a long day, I like to unwind by chilling and watching TV and having a cold brew. My forms of self-care are to go to the beach and just listen to the waves, or go and see a movie. Also as a people person, I like to be around people so depending on the type of day I had I sometimes will hit up a friend and hang out. 

What are you most afraid of living in today’s society?

I am most afraid of becoming a hashtag. #BlackLivesMatter

How do you seize and take advantage of every single day?

Every day I go out and do my best. I don’t want to wake up one day and regret not living my life to the fullest. 

What do you feel men aren’t recognized enough for?

I feel as though men are not recognized for the hard work they put into keeping a household running. Many times all you ever hear about is how a mother/wife does so much for a family (which is true), but in my experience, I have seen numerous good husbands/fathers that do not get any recognition for any of the work they put in. 

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Want to connect with Jabril – Here’s his social media:

To check out all of Jabril’s pictures follow his instagram

Jabril’s Adventures Via Snapchat and Via Twitter

Or Add him on Facebook – Jabril Rollins

Man Crush of the Month: AP

Aaron Peters, also known as AP, is a 22-year-old graduate student at Hampton University pursuing a Masters of Business Administration. He is from New Jersey, a brother of Omega Psi Phi Fraternity Incorporated and is currently single. He’s the owner of the amazing clothing line of Another Perspective, which he plans on continuing for the rest of his life. However, AP will also be working with Deloitte Consulting once he graduates in May 2017. He loves to play basketball with his “bros,” taking pictures, editing videos, enjoys a good party and to have fun! He stated, “I would lie and act like I have some cool hobbies that you guys wouldn’t expect of me but that’s wack.” What’s unique about AP is that he is always trying to go out of his way to help others. If he knows your goals or ambitions, he will try to connect you with people in that field. AP said that he thinks that’s unique because “nowadays people just want to get put on and forget about everyone else. I like to always lift as I climb [the ladder of success] because people will forget what you said, forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them felt and people get a good feeling when you help them out.” On top of all that, he is certainly handsome!

Now on to the interview portion!

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How would you describe your personality in three words?

Funny, Relatable, Motivational.

Who do you think should make the first move males or females? Why?

Males should make the first move because ladies like to know that they are interested in by someone. They usually know in their head if they like your or could see themselves with you but you won’t know most of the time unless you approach them. So be a man and go up and take that initial step.

What motivational words would you tell someone on the come-up?

Keep grinding even when no one notices you, even when you think it’s not working keep grinding it will pay off. Whatever energy and time you put into the universe it will repay you. Watch the movie “The Secret” you’ll see what I’m talking about.

Where do you see yourself in the next five years?

Let’s see – 27? Sheesh I know I’ll have a stable relationship with my future wife and will be preparing to take that step to marriage and all of that and I feel like I will be financially stable at that point.

What is your favorite and least favorite thing about yourself?

My favorite thing about myself is my grind I could lay out a list of things I’ll get done and get it done that’s like the best feeling. Least favorite thing would have to be the fact that I’m cool with so many people that I don’t always know how to tell someone no when they ask something of me.

Who has been the most influential person in your life?

Mom Dukes and my Pops – they asked a lot of me growing up and I feel like that helped me in the long run.

What’s your personal theme song?

Currently, Dab of Ranch song that Quavo made up in like 30 seconds and that new Kodak song is pretty much going to be my theme song when it drops when he do the new kodak dance to.

What are your lifetime ambitions?

I would like to start a family one day but I would have a successful clothing line that provides enough money for me that I don’t need to work for someone else on some 9 to 5 type of stuff.

What are your career goals?

My main career goal is to open up a warehouse for my clothing line to be able to make all my clothing and to make other people’s clothes.

How are you changing the world?

Motivating those that are younger than me to do what they want, follow their dreams and that anything is possible like literally anything they want to do they can do just got to put the work in.

What are you most afraid of living in today’s society?

In today’s society, they hate to see a young black man doing well and when they do see it – they try to kill us. I’m not afraid but afraid of how impactful that could be to my family if I get gunned down by one of these policemen out here.

What do guys do to make them feel better after a long day? What are your forms of self-care?

Man listen, a fresh cut will put you right where you need to be I promise you. Everyone starts saying hi to you, people smiling at you, it’s like you just won the lottery when you get that perfect fresh cut. 

Why do men often overlook the average girl?

I’m not going to be cliche and say because they are looking for something different but if you are the “average” girl.  It’s easy to look over that “average” girl because you’re just blending in. How you going to get noticed if you’re just blending in feel me?

Why do guys tend to hide your feelings and not fully express them?

I don’t do that. I don’t think at least but I think because they think other GUYS will judge them. Like a girl likes that I believe (guys being expressive of their feelings) but I think that a guy feels the need to act or be tough at all times when in reality, it’s not that deep.

How do you seize and take advantage of every single day?

Make a list and get everything done, and get up early that helps too.

What’s the most discouraging part about being a man? How do you deal with it?

I will say the most discouraging part for me is how people will support everything else with these people that they don’t know but when it’s a black business around they got to ask for a discount or they say they rock with the movement but still don’t support. I deal with it by just keep doing what I’m doing I know my bros will always support each other and that’s all I need sometimes when it’s hard out here.

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Share information about your brand. 

Another Perspective is the brand and the mission of my brand is to make people think from their perspective. All of my designs have a gas mask on and it’s not to just look cool but it has a bigger meaning. The gas mask is to block out the world’s gas and thoughts and how the world wants you to think it’s blocking all of that out and making you think in a Another Perspective. AP is my nickname so I got to make sure I’m always promoting myself in a positive way. New clothes on the way for the new year, check out anotherclothingline.com!

Want to connect with AP – Here’s his social media:
To check out all of AP’s AMAZING Pictures follow him on Instagram
AP’s Adventures Via Snapchat and Via Twitter
Another Perspective Clothing Line on Instagram
Another Perspective Clothing Line’s Website is here

Man Crush Monday: Beard Edition

So as most people know, November is No-Shave November. This is an initiative to raise awareness about cancer, as many cancer patients lose their hair. The goal is for the people who are going without shaving to donate all the money that they would normally use to cancer research, as well as educate others about cancer prevention (and promote and talk about going to the doctors – which a large portion of men do not go nor talk about.). I am not exactly sure if that is why some of my friends participate, but I do think it is a worthy cause. 🙂

So here are my favorite beards of all times (in no particular order)!

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My dear friend, Justin. His beard is so just perfect to me! It’s light brown with blonde in it! and it really accents his eyes! If you wanna see more of Justin and his law school chronicles follow him on Instagram.

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Chance H. !! Follow him on Twitter! Or on snap chat @chvnce1 – He’s low-key a celebrity. I highly suggest you follow him on snap chat because he’s really funny and adorable. His beard is like baby hairs and just grows perfectly!

screen-shot-2016-11-17-at-9-59-13-pmDrake… because yum! I honestly don’t know anyone who doesn’t like love Drake’s beard. It just looks so perfect on his face. His IG is @ChampagnePapi

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Solange Knowles Husband – Alan Ferguson. He’s a music video director and something about a bald head and a flourishing beard is inspiring. He always keeps it clean and groomed. #BeardGoals

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King Keraun. He’s like the funniest dude on the internet! One of the main reasons I started watching and following him (outside of the fact that he’s hilarious and he’s in some of Simone Shepherd’s videos) is because of his beard. Follow him on IG, twitter, or like his facebook page.

So I don’t know these guys, but I love their beards… So they get featured as well 🙂

Hope you enjoyed it! Do you love beards? Or do you prefer your man to be clean cut? Share below in the comments about what you think!

XOXO,

– Tanesha

 

 

 

 

Happy Anniversary Mom & Dad!

Today is my parent’s 25th anniversary of marriage!

My parents are like real life relationship goals for me. They’re married, have kids, have great careers and traveling the world – what more can you ask for !? Growing up in this house full of love, I’ve learned a few things about life, love, and marriage. I’ve decided to share the top 3 love lessons (that I have learned) with you all.

  1. Love is a decision. After the feeling is long and gone, and you have to DECIDE to love one another. It’s not always pretty and cute and fun, sometimes it is hard and rough-looking. Every day for the rest of your life you have to decide to love your significant other, choose who you will love wisely.
  2. Love (and marriage) is friendship amplified.You have to be friends. When my parents first met, they didn’t like each other (you have to get them to tell you the story), but now they are the best of friends. Friends fuss and fight, but at the end of the day, they are still there for each other when they are going through hard times. Also with true friendships (and marriage) you can depend on one another.
  3.  Love is patient. Your spouse or significant other is not going to be perfect (and neither are you for that matter). People make mistakes and unintentionally hurt each other, You have to be patient enough to realize “hey, my significant other is still growing up and maturing, so mistakes and unintentional hurts may happen.” I see so many folks out here that want a spouse that’s already established making 100K a year, flying them out to XYZ, etc.  But those same people aren’t willing to build with a person, so that they can get those things together.

Here’s a cute video tribute of my parents. 🙂 They’re super adorable!

I hope one day to have as happy of a marriage as they have.

Peace and Blessings to them.

– Tanesha

Monday Morning Thoughts: You Deserve A Break, too.

I am a firm believe that our minds and bodies will tell you everything you need to know about yourself. Whenever I am getting extremely stressed out, nothing makes sense. I struggle to do even the simplest of tasks. I even start to panic about things that are not that serious. Normally, these are the signs for me that I need to take a break from everything and recollect myself. There are signs that your body gives you too – maybe reacting to things negatively, becoming pessimistic, or even becoming sickly.

You are so strong, but you deserve (and need) a break sometimes. Take time this week to unplug yourself from the world. Focus on clearing your mind and taking a break. Go to a coffee shop and read your favorite book for a few hours with your phone off. Go to the beach and listen to the water. Spend your entire day in bed if you want to. But take that break, you deserve it.

Stay Encouraged,

-Tanesha

The Price of Being Independent

This generation of women holds strong to their independents. It’s an amazing feeling to be a strong, independent women. We have our own which is a beautiful thing. We are lawyers, doctors, politicians and possible presidents of the United States of America. We are reaching higher heights than ever before but this sometimes can come at a price. There is always something that suffers, and most times it is our relationships! Sometimes that power or independence creates tension in relationships. Women we forget we have to let the man,  be the man.

When women are breadwinners that can sometimes create barriers in the relationship. As strong women, we have to still show that we are dependent on our men. I know for some that will be a hard pill to swallow but we have to make our men feel needed. Especially if that’s the man we want to build a future with. We confuse caring for our men or showing that we can submit to our men as weakness, but that’s not necessarily true. If the man you’re with has your best interest at heart, loves God and you, it’s okay to show him your softer side.Women are not supposed to run the show, the man is the head. Let’s say it together – WE HAVE TO FOLLOW OUR MEN! Ok, now take a deep breath. It’s okay, I promise you because it’s going to pay off!

Let’s recap! Allow the man to be the man! Allow your man to take the lead! It’s okay to submit to your man when he has a relationship with God, loves you and has your best interest at heart.

Share below about what you think about letting the man be the man!

Love Always,

– A. Rochell

Favorite Couples – Valentine’s Day 2016

Happy Valentine’s Day Everyone!! We hope you are having a great day filled with love and laughter, because you deserve it, with or without a significant other. So this Valentine’s Day, I wanted to share with you all my favorite couples of all time, they’re not in any particular order – just the order I thought of them in! Enjoy!

 

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President Barack and First Lady Michelle Obama – I mean, who wouldn’t want to aspire to be such a power couple like they are.

 

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Stephen and Ayesha Curry – Just look at those faces! Also, they’ve been together since high school, and they have two of the cutest little girls on this planet.

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Meagan Good and Devon Franklin – What really makes me love this couple is that they were both abstaining from sex when they met and continued to wait for sex until they got married. Which is such an inspiration to me, because I am also abstaining from sex until marriage.

 

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Jurnee Smollett-Bell and Josiah Bell – I mean, just look at how he looks at her, I can’t wait to get married and have someone look at me in that way.

 

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My Parents – They are just such a great example to me of a working and committed relationship. They look really young in this picture and they’ve done a terrific job of raising two Black kids while being equally committed to their careers, and each other.

Be sure to share your favorite couples below in the comments as well!

Keep It Classy,

– T. Renae