Thank Your Ex-Boyfriend.

Sometimes you just have to thank your ex-boyfriend.

A few Sundays ago my father’s sermon was titled, “Enough is Enough” from Mark 5:25-34. The part of his sermon that stuck out the most to me is this story. It was about a girl who had grown so much in her life. The short version of the story was this young lady had the minister come over to bless her new home. While there, the minister saw a picture of a man on her table. The minister asked the woman was this man her friend, cousin or brother but she quickly explained to him that he was her ex-boyfriend. I kid you not all of us women in the church was like “oh no! Warning! Unhealthy! She must be crazy!”

My dad laughs then continues his story, the woman left this picture of her ex-boyfriend because without the challenges and heartbreak he put her through, she wouldn’t be the woman she is today. After they broke up, she grew so much in her ministry with God, learned more about her self-worth and was able to face challenges because the situation made her stronger. So her reasoning for keeping the picture of the kitchen table was a reminder to thank him for helping her get to the place where she was today.

Now keeping a picture on the kitchen table might be a bit extreme but the moral of the story stuck with me. When we experience a negative break up, initially we dwell on all the negatives. I also do this myself. When actually we need to focus more on what we learned from those relationships and grow from those experiences. As women, we dwell so much on the hurt and pain that man caused us, but the key is to learn and grow. We have to push through the hurt and use the pain to push us to higher heights. The key is to dwell on the lessons learned and to focus on your growth in the process.

Therefore, let’s thank our exes for helping to end that chapter so we can focus on what God has in store. Trust and believe this will not be easy but we have to stop running from our pain. We have to face our pain and allow it to push us into all we have ever wanted and needed. I’m not saying keep a picture (unless it’s one you really look bomb in) but keep those memories as they push you into a more powerful, peaceful and purposeful you!

Love Always,

– A. Rochell

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Guest Post: Glamorous Girls who LOVE God

So when the founder of this wonderful, and awesome movement called God, Glitter and Glad Ministries– I felt really like unqualified to do it. I thought about calling LP, and asking her to reconsider me writing it, and being featured, but the day before I was going to call her I had this crazy dream. I don’t exactly remember what happened in the dream (sorry to disappoint!), but I remember waking up feeling like God was calling me out to do it. Thus, here we are.

Being a Glamorous Girl, who loves God, probably means a bunch of things to different people, but for me, it means the following things.

  • First and foremost, it means to be a girl after God’s heart. My number one desire in life is to please God. I love God so much, that I don’t want to disappoint him. I go out of my way to make sure I am praying every day, staying in my word, and loving every person I come in contact with.
  • It means, being uncomfortable. At times, I don’t understand where God places me, but I know in the end it always works out for the greater good (“And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.” Romans 8:28). So even when I am uncomfortable or feel awkward – I know that the result is pleasing God, which is good for me.
  • Being set apart in the best, most inclusive club there is – the Club of Jesus Christ. You will gain some of the most amazing Christian brothers and sisters that are doing great things, but also will hold you accountable to your walk and journey with God. You will also be set apart in more positive ways than negative. Opportunities and blessing will come your way, and you won’t be able to do anything but thank God for the great works He is doing through you.
  • Some of the old folks in my church used to say “People should be able to see Christ in you, and that maybe the only image of Him they’ll ever see.” To me, being a Glam Girl for God, means that you are going to be held to a higher standard than other people, which isn’t always a bad thing. (“And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what [is] that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.” – Romans 12:2)

Being a Glamorous Girl who loves God isn’t about being Glamorous, but more so about having God within you, and making sure others receive God in them as well. Be a blessing to others, and you will surely be blessed.

Love and Blessings Always,
Tanesha Renae

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Dear Someone’s Everything,

Hi Ladies and Company, I just wanted to know ya’ll opinion. Is the saying “there’s someone for everyone,” really true? Is it really a perfect relationship partner out there in the world for everyone? Or is that just something ya’ll have forced yourself to believe? – Someone’s Everything

Dear Someone’s Everything,

As a Christian, I was raised to believe that God has a divine plan for everyone. For some, God may have a perfect partner and for others He might have some other plan outlined for you. Whether you are a Believer or not, I have found it to be true that you shouldn’t force life to do what you want it to do, whether that means with your relationship, friends, work or anything at all. We often have this tendency as women to fantasize and romanticize our futures, which is fine until we limit ourselves to our dream plans. Looking for the “perfect partner” will lead you to disappointment because trust me, no one is perfect. Is there someone for everyone? Maybe, but take my advice: focus on yourself first. Live life and enjoy every second of it without worrying about adding another person into your mix. One of my favorite quotes is “what is for you, will not pass you.” So do not be distracted by what you think is passing you or what you think you might be missing out on. Enjoy where you are and who you are with because each moment is a precious gift that shouldn’t be taken for granted.

Nothing But Love,

– Aliah

Love Yourself Challenge Week 6: Self-Reflection

So this week’s love yourself challenge was to do some self-reflection. I’m sure we’ve all seen and read blogs about self-reflection, so I took a personal spin to the topic. This summer I’ve grown closer in my walk with God which has led resulted in major moments of reflecting. I believe when you allow God to be the lead and guide your steps, HE allows self-reflecting to manifest. When rely and depend on God you gain a clearer outlook on yourself, others and where your journey in life. When focusing on your relationship with God, you gain joy, peace, love, patience, forgiveness and understanding not only for others but for yourself as well. He allows you to become more aware of HIS plan for your life. God truly allows you to see yourself for who you are, where you are and where you are going.

Life changes aren’t always easy and sometimes growing in God and yourself is difficult as it will reveal some tough truths about yourself you aren’t necessarily ready to face or conquer. Reflecting with God on yourself, allows you to eventually forgive those who have wrong you and forgive yourself for tolerating their idiocy which lead to change and growth. For what does not change, does not grow. During this time of reflection, you will experience tears, heartaches and pain but it’s totally worth it in the end. The growth the people will see as a result from the changes you’ve made will continue to push you to higher heights.

How did you self-reflect this week? Share below in the comments section!

– A. Rochell

Love Yourself Challenge Week Three: Meditate On This!

So week three’s challenge was to take 3 minutes of my day, and really think about this quote and what it means. “People often say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and I say that the most liberating thing about beauty is realizing that you are the beholder,” -Salma Hayek.

Meditating on this quote gave me the opportunity to more deeply understand how I view beauty. Beauty is different to everyone. I am the beholder of beauty. I am the judge of what is beautiful to me. When I journey throughout my day I notice things, I notice the earth, other people, my environment, and myself. I think to myself of the things I long to see, and I awe at sights that I deem beautiful. It is so easy to look into the mirror and to think that I am not beautiful, but it is also so easy to look into the mirror and to think wow I’m so beautiful. When I look in the mirror I either see myself how I think other people see me or how I truly see myself. How I truly see myself is always more positive than how I think others view me. I’m not sure why so often when I look into the mirror I think of how others see me first. The truth is that I will never know how others see me, so it is pointless for me to try to imagine. I am beautiful to me and that is all that matters. God granted me, and no one else, authority over my body. Therefore, I should never give someone else power over me by placing their opinions of myself above my own. When I look in the mirror I see God’s precious daughter. I see a Godly woman destined for greatness. I see God’s masterpiece, a one of a kind sculpture. When I look in the mirror I see my beauty. I see my perfections and my flaws and I marvel at how they work together to make me who I am. We are the beholders of our own beauty. No one else should ever hold that power over us. We are beautiful, we are God’s magnificent creations.

With Love,

– Heather

Love Yourself Challenge Week Two: 25 Reasons Why You Love Yourself

Ladies & Co. introduced the “Love Yourself Like A Queen” challenge last week and it’s already making an impact!  The 7-week challenge was created for women to self-reflect and look within ourselves through God. Last week we wrote love letters to our first loves, ourselves! Week 2’s activity was to think about 25 reasons you love yourself and I’m honored to be sharing my reasons. 25 reasons should come easy to a woman of confidence, but it took more time than anticipated to create my list.  I even had to pull in love ones to complete it, but this is my perfect list! Week 2’s challenge wasn’t just about the list, it was an activity to look from within to examine yourself in a positive light. In this life, we are our worst critics but this gave us an opportunity to reflect on the elements, characteristics and qualities that make us the beautiful queens we are!

What you love about yourself

  1. I am a child of God.
  2. I work hard to achieve my goals.
  3. I’m more actively involved in church.
  4. I’m acknowledging who I am.
  5. I’m content in my own skin and with my connection to God.
  6. I’m more aware of who I can depend on.
  7. I’m learning not to let anyone or anything steal my joy.
  8. I am recognizing my own self-worth.
  9. I’m appreciating all the wisdom my parents have shared with me.
  10. I’m walking in my purpose.
  11. I have a 5-10 year plan for my life (knowing everything does not always go according to this plan).
  12. The love, passion and commitment I have for seniors, children, and people in need.
  13. I am not allowing stress to control my behavior.
  14. I’m learning to broaden my horizons.
  15. I’m discovering my happy place!
  16. I’m becoming more humble in my journey.
  17. I know that I am made in God’s image so I am beautiful just the way I am.
  18. I am my sister’s keeper.
  19. I love to motivate and encourage those around me.
  20. I am family oriented.
  21. I have the hope and faith that our generation will positively impact the world.
  22. I am open to what God has in store for me.
  23. I try to see the good in all people.
  24. I’ve been transforming my mind, body and soul to be healthier.
  25. I am a phenomenal woman!

A.Rochell

21 things I’ve learned since turning 21.

Happy June 2ND, also known as MY HALF BIRTHDAY!! It is official – today at 1:50ish am, I have been 21 years old for entire 6 months! Crazy right? Normally I don’t celebrate this day, however I thought with June being “Love Yourself” Month here at the site, I would talk about some of the things I’ve learned in the last six months as a form of self-reflection.

  1. Not everyone has the same moral code and values as you were raised with.
  2. Do not expect anything from anyone, so you’re not disappointed.
  3. It’s OK to do things alone.
  4. Breaking out of your comfort zone, is addictive.
  5. “And if not, God is still good.”
  6. You won’t get every opportunity; give others a chance to be great.
  7. I am not ready for children yet: babysitting is enough. And that is okay.
  8. It’s okay to be an introvert and extrovert!
  9. I will not and cannot make everyone happy, while maintaining my own happiness.
  10. Life is hard, but I am BARELY more than equipped to handle it.
  11. I deserve more than I give myself credit for.
  12. I am not ready for a real adult 9-5-work life. I have to work my own hours, or at least not work until after 10 AM.
  13. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and I am the beholder.
  14. People are always going to have something to say about your goals and life plans – remember they are your plans not anyone else.
  15. Just because everyone is doing “more real life” things such as having kids, getting engaged, and married, and having jobs, does not mean that you are not where you are supposed to be in life.
  16. Don’t be discouraged by critics of your goals – there are so many critics without credentials.
  17. Continue to be great, and let your light shine on the world.
  18. WORK HARD – at every single thing you do. Give no less than 100% to everything you do.
  19. Always behave kinder than you feel, you never know what someone else is going through.
  20. Love fearlessly.
  21. God loves you, no matter how short you fall, or how badly you mess up. He still loves and cares about you.

Keep It Classy, 

-T.Renae

Dating You!

What a concept?

Have you ever thought that maybe you can’t find anyone for you because you don’t know yourself??? *think about it* We all say, myself included. I am guilty; “we can’t find good men anymore” or one better “ I am single because I just don’t want to be”…. LIES WE TELL! LOL

Think about it… Would you date you if you were someone else? For those who say yes right off the back really think about it. On those bad days when you aren’t so pleasant and those days you just don’t want to be a bothered, would you date you?  We must take time to look at the person staring at you in the mirror!

As women most of us are looking for the right one because we know we have a lot to offer right? This is where we get a little confused because the bible says “HE that finds a good woman finds a good thing”….. Proverbs 18:22.  Trust me I know how hard that seems in our generation BUT it’s NOT our job to find a man it’s his job to find us.

If that means we’re single for months or even a year its God’s will and He is just getting us ready. In that time we need to figure out who we are, which I call dating yourself! I’m not saying you have to go to movies, dinner or concerts alone but I do feel you need to enjoy your own company because you shouldn’t need a man to feel complete. I’m learning God places a man in your life when you are complete within yourself, that man is an added bonus to put you on another level. 1 x 1=1 Get it? When God send you the MAN who becomes your husband them together you are one!!!

-A.Rochell

Prayer

Word by Seth Martin

What is prayer? Prayer is a task, you should not only use it when you are in need. Prayer is communication with God. Talking with God. It is necessary for you to speak your prayers! You need to communicate to have a relationship with God, just like you would any other relationship.

Why do we need to pray?

1. You need prayer to feel closer to God. Ephesians 6: 18: “praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints.” The Lord says He wants us to pray, and that should be a good enough reason for all believers! This is not an option, more like an obligation. We have a responsibility to pray to God. Forgetting is not a good enough excuse, because God didn’t forget to wake you up this morning! Jesus emphasizes this, in Luke 18:1-8, pray all the time!

2. Prayer changes circumstances! In Jonah 2:7, “When my soul fainted within me, I remembered the Lord; And my prayer went up to You, Into Your holy temple.” Prayer changes your situations. Any mess you are dealing with, ask God for help! “Have you prayed about your situation as much as you have talked about? ” remember this as you are going through tough situations in life. God will deliver us from it, but first we have to pray!

3. Prayer changes us. When we pray, we enter into God’s holy presence. Changes begin in His presence. We will begin to show forgiveness to people, because God has forgiven us. Without prayer there is no process in becoming better Christians.

Just Do Something

Book: Just Do Something by Kevin D. Young.

Word by Seth Martin

We as Christians often struggle to figure out what God’s will of our life is. We are so afraid of not being in the will of God. After all it is “the safest place on Earth.”

“God show me,” “Tell me what I am supposed to do,” “Who am I going to marry,” and more questions like this are all questions in our heads, especially at this age. God doesn’t work like that, He is not just going to tell you what His will is.

Why are we worried?

1. We want to please God. Geniunely want to be pleasing to God.

2. Some of us, have entirely too many choices! It is hard for us to inure out what the right choice is. For example, with a relationship. We have a hard time committing because we are afraid because there are so many choices we don’t know who to pick.

3. Some of us are cowards. We are afraid of what may happen, or we may run into hard times and hurts. We don’t want to experience bad days. In all of our lives as Christians, we are going to have bad days! The Bible does not say that we are passed up from bad days. The good news is that the Lord will always be with us, even throughout the bad day.

God does not expect us to figure it out. In Jeremiah 29:11, God says he knows the way, and the plan for our lives. In the book by Kevin D. Young it says “God’s way is not a crystal ball, His way is wisdom.” This means that God is not a fortune teller, He will push you into your destiny, by making us wiser and guiding us into it.

Matthew 6:25-34, Jesus said not to worry! He says “Your heavenly Father knows you need this…” This text is telling us not to stress about ANYTHING because God knows we need these things. So young women do not worry about who the man you will marry is, or where he is! Stop crying, and calm down; Jesus knows who this man is, and where he is. You must trust that God has the man for you.

We as humans will never fully understand God’s will, until after it happens.

Just trust God, and the rest will fall into place according to His Will.