SUNDAY (A day late) SOAPBOX: Don’t settle for less!

Let me tell you, I had a breakdown earlier this week. I’m not exactly sure what caused the breakdown but I started to feel like I am suddenly settling with my life. I began to think, maybe this is what my life is going to be – I’m going to live at home forever, not get into graduate school, not find the love of my life and a bunch of other things. I got caught into a negative rut, thinking maybe I don’t deserve all things I was longing for and wanted for so long. But then in the back of my mind, a thought occurred – if you truly feel like you deserve these things, why at the first sign of adversity or an obstacle comes up, you’re questioning your worthiness to receive it? (Print that out and hang it somewhere!)

I wonder why I do this to myself, I get so worked up about things that are largely out of my control at the present moment and then begin to feel like I am undeserving of the things that God has told me specifically are for me. It’s crazy but you cannot settle for mediocrities. There are ENOUGH mediocre people in the world, you don’t need to be another one nor do you deserve to be one.

This quote has literally helped me deal with this: “Don’t settle for average. Bring your best to the moment. Then, whether it fails or succeeds, at least you know you gave all you had. We need to live the best that’s in us.” – Angela Bassett. Now consider this? Right now, if you’re bringing your very best to this moment and every single moment in the future, you will get everything that you deserve. You’ll get the success you want, the love life you deserve, the body you want – the possibilities are literally endless.

Stay Encouraged Boo & Don’t Settle,

– Tanesha 🙂


SUNDAY SOAPBOX: Stand Up For Yourself

Over the last week, I stood up for myself – for the first time in a very long time – against somebody I considered a good friend. I’ve grown so accustomed to just letting people walk all over me and continually being the bigger person. But as much as I think that kindness will take you far, there are some people who will abuse your kindness. I don’t say that to be discouraging or negative, but rather just so you can be aware of it. I’m by no means saying that you should stop being the kind, big-hearted person that you are, but I am saying that you should consider yourself first. Is this person causing more harm than good in my life? If not, cut them off. Am I happy most of the time around this person? If not, dissolve the friendship. Especially if they don’t even care to see why you’ve stopped communicating. You deserve to surround yourself with people who are going to fill you up emotionally with encouragement and happiness, not people who constantly bring you down.

Despite all of the heartbreak I’ve experienced (romantic and otherwise), my feelings being trampled, people who I like or love treating me worse than a stranger, I’m still going to be kind, still going to love people hard, still going to treat everyone in the best possible manner, BUT there’s going to be a hard limit (So that I am not continually getting my feelings hurt). I shouldn’t continue to put up with unkind people. So I won’t. And neither should you, especially if you know you are being the kindest person ever to them. Standing up for myself was the hardest thing, yet the most liberating thing I’ve ever done. (Even after seeking reassurance from my mom that I wasn’t just overreacting about the situation.) the more I stand up for myself and my feelings, the stronger I will become.

What are some ways that you stand up for yourself? Share below in the comments!



– Tanesha

Monday Morning Thoughts: You Deserve A Break, too.

I am a firm believe that our minds and bodies will tell you everything you need to know about yourself. Whenever I am getting extremely stressed out, nothing makes sense. I struggle to do even the simplest of tasks. I even start to panic about things that are not that serious. Normally, these are the signs for me that I need to take a break from everything and recollect myself. There are signs that your body gives you too – maybe reacting to things negatively, becoming pessimistic, or even becoming sickly.

You are so strong, but you deserve (and need) a break sometimes. Take time this week to unplug yourself from the world. Focus on clearing your mind and taking a break. Go to a coffee shop and read your favorite book for a few hours with your phone off. Go to the beach and listen to the water. Spend your entire day in bed if you want to. But take that break, you deserve it.

Stay Encouraged,


Love Yourself Challenge: Week 5

Week 5: Treat Yourself! Week 5, let’s get live! Treat yourself to something amazing! A long bubble bath, a relaxing day at the beach, a warm and cozy night in your bed with a good book (or Netflix), book a massage, go out to a fancy dinner, a mani/

Week 5, let’s get live! Treat yourself to something amazing! A long bubble bath, a relaxing day at the beach, a warm and cozy night in your bed with a good book (or Netflix), book a massage, go out to a fancy dinner, a mani/pedi or anything that is a treat for you! Just do something to make yourself feel pampered. You deserve it!

Share Your Experience With Us in the Comments!

– Ladies and Company

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