Man Crush of The Month: Marshal

HAPPY LAST MONTH OF THE YEAR!!!! December is probably my second favorite month, but December has my favorite man crush thus far! This month’s man crush is none other than Marshal! I actually met Marshal through Hampton University’s Student Recruitment Team in 2013. He’s literally one of the most chill and cool. Like he’s the epitome of a cool guy. Marshal is a single, 24 years old, from Chino, California! He is the co-founder of a start-up, The Greenrose Agency. The Greenrose Agency is a digital marketing products sand services retailer and their agents offer specialized consultation and support around their product catalog. He is also an aspiring polymath – He loves to create and produce creative content of all kinds. He’s an obsessive sports fan and fantasy sports player and he has a passion for the history of African American music. Now on to the questions!

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How would you describe your personality in three words?

Passionate. Driven. Balanced. 

Which do you prefer to listen to your heart or your brain? Why?

I honestly believe you should try a little of both. I’m as much an artist as a scientist. 

Who is your celebrity crush?

Always and forever Lauren London. 

Who do you think should make the first move males or females? Why?

I think if that person motivates you to make a move, male or female, you should listen that voice in your head saying, “shoot your shot”

What’s the longest relationship you’ve been in? What did you learn?

The longest relationship I was in lasted for about 4 1/2 years. And the biggest thing that I learned is that loving someone isn’t about finding someone perfect, but about finding someone your willing to accept is imperfect and also acknowledges that you are. If you know of that person, let them know.

What motivational words would you tell someone on the come-up?

The best piece of advice I’ve ever personally heard and have applied is “turn fear into a tailwind” sometimes I easily get caught up in anxieties around my personal progress. I’ve learned to use that fear and anxiety to propel rather than paralyze me.

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What’s the most awkward date that you’ve ever been on?

I don’t think I’ve been on an “awkward” date per se, but I did go on a date once to an art gallery with someone it felt like I couldn’t communicate with for more than 30 seconds.

Where do you see yourself in the next five years?

In the next five years, I see myself beginning my second and third planned ventures and planning the IPO of the Greenrose Agency.

What do you usually do to let a girl know that you are interested in her?

I usually try to be straightforward about it, I have to feel comfortable being myself with her to even begin generating an interest.

What is your favorite and least favorite thing about yourself?

My favorite thing about myself is my confidence and optimism, my least favorite thing about myself is that confidence sometimes cause me to procrastinate. I play “hero ball” and place unnecessary pressure on myself (sometimes I think it’s because I like the pressure lol)

Who has been the most influential person in your life?

The most influential person in my life easily is my mother. She often says that we “grew up together” and to an extent it’s true. My mom gave birth to me when she was 20 years old, and raised me as a single parent for the first 10 years of my life. She’s my best friend as well as my mom.

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What’s your personal theme song?

“In My Lifetime (Remix)” – Jay-Z

What are your lifetime ambitions?

My lifetime ambitions are to achieve personal peace and become the best version of myself. If fortune or even fame fall somewhere in there, even better.

What are your career goals?

My career goals are to be a serial entrepreneur and investor.

How are you changing the world?

Today, we have made it so that businesses and enterprises are the catalysts and drivers of our society. I honestly believe that it is the responsibility of those who recognize that this is true, to build and design businesses and enterprises that are responsible and do their best to empower the people the they directly effect. I feel that the co-founding the Greenrose Agency to help small business owners is just the start of me doing so.

What’s one thing you want the world to know about you and who you are?

I feel like this is the part where I assert “I’m taking over the world”, but I’m definitely much more of a “show and prove” kind of person.

Why do men often look over the average girl?

I don’t believe they “look over” them, I just believe men fail to mature fast enough to realize things they need instead of things they want early in our lives. It’s unfortunate, but I think it’s true.

Why do guys tend to hide their feelings and not fully express them?

I’ve recently tried to do better at expressing my feelings. I’m a believer that being emotional and masculine are not mutually exclusive. Many men may tell you different, but there are a lot of hurt women who can definitely tell you otherwise.

What do guys do to make them feel better after a long day? What are your forms of self-care?

I actually practice meditation, taking sometime to tend to your mind and your thoughts is really important. We can find ourselves carrying around a lot of baggage.

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What are you most afraid of living in today’s society?

I’m most afraid of the lack of empathy I see from people everyday. I believe that too few people are trying to widen their perspectives and actually understand other people.

How do you seize and take advantage of every single day?

I do my best to be present, my lifestyle requires me to think a lot about the future and what will happen tomorrow so a lot of times I try to remember to be in the moment to really take in and process what’s going on at that moment.

What do you feel men aren’t recognized enough for?

I actually think that in general, men are recognized a bit too much. We hear about the accomplishments of men all throughout history. I actually believe that it should be men’s responsibility to acknowledge the accomplishments of women. Who else will?

 

What’s the most discouraging part about being a man? How do you deal with it?

I’ll specify a bit more to being a black man…However, the most discouraging part of being a black man is the fact that we are conditioned to live fearful lives and to make fearful choices. Black masculinity is predicated in fear and insecurity. We are told that we shouldn’t let someone disrespect us, so we fear the result of allowing it to pass without displays of greater masculinity or violence. We are told that we shouldn’t show emotion, as a result we fear the doing and fight it adamantly. Our nature is not predicated in facing our problems, but instead fearing the appropriate courses of action and waving them off as “soft”. Once you’ve realized that mindset does not stand to benefit you in any way, as a black man you feel cheated of a truly free life…

Do you have a brand? Share what it’s purpose, mission and goals here –

As I explained before, I’m the co-founder of The Greenrose Agency. Our goal is to empower small business owners and individuals through digital marketing products and services to grow their businesses and brands in a cost effective way. We are striving to create an unparalleled consumer experience within the digital marketing industry, a brand and retailer people can trust to help them navigate a murky and intimidating landscape.

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Want to connect with Marshal – Here’s His Social Media:

To check out his photos, follow him on Instagram.

To follow all of his adventures – check out his Snapchat or Twitter

Also check out The Greenrose Agency’s Instagram here.

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Man Crush of the Month: Tavon

Happy November!!! This is one of my favorite months – not just because of Thanksgiving but because Tavon is our Man Crush of the Month! He is such a sweet guy, I really adore him so much. He is a single, 23-year-old from Warner Robins, Georgia. He absolutely loves being a dad! He also loves to cook and do spoken word. He also is a huge sneaker head and is addicted to shoe-shopping. Something that is interesting about Tavon is that he is a Chef, owns multiple businesses and is a movie junkie!

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How would you describe your personality in three words?

Giving, Goofy, Spontaneous

Which do you prefer to listen to your heart or your brain? Why?

My heart. Your brain doesn’t have that “instinct” to judge personal situations.

Who is your celebrity crush?

Fantasia – Country, Thick and Chocolate.

Who do you think should make the first move – males or females? Why?

I’m from the Deep South – where chivalry is extremely serious at least to me. So, males should make the first move in my opinion.

What’s the longest relationship you’ve been in? What did you learn?

6 years, sometimes it’s just best to walk away and not force things. Forcing something leads to resentment.

What motivational words would you tell someone on the come-up?

It’s not gonna be easy, but keep God first and push through.

What’s the most awkward date that you’ve been on?

I didn’t know she had a boyfriend, but we ran into him on our date. And she didn’t know her boyfriend had a boyfriend who happened to also be on a date. It was weird.

Where do you se yourself in the next five years?

Married and opening up my 3rd or 4th restaurant and opening up my 2nd or 3rd detailing garage.

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What do you usually do to let a girl know that you are interested in her?

I speak directly to her, Steph Curry at all times.

What is your favorite and least favorite things about yourself?

I love how outgoing I am and I hate how naiver I am (I think everyone is my friend).

Who has been the most influential person in your life?

My dad, he taught me how to be a man before he was killed. Then my son, he made me a better man.

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What’s your personal theme song?

Don’t laugh, but it’s Rich Gang – Lifestyle.

What are you lifetime ambitions?

Just to be successful and be the best father I can be.

What are your career goals?

Build something that my family can keep running when I’m gone.

Why do men often overlook the average girl?

The generation we live in glorifies the wrong girl. We don’t know what a real woman is because we overlook them.

Why do guys tend to hide your feelings and not fully express them?

Pride. Simply put, it’ll make you lose out on a lot.

What are your forms of self-care?

I personally lift weights and play with my son.

What are you most afraid of living in today’s society?

Falling by the way-side. Not living up to my expectations or potential.

How do you seize and take advantage of every single day?

Take it one minute at a time. Schedules help you out a lot too.

What do you feel men aren’t recognized enough for?

Being fathers, fathers are automatically looked at as a “no-no.”

What is the most discouraging part about being a man? How do you deal with it?

We’re looked at as something we’re not a times. It’s okay for a guy to feel hurt at times.

What’s one thing you want the world to know about you and who you are?

I’m an educated black man and a full time father. I’ve made mistakes but I am not a bad person.

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Want to connect with Tavon – Here’s his social media:

To check out all of Tavon’s pictures follow his instagram

Tavon’s Adventures Via Snapchat and Via Twitter

Or Add him on Facebook – Tavon James

Man Crush of Month: Charles

This month’s man crush is Charles and it is also his birthday month – so Happy Birthday Charles!!! I met Charles about 3 years ago, during an internship at Stanford University. He’s is one of the sweetest and kind-hearted young man I know. He is a single, 23 years old, from Amelia, Virginia. He works for the Cumberland County School District as a substitute teacher for three different schools. It is there he enjoys outing a smile on the faces of the next generation of workers and scholars. He is also the head coach for both the Varsity Wrestling Team and Varsity Boys’ Soccer Team. However, this is not Charles’ end goal – he plans on becoming a high school guidance counselor at a rural community high school. During his free time, Charles likes to play video games to unwind and watch professional wrestling shows. He is about to begin a training program that might allow him to make it into the larger professional company of WWE. A fun fact about Charles is that in his younger days, he was called an Oreo until he began attending college and truly discovered the meaning of Black Culture.

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How would you describe your personality in three words?

I’m a Paradox

 

Which do you prefer to listen to your heart or your brain? Why?

My heart. I’m a hopeless romantic so sometimes, the heart knows best what the brain does not.

 

Who is your celebrity crush?

Candice Patton

 

Who do you think should make the first move males or females? Why?

I don’t feel like the first move should be classified under either sex. Sometimes a woman will see what a man cannot when they first see a man and it’s the same with men – sometimes we see something before a woman will. So really either sex can make the first move and it’s deemed alright.

 

What’s the longest relationship you’ve been in? What did you learn?

Three years. That people grow and sometimes that means they grow out of the person you fell in love with.

 

What motivational words would you tell someone on the come-up?

Always believe in yourself because when you start to make it, the people who pushed you will become the people that will try to pull you back down.

 

What’s the most awkward date that you’ve ever been on?

Haven’t been on a date so I don’t even know.

 

Where do you see yourself in the next five years?

In five years, I’m either wrestling professional or working in someone’s high school making a difference in a child’s life. Hopefully, I’m engaged or married and waiting for the right time to have our first child.

 

What do you usually do to let a girl know that you are interested in her?

I tell them, “Hey I am interested in you and I was wondering can we get to know each other better?”

 

What is your favorite and least favorite thing about yourself?

My favorite thing is my commitment to whatever goal I set before myself to get it done. My least favorite thing is my height, I just want two more inches so I can date and not have to worry about a young lady being taller than me in her heels.

 

Who has been the most influential person in your life?

My mother.

What’s your personal theme song?

Rose Golden by Kid Cudi feature Willow Smith

 

What are your lifetime ambitions?

To have a family and be one of the greatest fathers and husbands to ever be imagined.

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What are your career goals?

To be a high school guidance counselor in a rural high school

 

How are you changing the world?

By giving even the worst labeled students a chance at a better life and believing in them.

 

What’s one thing you want the world to know about you and who you are?

I’m just a blunt honest Black man, who is a hopeless romantic that just wants to love and cherish the people in my life.

 

Why do men often overlook the average girl?

Because men want more. A man will always want to find the best as a trophy to show everyone and say “hey this is mine – look but never touch it.”

 

What are you most afraid of living in today’s society?

Jesus coming back before I can start a family.

 

How do you seize and take advantage of every single day?

By waking up and just trying

 

What do you feel men aren’t recognized enough for?

For caring for someone openly.

 

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Want to connect with Charles – Here’s his social media:

To check out all of Charles’ pictures follow his instagram

Charles’ Adventures Via Snapchat and Via Twitter

Or Add him on Facebook – Charles Franklin Taylor Jr

Man Crush of the Month: DJ Hammer

Summer, Summer, Summertime! **sings** Welcome to another exciting issue of Man Crush of the Month! This month’s crush is Chris Ham, also known as DJ Hammer. He’s a 24-year-old, single man from Richmond, Virginia. He graduated from Ferrum College with a Computer Information Systems Degree (Tech Support Emphasis) and a Business Minor. While attending Ferrum, Chris played football for four years. He currently works in Richmond, VA as a full time, Data Analyst. Outside of that, He has been a DJ for 7 years, Co-CEO of an independent record label (MADHouse Muzik) based in the Hampton Roads Area, as well as working on a handful of business projects that are currently expanding along the east coast. He has also dedicated his life towards striving for greatness, not only within himself but as well as within the hearts and minds of others.

“Everyone is capable of achieving whatever it is that you could ever want it just takes the right mindset and environment to do so”

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Now on the rest of the interview!

How would you describe your personality in three words?

Knowledgeable, Driven, SuperHero

What’s the longest relationship you’ve been in? What did you learn?

2 years. I won’t say that it made me give up on Love, but I will say it taught me to take a much more focused approach on loving myself first…the rest will happen eventually.

What motivational words would you tell someone on the come-up?

“You can’t lose if you never quit” – Hammer

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Where do you see yourself in the next five years?

Approaching retirement from Corporate America

Who has been the most influential person in your life?

God

What’s your personal theme song?

Redbone x Childish Gambino (Actually anything from the “Awaken, My Love!” album)

What are your lifetime ambitions?

Impact local, national and global change
What are your career goals?

My career goal is to achieve an amount of wealth that will allow myself to become financially free, which by default will put me in the position to effect real change in the world.

Why do guys tend to hide your feelings and not fully express them?

I believe guys hide their feelings due to past hurt which then turns into the “Fool me once” mentality.

What are you most afraid of living in today’s society?

I don’t believe I have been given a spirit of fear…with that being said the only person I fear in today’s society is myself.

How do you seize and take advantage of every single day?

Looking at each new day as another chance to compete in the game of Life!

What do you feel men aren’t recognized enough for?

Men will always feel like they aren’t recognized enough for the work that they do. Simply due to the fact that as a man you always want to compare yourself to someone else.

How are you changing the world?

I am changing the world by genuinely caring. By empowering, motivating and increasing people in societies mental, spiritual and financial well-being.

Do you have a brand? Share what it’s purpose, mission and goals here –

Yes, the brand originally being Team Hammer has as of the year 2017 been molded into what is now named Hammer Global. The purpose of Hammer Global is to always strive for more and to never be complacent with anything in life. It is much more than a DJ business and it is way more than just achieving wealth. Hammer Global is a lifestyle in which all are welcome to become apart of. With the end goal being to enrich lives, empower our youth of tomorrow and truly LIVE.

What’s one thing you want the world to know about you and who you are?

If I could narrow it down to a single thing that I would want the world to know about me and who I am is that I will never give up in people. As long as we believe in one another we can accomplish anything.

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Want to connect with DJ Hammer – Here’s his social media:

To check out all of DJ Hammer’s Pictures follow his Instagram

DJ Hammer’s Adventures Via Twitter or Snapchat

On Facebook – DJ Hammer

And His Personal Website – www.TheDJHammer.com

MadHouse Muzik’s Instagram  And Facebook

Man Crush of the Month: Quenton Jordan

Happy  June!!! I know you all have been waiting so patiently for this month’s man crush! This month’s crush is Quenton Jordan. He’s a major heartthrob from Chicago, IL – he’s 22 years old and single (!!!). We both attended Hampton University and he is a person I definitely look up to. He has this crazy work ethic and natural intelligence that I admire so much.  He embodies the “grind day is everyday” lifestyle. He is currently juggling two careers: one as a business and technology integration analyst at one of the world’s largest consulting firms (fancy lol) and the other as the Co-Founder of a non-profit organization geared towards revitalizing the concept of financial literacy and spreading it to underrepresented groups throughout the U.S. His main hobby is to give back to those who’ve paved the way for myself and others and to those less fortunate than myself. He also enjoys long walks on the beach, candlelight dinners, and other overly romantic activities (“ladies, peep the relationship status”). He truly enjoys trying new foods, watching movies, arguing about sports, and learning new things.

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What makes Quenton most unique is that he is extremely fun to be around and that’s not something everyone can honestly say. He came from a difficult background and now he’s making it to where he is today, puts him in a great position to where he is relatable to people from, almost, all walks of life. He tends to have a different perspective than most people on a number of topics, which makes conversations with him very informative and just great overall. Everyone walks away with some additional knowledge. That’s unique because most people can’t tell you the last thing they learned while in a random conversation.

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Do you have any interesting fun facts about yourself?

I’m the funniest person I’ve ever met.

How would you describe your personality in three words?

Dope Ass Individual

Which do you prefer to listen to your heart or your brain? Why?

Brain – I’m a logical person

Who is your celebrity crush?

Draya

Who do you think should make the first move males or females? Why?

Ladies first, as any true gentleman would say.

What’s the longest relationship you’ve been in? What did you learn?

3 years – Working relationships are all about sacrifice and timing.

What motivational words would you tell someone on the come-up?

If you don’t plan on giving 100% just stop while you’re ahead. Half-ass effort breeds half-ass results. You’ll be beaten by someone who’s fully committed every time.

What’s the most awkward date that you’ve ever been on?

I went out with a girl who was extremely attractive, based on appearance, but she couldn’t hold a convo about anything relevant. I hate wasting words about dumb stuff, so I cut the date short.

Where do you see yourself in the next five years?

In the next five years, I’ll either be in my final year of an MBA program (Harvard or NYU, fingers crossed) or I will have just obtained my MBA. My nonprofit will have tripled in size and quadrupled in impact. I’ll be working on becoming a life coach, and hopefully, my first child will be here making me the happiest man in the world.

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What do you usually do to let a girl know that you are interested in her?

Like pictures from months ago on IG.

What is your favorite and least favorite thing about yourself?

My favorite thing about myself is that I’m fully aware of my strengths and areas that could use improvement. My least favorite thing about myself is that I don’t take the time to really appreciate small things, achievements, etc. I’m always looking for what’s next as soon as I complete the last thing. I don’t celebrate myself enough.

Who has been the most influential person in your life?

My grandfather.

What’s your personal theme song?

Turn My Swag On – Soulja Boy aka Big Draco

How are you changing the world?

I’m directly and indirectly challenging every person I interact with to step their game up and become the best them they can be.

Why do men often look over the average girl?

Because if you’re ‘average’ then that means there are millions more like you, and I already know everything I need to know about you without you having to tell me. There needs to be something unique that attracts me to you over the tons of other ‘average’ people walking around. I don’t think anyone should refer to themselves as ‘average’ or ‘typical’ or anything of that sort. Makes you sound dull. If I ask you to tell me about yourself, you should be able to go on forever because you know yourself better than anyone else and should love talking about how great you are. I know I’m not average, so why would I settle for that?

Why do guys tend to hide your feelings and not fully express them?

This has traditionally been viewed as being feminine. Most men, including myself, still live with this mindset in certain situations.

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How do you seize and take advantage of every single day?

I set daily goals – what do I want to get accomplished today, what do I need to ensure that it happens. I set long term goals with incremental steps in between and work on achieving them daily. I ensure that I leave every day with a new piece of knowledge on at least one topic.

What do you feel men aren’t recognized enough for?

People, in general, aren’t recognized enough for their individual contributions to making the world a better place. I wouldn’t categorize it based on gender. I actually wouldn’t categorize it at all. I think this is better when looked at on an individual basis.

What’s one thing you want the world to know about you and who you are?

I don’t have any talents that others can’t acquire. I simply take advantage of every learning opportunity and train myself mentally to be able to tackle any obstacles in my way. If everyone did the same, the world would be a better place.

Do you have a brand? Share what it’s purpose, mission, and goals here –

RichBefore25 has been my personal brand for the last few years and has recently developed into a business concept, which is in the beginning phases of building its own brand. RichBefore25 is a nonprofit agency focused on spreading financial literacy to members of traditionally underrepresented groups throughout the United States, motivating individuals to pursue their passions, and providing mentorship to those in need. Acting as a connector, linking forward-thinking firms, organizations, and individuals to members of the target demographic, RichBefore25 seeks to leave a lasting impact on communities across the country.

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Want to connect with Quenton – Here are his social media:

To check out all of Quenton’s pictures follow his Instagram

Also, Check Out Rich Before 25’s Website

 

Man Crush of the Month: Jabril

This month’s man crush is none other than Jabril!!! Just a little back story, Jabril is my Hampton U Big Bro and was VERY influential in me coming to Hampton. He convinced not only me that I needed to be at that great university, but also convinced my mother (who is not easily won over…). Jabril is a 26-year-old from Los Angeles, California, he’s single. He is a sociable, kind-hearted gentleman who loves sports, movies, reading, video games, and a big cup of Chick-fil-a lemonade.  He is the son of two incredible parents who have molded him, transformed him, and given him the strength to endure the most impossible situations. He is also a friend, a mentor, a mentee, and a cultivator of great experiences. He currently works with an outpatient mental health agency as a Therapeutic Behavioral Services Coach. He works with young children in helping them develop tools to better increase the youth’s social and community competencies by building and/or reinforcing daily living skills that will assist the youth in living successfully at home and in the community. In addition to that, he is a full-time graduate student at The University of Southern California obtaining his Master’s Degree in Social Work. He believes that everyone deserves an experience that exceeds their expectation, he believes in going the extra mile, and he believes in fostering a team atmosphere.

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How would you describe your personality in three words?

sociable, driven, caring

Which do you prefer to listen to your heart or your brain? Why?

I tend to listen to my heart. I trust my brain, but when I follow my gut instinct I typically end up making a choice that I am confident in. 

Who is your celebrity crush?

Jhene Aiko

Who do you think should make the first move males or females? Why?

Typically I do believe the man should be the one to take initiative and make the first move. But I also believe that there’s nothing wrong with a woman shooting her shot! The few times that I’ve had a woman approach me and make the first move, I found the confidence extremely attractive and it was a turn on. 
What’s the longest relationship you’ve been in? What did you learn?

The longest relationship I have been in is 3 years. I learned that relationships are full of compromises and for a relationship to be successful neither side can be selfish or unwilling to change.

What motivational words would you tell someone on the come-up?

Never doubt yourself and keep striving for greatness. There are going to be really tough times that make you think you are failing, but making it through those times are what makes you stronger and make the rewards at the end that much greater. 

What’s the most awkward date that you’ve ever been on?

I went on a date in high school and the girl offered to drive at the end of the date she ended up running a red light and getting into a car accident. She also did not have her license so she ended up being taken into police custody. I had to call my father to pick me up and bring me to my car. 

Where do you see yourself in the next five years?

Working my long term career and beginning to settle down and start a family. 

What do you usually do to let a girl know that you are interested in her?

The way I inform a woman that I am interested in her is by the way that I interact with her on the daily basis. I will say more cute things in conversation and make more attempts to hang out.

What is your favorite and least favorite thing about yourself?

My favorite thing about me is my ability to talk and hold a conversation with anyone. I have met a lot of cool and like minded people by just randomly sparking a conversation with a random person. My least favorite thing is that I am incredibly hard on myself and am critical of things that I do. Others may see something I do as great, but I will critique it and think of ways that I could have done it better. 

Who has been the most influential person in your life?

The most influential person in my life is my older brother. He has been through so many different hard times and has always pushed through. I know I can talk to him about anything that I go through and he will give me advice. He has taught me to continue to strive for greatness no matter what adversities I may face. 

What’s your personal theme song?

Soul Food – Logic

What are your lifetime ambitions? 

When I am old and look back on my life, I want to be proud of the things I have done and not have any regrets. 

What are your career goals?

I want to be an Elementary School Social Worker

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How are you changing the world?

I am changing the world by working with at-risk youth and helping them to obtain greatness and see that they are important. Too many people in the world ignore the struggles that inner city youth face. This ignorance is what causes a lot of these children to go seek out approval from others, usually gangs. I want to be able to give back to the community that helped with my upbringing. I hope that one day I will be able to serve the underprivileged youth and explain the importance of believing in themselves and striving for greatness. I hope to share my story, heal the hurt, share the success of the well, and ignite the passion in the weak. I want to be able to give back to the community that helped with my upbringing. 

What’s one thing you want the world to know about you and who you are?

I’m proud of where I come from. Many people see it as a negative being from the “ghetto,” but it made me who I am today. Living in the ghetto was indeed scary –but it also provided for me. It instilled values, thoughtfulness, and the willingness to succeed. It was in my neighborhood that I learned to value all aspects of myself, my past, my present, and my potential.

Why do men often overlook the average girl?

I don’t know what is considered an “average girl,” but what would make me over look a woman is if they are unsure of themselves. As bad as this may sound, I want to be completely honest. Even though I constantly compliment and praise any woman I am dating, it is a turn off for someone to have really low self-esteem.

Why do guys tend to hide your feelings and not fully express them?

Men, especially black men have always been raised to be “tough” and not show feelings. Oppression of feelings is a defense mechanism to not look weak and vulnerable. 

What do guys do to make them feel better after a long day? What are your forms of self-care?

After a long day, I like to unwind by chilling and watching TV and having a cold brew. My forms of self-care are to go to the beach and just listen to the waves, or go and see a movie. Also as a people person, I like to be around people so depending on the type of day I had I sometimes will hit up a friend and hang out. 

What are you most afraid of living in today’s society?

I am most afraid of becoming a hashtag. #BlackLivesMatter

How do you seize and take advantage of every single day?

Every day I go out and do my best. I don’t want to wake up one day and regret not living my life to the fullest. 

What do you feel men aren’t recognized enough for?

I feel as though men are not recognized for the hard work they put into keeping a household running. Many times all you ever hear about is how a mother/wife does so much for a family (which is true), but in my experience, I have seen numerous good husbands/fathers that do not get any recognition for any of the work they put in. 

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Want to connect with Jabril – Here’s his social media:

To check out all of Jabril’s pictures follow his instagram

Jabril’s Adventures Via Snapchat and Via Twitter

Or Add him on Facebook – Jabril Rollins

Man Crush of the Month: Chris

Chris Nazien is a 22-year-old from Hampton, Virginia. He’s currently single and studying marketing at Virginia Commonwealth University. He will graduate this May! He wants to pursue a career in business. His passions are music, fashion, and sports! A fun fact about Chris is that he’s been to 25 of the 50. Chris was my very first friend at Church once I moved to Virginia and is so kind-hearted and sweet.

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How would you describe your personality in three words?

Cool, Calm and Collected.

Which do you prefer to listen to your heart or your brain? Why?

I prefer to listen to my brain because you shouldn’t make decisions based on emotions.

Who is your celebrity crush?

Chantel Jefferies

Who do you think should make the first move males or females? Why?

Males, no particular reason.

How do you get a girl to know that you’re interested in her?

It depends on her personality. Either being assertive or gradually showing interest.

What’s the longest relationship you’ve been in? What did you learn?

9 months; I learned that successful relationships require a lot of communication

What motivational words would you tell someone on the come-up?

Work while they sleep, Learn while they party, Save while they spend, Live like they dream.

Where do you see yourself in the next five years?

Excelling in my career field and building an empire.

What do you usually do to let a girl know that you are interested in her?

I would just get her contact information and set up a date to get to know each other. 

What is your favorite and least favorite thing about yourself?

My favorite thing would be my sense of humor and my least favorite thing would be my tendency to over think.

Who has been the most influential person in your life?

My mother (she’s pretty amazing).

What’s your personal theme song?

Dom Kennedy – When I Come Around

What are your lifetime ambitions? 

Start a family, travel the world, become financially independent

What are your career goals?

Work for a company that allows me to travel, grow and perfect myself as a person.

How are you changing the world?

By mentoring the youth, telling them the mistakes I’ve made and showing them that they can succeed in life.

What’s one thing you want the world to know about you and who you are?

My name is Chris Nazien and I love food! (All kinds)

Do you have a brand?

I would consider myself a brand. My purpose is to make my community better. Also, to excel in and outside of my career and become a successful man. 

Why do guys tend to hide your feelings and not fully express them?

I would say that most men hide their feelings because it is a so-called sign of weakness.  

what do guys do to make them feel better after a long day? What are your forms of self-care?

Personally, I listen to music or go out this a group of friends.

What are you most afraid of living in today’s society?

I’m not afraid of much mainly because I know that God is on my side. 

How do you seize and take advantage of every single day?

I seize every day by at least taking one step forward. It depends on what I have listed on my “to-do-list”. 

What do you feel men aren’t recognized enough for?

I feel that the “right” black men specifically aren’t recognized enough. There are black men that are in the spotlight but they do not offer much or just living recklessly. 

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Want to connect with Chris – Here’s his social media:

To check out all of Chris’ Pictures follow him on Instagram

Or Find Him on Facebook – Chris Nazien

 

 

Man Crush of the Month: Greg

Gregory Budd, also known as Greg is a 22-year-old, Hampton University Alumni from Woodbridge, Virginia. He’s currently taken (sorry ladies, I know he’s adorable!) and he has a BOMB job at the International Spy Museum. He has a deep love for history and wants to eventually pursue a job working for the Smithsonian Institution as an archivist. He also loves to and has a great talent for dance. He wants to in the future be able to teach and create a creative lane (or program) for his God-given gifts. Something unique about Greg is that when he was 10-years-old, he performed for Jay-Z in an NBA store!

fullsizerender-3How would you describe your personality in three words?

Dedicated, Funny, and Humble

Which do you prefer to listen to your heart or your brain? Why?

Heart because I feel like me heart sees the real in a situation while my brain sees the logical option.

Who is your celebrity crush?

SZA 

Who do you think should make the first move males or females? Why?

Males because it is all in taking the initiative. If you know you have the confidence to start the conversation why not not make the first move? 

How do you get a girl to know that you’re interested in her?

Be myself and make her laugh. 

What’s the longest relationship you’ve been in? What did you learn?

3 years currently the relationship I am in now. I have learned to quit the selfish attitude and work together and treat your queen like a queen 

What motivational words would you tell someone on the come-up?

Always work and have the ambition to put in that work. Like the Bible says Faith without works is dead. 

What’s the most awkward date that you’ve ever been on?

Back in high school, I met a girl on Facebook who just so happened to go a rival high school in my city. We met each other at a track meet I was running at and as soon as she opened her mouth and her voice came out I was instantly ready to go. The whole track meet I kept trying to avoid her.

Where do you see yourself in the next five years?

Working in the National Park Service or the Smithsonian Museum as an archivist. 

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What is your favorite and least favorite thing about yourself?

My least favorite thing would be my skin, I got diagnosed with skin lupus during my sophomore year. And it creates small blotches on my skin that are very noticeable and becomes a pain at times. Especially when people ask and I have to explain it over and over. And my favorite thing about me is my smile. Like J Cole said we ain’t picture perfect but we worth the picture still.

Who has been the most influential person in your life?

My father because he is my greatest motivator and wise mind when I need help. He always seems to know how I’m feeling when I don’t. He is my best friend even thought I am his son you wouldn’t tell the difference 

What’s your personal theme song?

Immortal- Kid Cudi 

What are your lifetime ambitions? 

Be married and have my dream job which would to be an archivist 

What are your career goals?

Become an archivist for the Smithsonian Institution 

How are you changing the world?

Teaching others in any way possible through dance, history, or life lessons. 

What’s one thing you want the world to know about you and who you are?

I am an aspiring mind that just wants a chance to show how great I can be. 

Why do guys tend to hide your feelings and not fully express them?

It has always been the status quo for a guy to be strong and fearless of what life throws at them. Personally, my dad is a solid rock if he did show any emotions he would show it in private. You could never know what he was thinking.

What do guys do to make them feel better after a long day? What are your forms of self-care?

Relax change from my work clothes, watch Netflix and just relax 

What are you most afraid of living in today’s society?

Paying off my student loans 

How do you seize and take advantage of every single day?

Wake up and smile. Once I smile it makes my day better and keeps me from letting anything negative mess it up I know I god has given me the opportunity to start a new day and make the most of it 

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Want to connect with Greg – Here’s his social media:

To check out all of Greg’ sPictures follow him on Instagram

Or Find Him on Facebook – Gregory Budd

Man Crush of the Month Series

Hey, Ladies! Ladies & Company blog is becoming a place to encourage women (and men) to like be their best self, whatever that means to them.

I wanted to start this segment, Man Crush of the Month, as a way to deal with a lot of the negativity surround men today. I feel like every day on social media, there is someone out there bashing men. For me, it causes a lot of confusion because I see so many young men out there doing their thing. As a way to combat this, I wanted to showcase all the great things the men in my life are doing.

The guys I am featuring are all the cream of the crop – doing great things in life, for their community, furthering their education, educating others, and just doing such great things. I can’t even begin to tell them all how proud I am of all of the things they are accomplishing!With that being said, I want to showcase them and all of their greatness on my blog and with all of my beautiful readers

With that being said, I want to showcase them and all of their greatness on my blog and with all of my beautiful readers – So on the first Monday, of every month there will be a young man featured and you (the reader) will be able to read and get to know them a little bit!

The first month’s issue will be next Monday – be sure to check back on there!