Man Crush of the Month: Tavon

Happy November!!! This is one of my favorite months – not just because of Thanksgiving but because Tavon is our Man Crush of the Month! He is such a sweet guy, I really adore him so much. He is a single, 23-year-old from Warner Robins, Georgia. He absolutely loves being a dad! He also loves to cook and do spoken word. He also is a huge sneaker head and is addicted to shoe-shopping. Something that is interesting about Tavon is that he is a Chef, owns multiple businesses and is a movie junkie!

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How would you describe your personality in three words?

Giving, Goofy, Spontaneous

Which do you prefer to listen to your heart or your brain? Why?

My heart. Your brain doesn’t have that “instinct” to judge personal situations.

Who is your celebrity crush?

Fantasia – Country, Thick and Chocolate.

Who do you think should make the first move – males or females? Why?

I’m from the Deep South – where chivalry is extremely serious at least to me. So, males should make the first move in my opinion.

What’s the longest relationship you’ve been in? What did you learn?

6 years, sometimes it’s just best to walk away and not force things. Forcing something leads to resentment.

What motivational words would you tell someone on the come-up?

It’s not gonna be easy, but keep God first and push through.

What’s the most awkward date that you’ve been on?

I didn’t know she had a boyfriend, but we ran into him on our date. And she didn’t know her boyfriend had a boyfriend who happened to also be on a date. It was weird.

Where do you se yourself in the next five years?

Married and opening up my 3rd or 4th restaurant and opening up my 2nd or 3rd detailing garage.

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What do you usually do to let a girl know that you are interested in her?

I speak directly to her, Steph Curry at all times.

What is your favorite and least favorite things about yourself?

I love how outgoing I am and I hate how naiver I am (I think everyone is my friend).

Who has been the most influential person in your life?

My dad, he taught me how to be a man before he was killed. Then my son, he made me a better man.

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What’s your personal theme song?

Don’t laugh, but it’s Rich Gang – Lifestyle.

What are you lifetime ambitions?

Just to be successful and be the best father I can be.

What are your career goals?

Build something that my family can keep running when I’m gone.

Why do men often overlook the average girl?

The generation we live in glorifies the wrong girl. We don’t know what a real woman is because we overlook them.

Why do guys tend to hide your feelings and not fully express them?

Pride. Simply put, it’ll make you lose out on a lot.

What are your forms of self-care?

I personally lift weights and play with my son.

What are you most afraid of living in today’s society?

Falling by the way-side. Not living up to my expectations or potential.

How do you seize and take advantage of every single day?

Take it one minute at a time. Schedules help you out a lot too.

What do you feel men aren’t recognized enough for?

Being fathers, fathers are automatically looked at as a “no-no.”

What is the most discouraging part about being a man? How do you deal with it?

We’re looked at as something we’re not a times. It’s okay for a guy to feel hurt at times.

What’s one thing you want the world to know about you and who you are?

I’m an educated black man and a full time father. I’ve made mistakes but I am not a bad person.

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Want to connect with Tavon – Here’s his social media:

To check out all of Tavon’s pictures follow his instagram

Tavon’s Adventures Via Snapchat and Via Twitter

Or Add him on Facebook – Tavon James

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Man Crush of Month: Charles

This month’s man crush is Charles and it is also his birthday month – so Happy Birthday Charles!!! I met Charles about 3 years ago, during an internship at Stanford University. He’s is one of the sweetest and kind-hearted young man I know. He is a single, 23 years old, from Amelia, Virginia. He works for the Cumberland County School District as a substitute teacher for three different schools. It is there he enjoys outing a smile on the faces of the next generation of workers and scholars. He is also the head coach for both the Varsity Wrestling Team and Varsity Boys’ Soccer Team. However, this is not Charles’ end goal – he plans on becoming a high school guidance counselor at a rural community high school. During his free time, Charles likes to play video games to unwind and watch professional wrestling shows. He is about to begin a training program that might allow him to make it into the larger professional company of WWE. A fun fact about Charles is that in his younger days, he was called an Oreo until he began attending college and truly discovered the meaning of Black Culture.

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How would you describe your personality in three words?

I’m a Paradox

 

Which do you prefer to listen to your heart or your brain? Why?

My heart. I’m a hopeless romantic so sometimes, the heart knows best what the brain does not.

 

Who is your celebrity crush?

Candice Patton

 

Who do you think should make the first move males or females? Why?

I don’t feel like the first move should be classified under either sex. Sometimes a woman will see what a man cannot when they first see a man and it’s the same with men – sometimes we see something before a woman will. So really either sex can make the first move and it’s deemed alright.

 

What’s the longest relationship you’ve been in? What did you learn?

Three years. That people grow and sometimes that means they grow out of the person you fell in love with.

 

What motivational words would you tell someone on the come-up?

Always believe in yourself because when you start to make it, the people who pushed you will become the people that will try to pull you back down.

 

What’s the most awkward date that you’ve ever been on?

Haven’t been on a date so I don’t even know.

 

Where do you see yourself in the next five years?

In five years, I’m either wrestling professional or working in someone’s high school making a difference in a child’s life. Hopefully, I’m engaged or married and waiting for the right time to have our first child.

 

What do you usually do to let a girl know that you are interested in her?

I tell them, “Hey I am interested in you and I was wondering can we get to know each other better?”

 

What is your favorite and least favorite thing about yourself?

My favorite thing is my commitment to whatever goal I set before myself to get it done. My least favorite thing is my height, I just want two more inches so I can date and not have to worry about a young lady being taller than me in her heels.

 

Who has been the most influential person in your life?

My mother.

What’s your personal theme song?

Rose Golden by Kid Cudi feature Willow Smith

 

What are your lifetime ambitions?

To have a family and be one of the greatest fathers and husbands to ever be imagined.

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What are your career goals?

To be a high school guidance counselor in a rural high school

 

How are you changing the world?

By giving even the worst labeled students a chance at a better life and believing in them.

 

What’s one thing you want the world to know about you and who you are?

I’m just a blunt honest Black man, who is a hopeless romantic that just wants to love and cherish the people in my life.

 

Why do men often overlook the average girl?

Because men want more. A man will always want to find the best as a trophy to show everyone and say “hey this is mine – look but never touch it.”

 

What are you most afraid of living in today’s society?

Jesus coming back before I can start a family.

 

How do you seize and take advantage of every single day?

By waking up and just trying

 

What do you feel men aren’t recognized enough for?

For caring for someone openly.

 

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Want to connect with Charles – Here’s his social media:

To check out all of Charles’ pictures follow his instagram

Charles’ Adventures Via Snapchat and Via Twitter

Or Add him on Facebook – Charles Franklin Taylor Jr

Monday Morning Thoughts: Don’t Get Stuck

Lately, if I can be honest, I have been experiencing setback after setback after setback. Literally, everything has been a “no,” thus a setback. Every job application, school application – I feel like everything I am touching is turning into a no. If you aren’t sure what I am talking about check out this post. But as I am  living life, I am realizing that setbacks are not permanent. No matter how badly it hurts, or stings, or how much I thought I deserved it – I don’t have to be stuck in this setback to setback life. When one thing doesn’t work, move on. Now I’m not saying that this is easy, it’s going to be hard as hell to pull yourself up by your bootstraps, dust yourself off, and continue to work hard to try. It’s better to do something than to do nothing.

Stay Encouraged. & Happy Independence Day.

– T. Renae

Monday Morning Thoughts: Unlearn The Bad Stuff.

Unlearn the feeling that you have to always be in competition with whoever/whatever to feel validated or worthy. You are more than capable of everything that you want to do. You don’t have to be in competition to be worthy. You have to stop focusing on this imaginary competition, or else you will drive yourself crazy. You can’t focus on what someone else is doing, and still, be great at what you are doing. You also should unlearn the thought that someone’s poor capability to love you is in no way a reflection of yourself. You are a beautiful person and deserving of the love that you so freely give away. First, give some love to yourself, and then wait for someone who knows how to love you properly.

Stay Encouraged.

– T.Renae

Monday Thoughts: Your Peace

 

I saw on IG yesterday, or maybe a few weeks ago this quote: “Any thing that costs you your peace is too expensive.” To me anything includes your family, friends, significant others, jobs, living environment, or whatever your thing is if it is causing you to stay up at night worrying about it, or frustrated to the point where you are almost always in a bad mood – you need to get rid of it. So many health problems occur due to stress including heart problems, high blood pressure and ulcers. If you were waiting on a sign to get rid of your “thing,” this is it.
Stay Encouraged & Be Blessed,
– T. Renae

Monday Thoughts: Save Yourself

 

It’s okay to to be the only person you save. It’s not selfish. More than likely you’ve already come across, or will come across in the future a situation where you have to choose yourself over someone else. Whether it be emotional support or a listening ear or whatever it is that that person needs – sometimes you aren’t the one who is supposed to provide it. Especially if you are struggling with your sanity, emotions, getting your life together, etc. They always tell you on an airplane to put your mask on first. You’re no help to anyone if you can’t breath. Focus on getting your mask on and breathing, then help others.
Be Blessed,
-T.Renae

Motivational Monday: Conquering the Fear of the Unknown

As my friends and I’s undergrad years come to a close, we all come to the point of self-doubt, fear and confusion. We all are trying to figure out what’s next, did we take advantage of all the things accessible to us or are we even prepared for those next steps in life? Undergrad at an HBCU (historically black college/university) has spoiled us with amazing teachers and professors, who were there every step of the way but as we step into the real world we all have a little doubt.

I’ll speak for myself and say I am scared and overwhelmed because for some reason I’m really starting to doubt my ability to succeed. We all have a fear of failure but we can’t let that fear scare us from succeeding in life. Nothing in life will come easy, everyday things become more challenging to abstain but you have to fight through it. You can have a little pity party because I have those but you can’t let that party take over your life, or overwhelm you. We have to take the steps in order to succeed, talking to some of your professors, researching up on the different steps, planning ahead, having multiple plans, and being ready to step out on faith. Our first and best step is talking to our professors because they have gone through similar paths and situations. Yes that can be scary but it’s worth a shot down your road of success.

This semester is the time to get out of your comfort zone because your time is winding down. Let’s get out of a comfort zone, get out of our pity party and get ready to conquer the rest of our college years. We can do this!

-A. Rochell