Dear Age Aint Nothing But A Number

Hello Ladies and Company, So recently I started dating this guy. He’s super amazing, but the only problem is he’s 26, and I’m 19. Do you think that my age will become an issue with him? Or friends and family? – Age Aint Nothing But A Number?

Hey, Age Aint Nothing But A Number! Well, I will tell you like my dad told me, “You can’t have friends or date 3 years older than you, or two years younger than you.” He then went on to explain the reason. He explained how he used to hang out with people five years older than him and he missed out on a lot of experiences that kids his age were supposed to have.

Right now it is probably fun and exciting to date an older guy, however because you are 19 and he 26 you both are in different places in your lives. He is most likely working on his career and you are trying to have fun while in college. You are probably going to get tired of him not having time for you and he being upset that you “play too much.” I’m not telling you to break up with him, but I want you to be aware of the things that may happen later down the road.

Peace, Love & Harmony,

Averi Simone

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Dear Dying To Be Accepted,

Hey Ladies & Co, My fiancé’s mom absolutely hates me!!! How do I handle being with someone who’s mother hates me? Any advice? I don’t think I’ve done anything wrong, and with my fiance being a undercover momma’s boy – Their relationship is very strong, and I would never try and come between that however. I want to be accepted too. How can I try and improve the relationship with her? – Dying to be accepted.

Dear Dying To Be Accepted, First, congrats on your engagement!! Now on to the advice! It is important to remember that you are not marrying his momma, you are marrying that young man. Sometimes mothers don’t think anyone is good enough for their sons but as long as you know that you are making her son happy and treating him how he should be treated (and visa versa) – I wouldn’t worry about it too much. The best way to handle it in my opinion is to “kill her with kindness.” Even when she is being outright mean to you, ignore that behavior and be nice. It’ll probably annoy her at first, but then she should come around eventually. To improve the relationship, maybe invite her over for dinner and play cards, or go see a movie or even have a girls night just you and her! Just remember relationships are a two-way street, and you can’t force someone on the street if they aren’t trying to be on it. But like I said before, you are marrying that gentleman, not his mother. Continue to do you, and be happy. The rest will fall in place as it should.

Keep It Classy,

T.Renae

21 things I’ve learned since turning 21.

Happy June 2ND, also known as MY HALF BIRTHDAY!! It is official – today at 1:50ish am, I have been 21 years old for entire 6 months! Crazy right? Normally I don’t celebrate this day, however I thought with June being “Love Yourself” Month here at the site, I would talk about some of the things I’ve learned in the last six months as a form of self-reflection.

  1. Not everyone has the same moral code and values as you were raised with.
  2. Do not expect anything from anyone, so you’re not disappointed.
  3. It’s OK to do things alone.
  4. Breaking out of your comfort zone, is addictive.
  5. “And if not, God is still good.”
  6. You won’t get every opportunity; give others a chance to be great.
  7. I am not ready for children yet: babysitting is enough. And that is okay.
  8. It’s okay to be an introvert and extrovert!
  9. I will not and cannot make everyone happy, while maintaining my own happiness.
  10. Life is hard, but I am BARELY more than equipped to handle it.
  11. I deserve more than I give myself credit for.
  12. I am not ready for a real adult 9-5-work life. I have to work my own hours, or at least not work until after 10 AM.
  13. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and I am the beholder.
  14. People are always going to have something to say about your goals and life plans – remember they are your plans not anyone else.
  15. Just because everyone is doing “more real life” things such as having kids, getting engaged, and married, and having jobs, does not mean that you are not where you are supposed to be in life.
  16. Don’t be discouraged by critics of your goals – there are so many critics without credentials.
  17. Continue to be great, and let your light shine on the world.
  18. WORK HARD – at every single thing you do. Give no less than 100% to everything you do.
  19. Always behave kinder than you feel, you never know what someone else is going through.
  20. Love fearlessly.
  21. God loves you, no matter how short you fall, or how badly you mess up. He still loves and cares about you.

Keep It Classy, 

-T.Renae

The best kind of Intimacy

You know what I love. I love the level of intimacy that come from getting to know a person. Like not the at first awkward formal getting to know someone. But like when you get to know them as a person, like they’re deepest darkest fears, and what buttons they have, and what they are truly passionate about. When you really truly know someone inside and out, it’s so beautiful and awe-inspiring to know a person. Even if you don’t like every thing about that person, but the fact that person trusted you enough to let you into the inner most parts of them. It’s such a beautiful thing.

I can’t wait to find someone to get to know on that level. In the same breath,  I would love for someone to have the desire to get to know me on that level. But it’s so hard to these days. Sure I’m apart of generation technology but man, I feel like I was born into the wrong one sometimes. Because we don’t have that level of intimacy with one another because our lives are on social media and networks and Internet. I’m not saying anything is wrong with it. But I crave and yearn for that type of intimacy. Call me old fashion, if you will.

Keep it classy,

T.Renae