Thankful Tuesday,

ThankfulTuesday..jpgThankful Tuesday,

November has been deemed the “thankful and grateful” month, rightfully so with Thanksgiving and the beginning of the MOST WONDERFUL TIME OF YEAR! On Facebook, you see most people doing the 31 days of thankfulness and the world just seems a bit nicer. I really love it and this time of year. I try to practice being thankful regularly because it is so easy to forget how blessed and lucky we all are (even with our problems). At least once a week, I try to reflect on the blessing in my life and look at all the things God has done for me (even when I haven’t deserved them).

With Thanksgiving approaching quickly (like in two days!), I encourage you to do the same! Carry this into your next month and next year – Germany Kent once said, “Gratitude is one of the most powerful human emotions. Once expressed, it changes attitude, brightens outlook, and broadens our perspective.”

I really believe that. I really believe that being grateful for each moment is the key to living a fulfilled life. After my reflections, I always feel full and happy. Like wow, God has really blessed me.

Take time out today (and at least weekly) to really reflect and be grateful for the people, things and opportunities we have – and equally as thankful for the things to come and the things, people and opportunities that God protected us from.

I am especially thankful to all of you reading this! I really love and appreciate each and every person who reads anything on my blog. You all are what keeps me going. Share in the comments one thing (I know, its going to be hard to just pick one thing) that you are especially thankful for today!

XOXO,

Tanesha

 

SUNDAY (A day late) SOAPBOX: Don’t settle for less!

Let me tell you, I had a breakdown earlier this week. I’m not exactly sure what caused the breakdown but I started to feel like I am suddenly settling with my life. I began to think, maybe this is what my life is going to be – I’m going to live at home forever, not get into graduate school, not find the love of my life and a bunch of other things. I got caught into a negative rut, thinking maybe I don’t deserve all things I was longing for and wanted for so long. But then in the back of my mind, a thought occurred – if you truly feel like you deserve these things, why at the first sign of adversity or an obstacle comes up, you’re questioning your worthiness to receive it? (Print that out and hang it somewhere!)

I wonder why I do this to myself, I get so worked up about things that are largely out of my control at the present moment and then begin to feel like I am undeserving of the things that God has told me specifically are for me. It’s crazy but you cannot settle for mediocrities. There are ENOUGH mediocre people in the world, you don’t need to be another one nor do you deserve to be one.

This quote has literally helped me deal with this: “Don’t settle for average. Bring your best to the moment. Then, whether it fails or succeeds, at least you know you gave all you had. We need to live the best that’s in us.” – Angela Bassett. Now consider this? Right now, if you’re bringing your very best to this moment and every single moment in the future, you will get everything that you deserve. You’ll get the success you want, the love life you deserve, the body you want – the possibilities are literally endless.

Stay Encouraged Boo & Don’t Settle,

– Tanesha 🙂

10 STANDOUT IDEAS from 2016 (thus far)

I feel like 2016 has been the year of learning for me. I am forever reflecting on this year and what things I could’ve done better, what things were good. I think self-reflection is one of the most beneficial things a person can do, because change has to come from within. People can tell you all they want about the things you do wrong, or the things you are doing correctly – BUT until you recognize it yourself, you probably won’t make longterm changes. So here are some of the main things that I’ve learned and that I plan on keeping with me for the rest of my post-undergraduate life.

  • Dream HUGE, and don’t limit yourself, even if other people try to. You are the creator of your destiny, and absolutely nothing is out of your reach, unless you put it there.
  • Being Sure of yourself is a process, it takes practice. And by practice I mean every single day, looking yourself in the mirror and saying “You got this girl!”  You must be sure of yourself, because if you aren’t – who else will?
  • Trust God and his path for you, he will never lead you wrong. Romans 8:28 in the Bible says: “And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.”
  • People only take from you what they know you will give them. This goes hand in hand with the saying, “people will only treat you how you allow them to.” (Thanks mom!) Folks are probably walking all over you and treating you the way they are because you are allowing them to by not standing up for yourself or correcting their behavior. Only you can change it tho.
  • SAY NO: with conviction. Stop doing things you don’t want to do and things that make you unhappy. Life is literally too short for you to do anything you don’t want to do. Say no, and leave it alone. You don’t have to explain yourself to ANYONE.
  • Friendships are reciprocal, and not everyone is your friend. If I’m being honest, I’m still learning this. But you shouldn’t be the one always reaching out, and always planning. You should be getting out of the friendship, the same things you’re putting in.
  • Plan early in your relationships, especially with marriage. Honestly ask yourself (and your significant other) what your intentions and expectations are up front. There’s no point of your intentions to seriously date, and your significant others intention’s are to casually date around. I believe that preparation is the key to success and that it should be applied to your relationships as well.
  • Explore the world – take in every opportunity, even opportunities you don’t think you will gain from. I think you should take advantage of every single opportunity and open door that comes your way, because you may gain skills that you wouldn’t have before. Also you could learn what type of career you don’t want to have.
  • The difference between you and someone else is what you are willing to sacrifice. I think there is something profound about being the person to go above and beyond the normative path. You should be able and willing to sacrifice for your goals. Sacrifice is temporary but the reward and feelings of accomplishing your goals are forever.
  • You can have it all, as long as God says the same. Galatians 1:10 says “Obviously, I’m not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant!”As long as you are focused on living your life as an offering to God, everything will work out the way it is supposed because God favor’s His Children.

What are some of your stand out ideas from 2016? Share below in the comments!

XOXO

– Tanesha

Unplugged part 2. 

So it’s been officially a week (and a few days) of no social media!

I thought I would have this miraculous feeling of freedom and motivation but I don’t. I honestly feel almost the same as I did with social media, but I will say I don’t feel this invisible audience watching me all the time or criticizing my pictures or snaps. I felt like I always had this enormous pressure on my social media to say the right things, only post the most perfect pictures with the perfect caption – not because I’m a perfectionist (I mean, I am, but that’s not the reason), but because I want to be a person and source of inspiration to people. I want people to say “seeing you be great, inspires me to keep pushing towards my dreams and goals.”

 
However, people (including myself) get caught up in other’s folks perceived perfection. I’ll be the first to admit I’m struggling with that. We don’t see all the hard word, blood, sweat, and tears that went into a person’s achievements. I want to be more transparent about my life and my struggles (which is honestly why I blog). There is this weird strength I feel when I am vulnerable with people – and if (or when) I go back to social media I want to integrate more of that vulnerability.

 

So, I went to the beach on Friday and I really wanted to snap chat the moment because it was so beautiful and peaceful. This was the first time since getting off social media that I really debated downloading it all back. I just sat for about an hour and a half and read my book Perfect Match by Jodi Picoult in silence. It was so wonderful (until this lady and her 5 obnoxious and loud children decided to sit wayyyyyy too close to me – but that’s another story). And it just kinda hit me (while writing this) is that those private moments when it’s just God, me and nature are somewhat destroyed as soon as I share it on social media. The special and precious moment then becomes God, me, nature and my 150 snap chat followers, plus my 1,000 IG followers plus whoever else follows me on various other platforms. (I know I’m contradicting myself by sharing a picture – I’m not perfect! It was a beautiful day!) There’s something to be said about moments that only you have the privilege of knowing. It’s like holding on to and protecting the last bit of privacy you have in the world. It’s sacred.

 
I’m not going to lie, some days I really miss social media because it’s great entertainment and time consuming (especially since I’m not doing much these days). But also because it helped connections with my friends. Instead of having to check in with them by way of a call or text, you can just check their social media and be kept up to date about what they’re doing. And that’s the part that sucks, I thought more of my friends would’ve noticed that I wasn’t on social media (especially since I notice when they’re not on as much).

 
It’s only been a week and some change, maybe it’ll be different soon. I also am finding that I’m just holding my phone sometimes – just staring at it like, “what do I do with this thing now?” I also think I’m getting addicted to playing games on my phone, so I might have to delete those soon too.

 
XOXO,

 
– Tanesha

Monday Thoughts: Face Your Fears

Happy Monday Everyone! My internship wanted us to have some “lasting memories” and team building activities before the program ends. So they paid for us to go to this Adventure Park in Virginia Beach. So basically, it’s like a ropes obstacle course up in the trees. So I have a slight extreme fear of heights. I had already decided earlier in the week that I was not going to get up in the trees – they can’t make me do anything, right?

So fast forward to getting there, I spent 30 minutes debating if I was actually going to go up in the course. Mind you, this is probably the safest way to go climbing they have steel ropes that can hold up to 500 pounds. I finally go out there on the ropes and I felt so connected with God. Possibly because I was scared out of my mind, but I feel like my faith increased by like 50 million. It was just me and God, and my friend in front of me screaming for me to “keep going.” Afterwards, I felt so good. I accomplished something on my bucket list, as well as faced my fear. I feel like I can do anything I set my mind to with a little prayer and faith.


I encourage all of you to do something that scares you. I believe that doing something that scares you, builds your confidence up. Even if it is something slight like making a phone call, doing mental math, public speaking, or even talking to your crush.

Go Forth and conquer your fears, as well as build your confidence.

Love Always,

– Tanesha.

Monday Thoughts: Expect Greater

 

“She quietly expected great things to happen to her, and no doubt that’s one of the reasons why they did.” – Zelda Fitzgerald.
Expectations can sometimes cause disappointments, however, if you always are thinking something bad or unfavorable will happen to you – that is exactly what will happen. I’m a huge believer in mind over matter. Your mind is the most powerful weapon you have. Be sure to use it for your benefit. Every day this week – Expect Greater. Greater success in your career, or greater understanding in a complicated situation. 🙂
Stay Encouraged,
– T.Renae

Guest Post: Glamorous Girls who LOVE God

So when the founder of this wonderful, and awesome movement called God, Glitter and Glad Ministries– I felt really like unqualified to do it. I thought about calling LP, and asking her to reconsider me writing it, and being featured, but the day before I was going to call her I had this crazy dream. I don’t exactly remember what happened in the dream (sorry to disappoint!), but I remember waking up feeling like God was calling me out to do it. Thus, here we are.

Being a Glamorous Girl, who loves God, probably means a bunch of things to different people, but for me, it means the following things.

  • First and foremost, it means to be a girl after God’s heart. My number one desire in life is to please God. I love God so much, that I don’t want to disappoint him. I go out of my way to make sure I am praying every day, staying in my word, and loving every person I come in contact with.
  • It means, being uncomfortable. At times, I don’t understand where God places me, but I know in the end it always works out for the greater good (“And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.” Romans 8:28). So even when I am uncomfortable or feel awkward – I know that the result is pleasing God, which is good for me.
  • Being set apart in the best, most inclusive club there is – the Club of Jesus Christ. You will gain some of the most amazing Christian brothers and sisters that are doing great things, but also will hold you accountable to your walk and journey with God. You will also be set apart in more positive ways than negative. Opportunities and blessing will come your way, and you won’t be able to do anything but thank God for the great works He is doing through you.
  • Some of the old folks in my church used to say “People should be able to see Christ in you, and that maybe the only image of Him they’ll ever see.” To me, being a Glam Girl for God, means that you are going to be held to a higher standard than other people, which isn’t always a bad thing. (“And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what [is] that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.” – Romans 12:2)

Being a Glamorous Girl who loves God isn’t about being Glamorous, but more so about having God within you, and making sure others receive God in them as well. Be a blessing to others, and you will surely be blessed.

Love and Blessings Always,
Tanesha Renae

Check out the original post here!

 

Love Yourself Challenge Week 6: Self-Reflection

So this week’s love yourself challenge was to do some self-reflection. I’m sure we’ve all seen and read blogs about self-reflection, so I took a personal spin to the topic. This summer I’ve grown closer in my walk with God which has led resulted in major moments of reflecting. I believe when you allow God to be the lead and guide your steps, HE allows self-reflecting to manifest. When rely and depend on God you gain a clearer outlook on yourself, others and where your journey in life. When focusing on your relationship with God, you gain joy, peace, love, patience, forgiveness and understanding not only for others but for yourself as well. He allows you to become more aware of HIS plan for your life. God truly allows you to see yourself for who you are, where you are and where you are going.

Life changes aren’t always easy and sometimes growing in God and yourself is difficult as it will reveal some tough truths about yourself you aren’t necessarily ready to face or conquer. Reflecting with God on yourself, allows you to eventually forgive those who have wrong you and forgive yourself for tolerating their idiocy which lead to change and growth. For what does not change, does not grow. During this time of reflection, you will experience tears, heartaches and pain but it’s totally worth it in the end. The growth the people will see as a result from the changes you’ve made will continue to push you to higher heights.

How did you self-reflect this week? Share below in the comments section!

– A. Rochell

Love Yourself Challenge Week Three: Meditate On This!

So week three’s challenge was to take 3 minutes of my day, and really think about this quote and what it means. “People often say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and I say that the most liberating thing about beauty is realizing that you are the beholder,” -Salma Hayek.

Meditating on this quote gave me the opportunity to more deeply understand how I view beauty. Beauty is different to everyone. I am the beholder of beauty. I am the judge of what is beautiful to me. When I journey throughout my day I notice things, I notice the earth, other people, my environment, and myself. I think to myself of the things I long to see, and I awe at sights that I deem beautiful. It is so easy to look into the mirror and to think that I am not beautiful, but it is also so easy to look into the mirror and to think wow I’m so beautiful. When I look in the mirror I either see myself how I think other people see me or how I truly see myself. How I truly see myself is always more positive than how I think others view me. I’m not sure why so often when I look into the mirror I think of how others see me first. The truth is that I will never know how others see me, so it is pointless for me to try to imagine. I am beautiful to me and that is all that matters. God granted me, and no one else, authority over my body. Therefore, I should never give someone else power over me by placing their opinions of myself above my own. When I look in the mirror I see God’s precious daughter. I see a Godly woman destined for greatness. I see God’s masterpiece, a one of a kind sculpture. When I look in the mirror I see my beauty. I see my perfections and my flaws and I marvel at how they work together to make me who I am. We are the beholders of our own beauty. No one else should ever hold that power over us. We are beautiful, we are God’s magnificent creations.

With Love,

– Heather