Mid-Week Memo: 1/25

“The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude.”

– Oprah Winfrey


Transformational thinking!

The other day I was inspired to watch Oprah’s life class with T.D. Jakes and I tell you he is bomb! I never realized how inspirational he was until I watched this show. This show made me really do some transformational thinking within my own life because we all need a little help. There were key points he made that I’m going to share and add my little two cents if that’s ok! J

Be transformed by the renewal of your mind!

Your concept of normalcy is defined by what you see.

The whole out of body experiences are summarized by the things we read, things we’ve seen and have been taught.

To begin a transformation you must peel back the layers and go to the core in order to discover who you are and get a clear definition of who you.

You are best when you are at your core. Think about it!

You are the most POWERFUL when you are authentic. (Authentic means genuine or being yourself)

Pretending is exhausting and depressing. *pause moment* How many times have you said BE YOU! Trying to be someone you aren’t will only cause you more stress and unhappiness.

If you are waiting for your actions (the outside) to line up with your feeling (the inside) your life will always be on hold.

You can’t change the outside if you haven’t changed the inside.

Expose yourself for transformation and surround yourself with people you want to be like *pause moment* some people hang around people on their level and other hang out with people who you feel are beneath you to feel a sense of comfort.  For some hanging around people on higher levels can cause you to feel jealous, envious or less then. You have to be in a confident place and realize that will motivate you to do more!

Renew your mind and get rid of limiting beliefs! HIT THE RESET BUTTON IN YOUR LIFE!

You have seeds of greatness inside of you!

-A. Rochell

Dating Myths

While I was watching Oprah’s Lifeclass a lot of important stuff came up I thought we should share. The information came from the books He’s not that into you by Greg Behrendt and Its just a f***ing date by Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola, which are a must read for the ladies! Here are the myths I think we all should know when we’re dating and in general for the ladies!

Myth 1: A man will make my life complete.

You should be complete and he should be complete and together you two should make a vend diagram and have that shared area between the two of you.

Myth 2: I just can’t hold back.

Keep it simple! Just try to have fun! Important life changing things you should be upfront about but other than that don’t scare them away!

Myth 3: He shouldn’t care how I look.

First impressions mean everything! As much as we say he should love me at my worst, when you’re going out look your best!

Myth 4: Sex will seal the deal!

Sex can wait! Men like the chase! If you just want a fun time go head but if you want a serious relationship WAIT!

Myth 5: I only attract losers!

You attract who you are! When you’re a “watch-er”, you attract losers. if you’re a “do-er” they don’t exist for you! (Meaning losers)

Myth 6: Men can’t handle my success

Strong women only intimidate weak men!!! Never play your intelligence or success down for a man! Real men want successful women. If a man says he’s intimidated by your intelligence or success it’s a cope out! He’s just not that into you!


*Keep these in mind*

Know your worth!

Women have the power! A man will only do what you allow them to do! They like the chase!

Put yourself out there!

Stop texting! Stop hanging out! Start going out on dates! We’re not too young!

It’s all about the chase!!

You have to be you!

Have self-control!

You could be a big deal if you thought you were a big deal!

Honor yourself!

Teach people how to treat you!

Women go wrong when they date a man’s potential except his reality!

Dating Mantras (Place these somewhere you can see it daily!)
*Quick Review*
1. You don’t need a man to complete you

2. Hold back-he doesn’t need to know everything

3.First impressions are important

4. You attract what you are

5. Sex will never seal the deal

6. A man should not be intimidated by your success

– A. Rochell