Happy Birthday to Me!


Happy Birthday to Me!

It’s my 24th birthday – and I gotta admit I’m feeling a little weird. This will be my first birthday without doing something to celebrate with my parents, and honestly it is kinda bumming me out. But I refuse to be sad on my birthday (plus ain’t nobody got time for that, I have a whole final due on Monday). This year, instead of reflecting on what I’ve already learned – I want to focus on changing for the better. The past year has been very revealing to me about the type of person that I want to be. Not because I am unhappy with who I am, because let’s face it – I’m pretty lit. But rather because next year, at 25, I want to be happier and just overall better as a person. God has put it in my heart to start laying the ground work in my 24th year, so that the next quarter of my life will be the best.

My Goals are as followed:

Stop Allowing Folks to Treat You Like You’re Regular. I have this really bad habit of allowing people to just treat me any type of way. It is because growing up and even into my undergrad days, I used to be really afraid of being alone and not having any friends. But now, after moving to Pittsburgh alone, I’ve realized that – I don’t need them. I pride myself in being a good friend to people and if they don’t want to act right – that’s on them. Friends are great and as much as I want to have that “group of girlfriends” – I can’t keep trying and trying and trying.  Especially when I’m not reaping any of the benefits. If you’re my friend cool, but if I feel like I’m putting in more than I am going to Imma fall back and stop expecting that reciprocation. I’m still gunna be there for you if you need to be as a listening ear. I just have to stop expecting them to do the same.

Live More In Love and Be Positive. Most people who know me know that I am a pretty optimistic person. But sometimes my positive energy gets hit with other people’s negativity and I absorb it. Not on purpose, but it happens. I want to be able to keep my positivity and energy clear of other people’s baggage. Which is sometimes really hard for me because I take on other people’s stress often. Also, I want to live in love more. I wrote a blog post about how to put love in your daily lives. But I want to be a more loving and kind person. When people are around me, I want them to instantly feel loved and cared for. There was a girl once at Hampton, while I didn’t know her personally, I could see and feel the energy she radiated. I want that.

More Jesus. For a few months now, I have been feeling like something is missing from my life. I felt like all this good was happening around me, but still something was missing. And honestly, it was yesterday that it hit me. I wasn’t spending as much time with God as I should be. So this next year, I want to take my relationship with God to the next level. I feel like I haven’t been taking my relationship with Him as seriously as I should be. But starting today, I am recommitting myself to God, His word, My Prayers, and His people. I will be studying His word and doing daily prayers – every day. No excuses. God has done so much for me, the VERY LEAST I could do is spend time with Him.

There are probably more things, but these are going to be my main focus right now. I am so excited about my next year of growth and wisdom. 23 was a year of getting comfortable with being uncomfortable, growth and new opportunities. I cannot wait to see what 24 brings.

Love yall bunches.

– Tanesha


“I am a man who appreciates a woman who….”

I have been thinking for a very long time, what makes a man appreciate his woman. I know we always talk about how guys are this, and guys aren’t that, but lately i’ve been thinking about what makes a guy really appreciates their woman. Or what they really want/love in their woman. So this is for all the women out there who don’t feel appreciated by the guys in their life. I asked a bunch of guys I know, that are really sweet and charming what they appreciate in a woman. They had to complete the sentence: “I am a man who appreciates a woman who…”

  • “I am a man who appreciates a woman who cleans the toe jam out of my toes…. In other words cares about me in an extra capacity. ” -My Dad
  • “I am a man who appreciates a woman who is ambitious and shows greater or equal determination and drive to reach individual goals and dreams while still supporting his own. ” – Chris H.
  • “I am a man who appreciates a women who loves life and cares for others like she does herself.” – Gregory B.
  • “I am a man who appreciates a woman who appreciates me for who I am, can give me mutual support and meaningful conversation and has a good sense of humor. ” – Wilifred C.
  • “I am a man who appreciates a woman who is Self motivated and appreciates me back. ” – Zachary P.
  • “I am a man who appreciates a woman who can love and hold a man down through thick and thin. ” – Larry
  • “I am a man who appreciates a woman who can push me to be better in everything that I do and who doesn’t allow me to get complacent.” – Devin
  • “I am a man who appreciates a woman who is faithful and is there for you through anything, no matter how good or bad it is.” – Tony
  • “I am a man who appreciates a woman who isn’t just a woman, but a lady. ” – Chad H.
  • “I’m a man who appreciate a woman who loves herself, who loves God, who wants to be successful, who loves her husband, who cherishes her life,  who is committed to loyalty, honesty and peace, who loves her natural hair,  who knows that life isn’t easy but overcoming obstacles is a goal she must attain, who loves and respects her parents, who loves her kids (if and when she has them). ” -Devon
  • “I am a man who appreciates a woman who appreciates me and my efforts.” – Andrew
  • “I am a man who appreciates a woman who adores me, loves me for who I am, doesn’t judge me for my past, see’s the good in me, supports me in all that I do, and builds me up. ” – Charles J.
  • “I am a man who appreciates a woman who appreciates herself and is on the same or higher level of motivation than myself. ” – Reese
  • “I am a man who appreciates a woman who understands that her man sometimes needs to be babied and cared for instead of being hard on him and making him be a man 24/7 365. Who allows her man to be weak sometimes and not bash him for being weak but to help him in his time of need. ” – Charles T.
  • “I am a man who appreciates a woman who pushes me to be the best man i can be. ” – Philip D.
  • “I am a man who appreciates a woman who is intelligent, ambitious, hard working, and a pleasure to be around.” – Jordan W.
  • ” I’m a man who appreciates a woman who is honest, who is secure within themselves, who is resilient and can communicate, who thinks of others an not only themselves, and who is forthcoming with their intentions.” -Benjamin M & Joshua M
  • “I am a man who appreciates a woman who is independent, god fearing, great at communicating, and loves to travel. ” – Bryant

Keep It Classy,


Love Yourself Challenge Week Two: 25 Reasons Why You Love Yourself

Ladies & Co. introduced the “Love Yourself Like A Queen” challenge last week and it’s already making an impact!  The 7-week challenge was created for women to self-reflect and look within ourselves through God. Last week we wrote love letters to our first loves, ourselves! Week 2’s activity was to think about 25 reasons you love yourself and I’m honored to be sharing my reasons. 25 reasons should come easy to a woman of confidence, but it took more time than anticipated to create my list.  I even had to pull in love ones to complete it, but this is my perfect list! Week 2’s challenge wasn’t just about the list, it was an activity to look from within to examine yourself in a positive light. In this life, we are our worst critics but this gave us an opportunity to reflect on the elements, characteristics and qualities that make us the beautiful queens we are!

What you love about yourself

  1. I am a child of God.
  2. I work hard to achieve my goals.
  3. I’m more actively involved in church.
  4. I’m acknowledging who I am.
  5. I’m content in my own skin and with my connection to God.
  6. I’m more aware of who I can depend on.
  7. I’m learning not to let anyone or anything steal my joy.
  8. I am recognizing my own self-worth.
  9. I’m appreciating all the wisdom my parents have shared with me.
  10. I’m walking in my purpose.
  11. I have a 5-10 year plan for my life (knowing everything does not always go according to this plan).
  12. The love, passion and commitment I have for seniors, children, and people in need.
  13. I am not allowing stress to control my behavior.
  14. I’m learning to broaden my horizons.
  15. I’m discovering my happy place!
  16. I’m becoming more humble in my journey.
  17. I know that I am made in God’s image so I am beautiful just the way I am.
  18. I am my sister’s keeper.
  19. I love to motivate and encourage those around me.
  20. I am family oriented.
  21. I have the hope and faith that our generation will positively impact the world.
  22. I am open to what God has in store for me.
  23. I try to see the good in all people.
  24. I’ve been transforming my mind, body and soul to be healthier.
  25. I am a phenomenal woman!


Words [of] Encouragement Wednesday: 6/17

“Stop Trying to prove it to other people. Prove it to yourself.”

You will save so much time, and energy by not trying to prove yourself to other people. I mean think about it, once you prove it to them once, you’ll just feel like you have to keep proving yourself to gain their acceptance, and approval. Once you start proving to yourself, that you can do everything that you put your mind to, you will be much much much more satisfied with life, and feel more rewarded. Stay Encouraged.
Ladies and Company

Happiness: The Inside Job!

Tips on making your life more genuinely happy! I feel like sometimes we get so caught up in the complacency of life. Then become super content with doing the same day to day things, every single day. I just felt like my life was too content. So I have been making a more conscious effort, to make my life genuinely happier.
  1. Realize you are not going to be happy every single day of your life. Life is hard sometimes, and it is very easy to get overwhelmed by the day to day stressors, life choices, and the world.
  2. Avoid Stress and Confrontation. For me, I try to plan out almost everything out. So my goals, instead of having to stress about how I am going to accomplish them, with my plan of action sheets, I have a step by step plan of what I need to do to accomplish it. And the confrontation section, I just don’t deal with it. I avoid it at all costs. If a person around me is getting hostile or angry, I walk away. Try to be the bigger person in everything.
  3. Don’t judge nor compare. The more you judge people and compare yourself to them, the less happy you will be. I always think of life as this “perception of reality”, and everyone has their own perceptions, so who I am to judge their perception when my perception may be weird to them.
  4. Take risks, face your fears! Get that adrenaline pumping! I always take life by the handlebars. Life starts and happens outside of your comfort zone!
  5. Just ride the wave. When things in your life start to go array, just go with it. God may be directing you to a new direction that you couldn’t see already. Riding the wave is sometimes difficult for me, because I like to plan and I am very Type A personality.
  6. Choose to be happy. I firmly believe that Happiness is a choice. Choose to look on the bright side of things, even when it is hard. You can do it!

Share your tips on being more genuinely happy below!!

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Keep It Classy,


The happiest people in the world are those who feel absolutely terrific about themselves, and this is the natural outgrowth of accepting total responsibility for every part of their life.

– Brian Tracy

Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now! Don’t wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it’s at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and savored.

— Early Nightingale