12 Affirmations For the New Year

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Hello Beauties!!

Welcome to 2018! I hope that 2017 brought you lots of love, joy and life lessons. I found out recently that the number 7 is the number of completion, of wholeness, while the number 8 is the number of new beginnings and new season! I hope that 2018 is going to be a TRUE year of new beginnings for you!

This year, instead of reflecting on the last year, I wanted to do something different. Going along with the new beginnings, I wanted to go into the year with each month with a sentence/phrase of affirmation.

  • January – “I am enough.”
  • February -“I love myself. I am lovable and deserve to be loved.”
  • March – “Focus on your responsibilities and make those great.”
  • April – “I am committed to my goals and my success is assured.”
  • May – “Today, I’m moving in the direction that is best for me.”
  • June – “I am the creator of my reality, whatever I focus on I can create.”
  • July – “People only do what you allow them to do, whatever you allow them to do, they will do it. “
  • August – “I am perfect, whole and complete, exactly as I am. I am great because I am ME.”
  • September – “I acknowledge my own self worth; my confidence is soaring.”
  • October – “They say “time changes everything,” But YOU have to change things yourself!”
  • November – “I am grateful for the good things that happened in the past year, and for the lessons from the bad things!”
  • December – “I am worthy of being happy most of the time.”

 

Take each month’s affirmation – and meditate on it for the entire month. I meditate on it by saying it multiple times a day, you can meditate on it by placing it on a sticky note on mirror or whatever works best for you. I wish you all the best 2018 and the 2018 that you all need for your future. You deserve it. I love you all a bunch.

– Tanesha Renae

Things I Learned in 2016 That I Am Bringing Into My 2017

It has been about 7 or 8 days into 2017 (at least when I am writing this) and everyone around me has been either saying “new year, new me – I am overhauling my life to make more positive changes and resolutions” or the more self-righteous “I don’t need New Years to recreate myself – I do that every week.” I am somewhat in the middle. This new year, I am super excited about the upcoming possibilities and opportunities that are coming my way. However, I didn’t get there by happenstance – without 2016 there wouldn’t be this chance for 2017.

So here are some of the lessons that I learned in 2016, that I am definitely taking with me into 2017.

  1. It is absolutely OK to not be OK. You are under no circumstances required to be OK all the time. There are days when you are going to be unhappy, distraught, stressed out, worried, etc – and that’s okay. Life is not roses and daisies all the time and that is okay. Honestly, think about this, if life was everything you wanted it to be, you wouldn’t be satisfied nor have an appreciation for all the good that is going on. You gotta take the good with the bad. Balance.
  2. Positive in, Positive Out. You must speak life and positivity over your future and your life. My mother and my friend are always saying you must visual your success and have positive thoughts about your future. Otherwise, it won’t happen. You have to have confidence that the things you desire, the love you want, the job/career you want, all of those things and more will come to you.
  3. Planning is great, but God’s plan is perfect. I am a planner by nature, I like to know what’s going to happen, when it is going to happen, why it is happening – everything. But God does not work like that at all. Not because He is going to harm us, rather because he has plans to prosper us in the future (my paraphrase from Jeremiah 29:11). Furthermore, God’s plan is perfect, absolutely perfect (so perfect we cannot even comprehend). There is nothing in the perfect plan of God, that is not meant for your good. There was a quote by Lisa Bever – she stated, “If you think that you have blown God’s for your life, rest in this: You, my beautiful friend, are not that strong.”
  4. Time heals all wounds, even the ones that hurt the most. Both physical and mental wounds are the same in some sense. First, you get hurt and then you got to put a bandage over the wound to not infect it anymore but also to give your body time to do what it is designed to do heal. Even for mental and emotional wounds, you have to put a bandage on it and give it time to heal. Invest your time into healing yourself. You cannot rush healing my friend, you have to go through all the pain, suffering and once you experience all that you will be allowed to heal.
  5. You deserve to be treated well. People’s actions are not a reflection of you, but rather of you. You don’t have to be a savage, specially in the “world of being a savage.” It is okay to treat others better than they treat you. There are not enough kind-hearted people in the world. But with this, do not be mistaken – I am not saying put up with everyone’s crap. I’m saying treat people kindly, but be sure to take care of yourself.

With all that being said, I hope that 2017 brings you everything that you need to be the best version of yourself.

I love you bunches.

XOXO,

– Tanesha J.

SUNDAY SOAPBOX: Happy New Year!

Welcome to the first page of the 2017 book! You have 365 days to make this year the best one yet! Remember a minute of unhappiness is 60 seconds of happiness you are losing. I know, at least for me, 2016 was uncomfortable. But as my mentor once said, “Growth isn’t comfortable, and it shouldn’t be.” I hope that 2016 brought you the trials, tribulations, and lessons that you needed to make 2017 your year. I know everyone says “Oh, this year will be my year!” like every year, but I truly believe that it will be the year you need it to be. It will be exactly what you need it to be, trust me.

For me, this year I want to be better overall. I want to become healthier, happier, more involved with things that bring my life joy, closer to the Lord and not sweating the small things anymore.

What are some things you want to manifest in the new year – a new job, career change, happiness? Share below in the comments!

XOXO,

– Tanesha

Happy End of the Year!

Happy End of December (or do people say Merry December?)!

I’m super excited that it’s my favorite month of the year! I’ve always loved December because it’s right after thanksgiving (who doesn’t love pigging out on thanksgiving), my (my grandma’s and my dad’s and London-Poo’s) birthday, Christmas and New Years! Outside of all those things, I always feel like December is a great time to reflect on the entire year, consider what goals you’ve accomplished, what goals you plan on accomplishing next year as well as consider the highlights from the year.

I like to assess my years like a Pros and Cons List. I know life isn’t that simple but as a person who thrives on Pros and Cons, this helps me better understand the year. I started looking at my years like this about two years ago because I had said I was having a bad year. Someone challenged me on it and made me write it all out. Then when I actually wrote it out all the “bad” things compared to the “good” things – it turned out that I had a lot more good things happen to me, and that I was essentially milking all the “bad” things into lasting longer.

How was 2016 for you? What goals or things do you want to learn in 2017? How do you assess your year? Share below in the comments!

XOXO,

– Tanesha

 

Unconditionally Loving Yourself

On facebook one day, I saw this quote, “This day, I vow to myself, to treat myself as someone I love truly and deeply – in my thoughts, my actions, the choices I make, the experiences I have, each moment I am conscious, I make the decision to love myself. ” It really took me aback, because I feel like in today’s society everyone is pretending to be confident. Which could just be my perception, but I really want to live my life in a way that exudes unconditional self-love. I said unconditional because when I was younger I used to say things like, “I’ll really love myself when I lose 15 pounds,” or “When I get older I’ll love myself more.” When truthfully, I should love myself right now, because I exist and am deserving of the love I express to others.

So, I decided to share with you all my steps to self-love, and I hope that you can use some of these steps in your journey to self-love.

  • Remove Toxicity. Your space is sacred. Get rid of everyone and everything that threatens your peace. I don’t know about you, but this is extremely difficult for me because I sometimes feel like removing people from my life is an act of anger, but it’s often an act of self-preservation.
  • Find happiness in everyday things. Happiness is often all around us – someone laughing at your joke, the sunset and it’s beautiful colors, making it through the day without complaining – These are all things that could make you happy. Choose to look for the good in the world, and acknowledge the bad – but don’t let it consume you. I like to think that keeping myself happy is a form of love.
  • Relieve stress in positive ways. Stress is a natural part of life and there is no way to avoid it. However, how you deal with  and react to the stress is entirely up to you. Learn to deal with stress in a  positive manner. Such as if you get too overwhelmed with stressed, take 5 minutes to just think about nothing, or work through your anxiety by doing an intense workout routine. Keeping your mind in a healthy state is a part of upkeeping your overall wellbeing healthy.
  • Indulge in Good Karma. Treat others good, not for them to reciprocate, but to make yourself feel good about yourself. Doing something good for someone 9 times out of 10 will make you feel good. Just don’t do too much for another person, where it is creating a burden in your life. Love yourself enough to spread the love to others.

How do you work on loving yourself unconditionally – Share below in the comments!

Keep It Classy,

– T. Renae

New Semester Preparation CheckList

So today is my last, first day of classes in my undergraduate time at Hampton University. So instead of writing a long post about what I do every semester to prepare for my upcoming semester – I decided to make a quick checklist for you to follow to start your semester!

New semester checklist!

  • GET A PLANNER (Like my cute one from Erin Condren)
  • Put all known dates (like from your school’s academic calendar)  on your calendar.
  • Price text books.
  • Clean out old folders and binders of stuff you won’t need.
  • Input class schedule into phone (and other known events), as well as work out times, meal times, times for homework, etc.
  • Get new cute school supplies.
  • Once you get syllabi, mark down any major assignments into your planner.
  • Create a new assignment sheet based off of your course.

I hope this is a quick tip sheet to help you start off the new semester off on the right foot! For more detail on how I prepare for the semester check out this and this and this !

Keep It Classy,

– T. Renae

Travel Tips!!

So since May 2014, I’ve been on 24 flights, (and will probably be taking four flights more before the summer ends) and about two or three. Traveling sometimes is such a hassle, so here are some tips to make your time traveling much easier!

Pack light and efficiently. Normally when I am traveling, I only travel with a “carry-on” suitcase and a rather large purse. When I bring my laptop, I put it as well as anything I will need immediately (such as the TSA liquids Baggie, Book, Snacks, Etc) in the large purse. Normally TSA makes you take your laptops and liquids out anyways, so it makes it so much easier to just whip it out your purse, instead of digging in the suitcase.

  
In my main suitcase, I have a system. Heaviest items such as shoes go at the very bottom. Normally I put shoes in a plastic Walmart bag because I don’t want the bottom of my dirty shoes touching my beautiful clothes! Speaking of clothes – it has to be strategic! I would suggest light clothes that can be worn in multiple ways depending on where you’re going. If it’s summer time, and you are just going to a weekend trip, dresses are the way to go! I also try to stick to the same color palette so that you don’t have to bring as many accessories because they could go from outfit to outfit every day.

After you have planned out every outfit you need to take then pack the clothes, I roll the outfits together in a way. So I fold the item like half way, then just roll it up and pack it as tightly as I can in the latter half of the suitcase. Then on top of that, I pack underwear, bras, socks, and hair products, anything else I think I’ll need.  I have recently started just having a prepackaged toiletries “grab bag,” equipped with bobby pins, face wash, toothbrush and deodorant, and all the other things I use daily – just in travel size, already ready to go. Zip up the suitcase, and be ready to go! Then if I am carrying my laptop, or need any cords, with my suitcase already zipped and standing upwards, I place the cords and stuff in that mini section after everything has settled in the suitcase.

  
 Dress smart and light on the day of travel! This is so important. It’s okay to be cute, but comfortable, and functional is the way to go! My go-to outfit is a pair of black leggings, cute shirt, and flats, usually with a sweater, or scarf (because planes are cold!). The way you dress will make your TSA security check go either really good or really bad. For easy TSA security check, I suggest the following. Good easy to remove and put back on shoes, such as flip-flops, or flats. I would leave your belts (if you need one) and jewelry in your carry-on “purse.” That way you don’t have to worry about taking them off while in the security check line and save yourself time. Then after you’ve gone through the checkpoint, put all those things back on and be fly!

Arrive early to the airport. You never know if it’ll take you a long time for security. Or how much time boarding will take. It is better to be early for your flight than running to catch it! Early arrival to the airport will give you the opportunity to get snacks if you need it, go to the bathroom prior to getting on the plane, or find your gate in a complicated airport. As the beloved Hampton University saying goes: “To be early is to be on time, to be one time is to be late, and to be late is unacceptable.” I would also try to be as kind as possible to all the staff, TSA agents, and ticket people because they can make or break your entire day!

Bring headphones! I cannot stress it enough. Something about being isolated in your own little musical world. I would also create the playlist. I have a specific playlist if I am sleepy, or trying to stay awake and do work. It may just be me, but I hate with great passion the sound of the plane’s engine. So to prevent me listening to that awful and horrific noise, I bought some BOMB Bose headphones to block out that noise!

Take a bomb travel selfie! My IG is full of bomb travel selfies, I try to make them look very artistic, and sometimes it doesn’t work. However. I suggest taking a selfie with your luggage, to signify that you are in transit, and then a very touristy picture with an amazing background behind you! I have taken to taking pictures of the scenery around me because sometimes there is no one around to take your picture. Also selfies with the scenery is beautiful as well!

    

  

HAVE FUN! Enjoy your time traveling, and make the best of every single moment, because it never lasts as long as it should.

Keep It Classy,

-T. Renae

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FRESH START FRIDAYS: NO NEGATIVITY

Sometimes when life starts to get super overwhelming, and negative things start to weigh me down, I wish I could just snap my fingers, spin around three times, and say “Negativity Be Gone,” in my most spellbinding voice and all of those bad things and bad feelings would just disappear. However, that is not how life works, but wouldn’t that be nice. Your life is COMPLETELY in your control, whether you believe it or not. So if there is too much negativity around you GET RID OF IT. Negativity could be honestly anything: bad habits, bad people who complain a lot, your own complaining, too much social media or anything that does not give you good vibes. Biting your nails, drinking soda, whatever you feel is hindering you from being who you want to be GET RID OF IT! Getting rid of all of your negative or bad habits, is not going to happen over night, however if you work on it very diligently, you can do it! I know what you’re thinking, “Tanesha we can’t get rid of all things negative, because do not control how people treat us. What if people treat us negatively?” So what I would say to this is that people only treat them how you allow. This is by far the hardest thing I have EVER had to learn. You may not be directly saying, “hey come be mean to me,” but how you react and behave afterwards does. I have learned through trial and error, if you don’t react to those types of people. Also you could also remember if you just don’t let those things effect you any more, which takes time. “What Sally says of Susie, says more about Sally than Susie.” It takes 21 days to build a habit, so if you do good things for 21 days, you will be able to get rid of all negativity. So if you want to stop complaining, try it for 21 days! Start your new life, Today!

Keep it Classy,
-T.Renae

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3…2…1… Resolution! Part 2

The Creation of a Resolution

Here is a short simple recipe for your perfect resolution.

Start with what you know: you know yourself better than anyone. You know what needs to be worked on, what’s attainable and where you really want to start with your new year. Make resolutions that you know are doable.

Throw out all basicness from your mind: “I’m going to work out” (toss) “I’m going to eat healthy” (trash) “I’m going to be nicer” (discard) We all know that’s a load of bull. Make actual challenges for yourself. “I’m going to live a healthier lifestyle.” (Add) Ok that’s cool and not impossible to do so a great place to start.

Sprinkle in small triumphs: So instead of forcing yourself into a 24 hour gym membership right away, maybe you can take the stairs instead of the elevator. You can eat that apple instead of the brownie. Small triumphs will encourage you to move on to bigger and better because I swear, once you get that first taste of success it’ll make you hunger for more.

Stir in constant reminders: When you make your resolution, remind yourself about it constantly. Just think about it all the time. Have it written in multiple places around your room. Put a quote pertaining to your resolution as your phone lock screen. Do whatever it takes to make sure you could never forget your resolution even if you tried.

Decorate with encouragement: Make up a cute slogan for yourself: 2015 the year of conquering fears. Whatever it is be your own PR person and inspire yourself. Be visual, crafty, sparkly, merry and bright!

Now put it in the pan and bake at 350 degrees… no but seriously, hopefully this recipe will produce delicious results for your year.

 

– Aliah